My husband punched me in the face

[Helpmetalktomeplease]

He hit me in the face into the stone floor twice my lips swollen my cheek is blue and swollen. I ran upstairs with my phone to call the police but he snatched it I yelled out the window to help and call the police but no one heard/cares. Now I'm just frozen and scared I don't know what to do.... I do but I'm too scared he pays for everything if I call the police he'll lose his job and we'll lose the house and I'm so scared the kids will be taken away. He's getting angry now that I won't watch TV with him he keeps angrily saying "I said I was sorry" but he's not he's cross I'm not over it yet. I just want someone to talk to right now, womens aid were busy, my family won't care and my friends arent very close to me, they can't help. I have no one

This is awful.
I hope you found the courage to report the vicious bully.
I hope you are ok.

@Helpmetalktomeplease I work in children's services and have worked with alot of cases where there has been domestic abuse and can tell you that if you call the police for help and be honest about what is going on, you will not lose your kids.
If you continue to stay with him, and hide it, therefore not protecting them, you are much more likely to lose them because social care when they find out (because at some point they probably would) will know that you stayed with him rather than getting out and putting their safety first.
Please leave....next time it will only be worse.

I hope you are ok? Did you call the police?

HI OP sending you strength. I hope you're planning to take some steps or already taking action. I hope you're moving towards freedom. We're here if you need us 💪

Still thinking of you x

Do what you have to do, even if it feels like the world is ending, you are worth it. Your kids deserve it, so do you.

I thought the same thing.

If it helps, I left. Yes it was hard, but years down the line, and I haven't regretted it for a second.

It wasn't so bad, but when I clocked the cycle I knew it was done. Outburst, pacify me, building resentment (him) (over nothing), punishment.

For those worried, I am too, we need to remember that it takes an average of 7 attempts to leave for an abused woman to escape her abuser. Thats the average. So for every woman who leaves the first time will be a woman who stays for a lot longer. I should know, I was one of them. Fear of judgement, not managing, him making good on his promises to "never let you leave". Lack of confidence of going it alone, feeling that it will be worse for the kids.....all of those things held me back. Not one of them turned out to be true. But it took me almost losing my life to find that out.

@Helpmetalktomeplease We will always be here for you, whenever you want to talk or you are ready to make the move to get rid of him. No judgement, no need to be embarrassed, we will be here for you no matter how long it takes. It took me 12 years, i just desperately pray it doesnt take you as long.

Take care xx

Yes. Lots support here for you, OP. I hope you are okay.

OP, how are you? Did you reach out & get the help?

I remember this post. I was so worried for you. I hope you found the strength to leave. If you didn't do it then, do it now. We're all right behind you.