My husband punched me in the face

[Helpmetalktomeplease]

He hit me in the face into the stone floor twice my lips swollen my cheek is blue and swollen. I ran upstairs with my phone to call the police but he snatched it I yelled out the window to help and call the police but no one heard/cares. Now I'm just frozen and scared I don't know what to do.... I do but I'm too scared he pays for everything if I call the police he'll lose his job and we'll lose the house and I'm so scared the kids will be taken away. He's getting angry now that I won't watch TV with him he keeps angrily saying "I said I was sorry" but he's not he's cross I'm not over it yet. I just want someone to talk to right now, womens aid were busy, my family won't care and my friends arent very close to me, they can't help. I have no one

Sometimes in life you have to look out for yourself.

It sounds like you are having a head versus heart conflict going on. Your heart knows what you need to do.

Be brave, know your worth and tell the operator that it needs to be seen as a
neighbour that heard you and called.

No lifestyle, no job is worth so much that you deserve to be treated in this horrendous way.

I'm completely behind you and trying to send you through the screen the courage and determination you need to find right now.

All my love to you xxx

You should ask for your cruel, unnecessary and coldly nasty post to be deleted. I’d hate to be friends with you and ever need anything. You’re not fit for the job.

Take photos of your face and call 999 as soon as he is out of the house (or as soon as you can get out.) Xx

Call 999 you're live are already ruined by staying with him. Put your kids first

Please call ❤️

The line is you feel bad if you take your dc away from everything they know.. The other side is they will hate you for staying. He has made you decide right now tonight to go. I left with nowt but the dc. It can be done. As adults they don't see him. Haven't since teens.

I have been through DV .

so things I am going to tell you . Nothing you did makes it your fault .

He isn’t sorry - he expects you to carry on.

violence will increase each time till he kills you .

You do need to do this for your children - not only for modelling tolerating abuse , but also there fear their mum will get hurt .

i can tell you I struggled to leave even when ex strangled me ..

I left in the end to protect my child . I would probably be dead.

call them the house , material stuff is all replaceable - you aren’t

Hey I had to say this was my best friend she didn’t leave her son got punched in the crossfire she has had to move back in with her mum to be suprivised and have meetings with social services 3 times a week she wouldn’t of needed all of this if she left when she first knew but she didn’t and she carried on and on and it’s ruined her entire life. I’m not being mean I have been in abusive relationships I know how hard it is to leave but I’ve now seen the impact of staying is much worst.

It just takes one phone call, OP. If you work for the police is there anyone sympathetic that you could message asking for help?

Please listen the the advice on here OP🙏

You absolutely aren’t a coward. You’ve posted here, that’s brave.

Do you have anyone that you can confide in?

I’m in my 50s and having therapy for the DV I witnessed as a child in the 80s. It is terrifying to be in a house knowing that your mother is being abused. It’s never a one off.

@Helpmetalktomeplease have you gotten through to WA?
PLEASE protect your life and your children's. Call 999 and get out before he makes bail.
You can do it, walk away towards a life you deserve!
Then read Why Does He Do That, and never go back to him!

Send the photo to a friend/colleague and ask them to ring the police for you if they know your address

Call the police. You won’t be able to hide your injuries. SS will be informed but they will only escalate if you don’t leave as it would be seen as not safeguarding the children.
I’d also go to hospital if you have a swollen cheek, could be a fracture.

That sounds like a particularly violent attack, so is unlikely to be the first occurrence?

What will you be doing over the next couple of days, that you/he thinks no-one will notice such injuries?

The kids are usually only taken if you are deemed incapable of keeping them safe. Calling the police and getting the ball rolling is the opposite of that.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, but don't let that house become your/your children's prison. He will keep abusing you and he'll most likely escalate further. He's not even remorseful enough to give you space.

I’m so sorry he did this OP.

I expect it isn’t the first time he’s hurt you, and sadly if you stay it won’t be the last.

There’s a real possibility he’ll kill you one day. And by then your children will have already been affected by it all.

By reporting him now, you will save yourself from further physical harm. Save your children from being emotionally harmed for life, and maybe even save your arsehole of a husband from committing worse crimes against you.

It will be difficult for a while. But people will reach out to help you. You will build a new life free from abuse for you and your children.

💐💐

He could kill you. That's really ruin your life.
There's no coming back from dead.

I really don’t want to be harsh but if he kills you, he’ll be in prison for 25 years and your kids will be in care. If you can’t risk speaking on the phone call 999 and repeatedly press 5. You can mute the sound so no one hears the call handler.
Too many women die at the hands of violent husbands, please don’t be one of the awful number.
He’s in the wrong, you’re in the right and you and your kids will be taken to safety.

Another one adding to the chorus of call 999. He could kill you next time. Your kids having a mother is mother is more important than them living in their current house. You will find your feet and start a new life. It will be hard at first but one day you will feel free and proud of yourself. Can you text 999 instead? That's probably a thing: do it. Be strong. Do it for your children. You can do it.

Your life won't be ruined, it just won't be how it is just now/how you imagined. That's not necessarily a bad thing. The important thing now is keeping you and your children safe which doesn't sound like is an option where you are just now. I hope you find a way to get help & keep you all safe.

I wish I could be there and help, OP.

OP, what's worse - him losing his job and you and the kids having to move into a new (safe) home or the kids living in a house where Dad is abusing Mum?

Which do you think will be more damaging to them?

If you can't put yourself first, PLEASE prioritise them by getting the Police and getting away.

OP, I’m so sorry. How awful and disorienting. Please don’t fall into the trap of feeling guilty over the consequences of his actions - that’s firmly on him, not you.

You mention that he’s likely to lose his job if you do report him. To me this means he is a risk to the people he works with/for. And therefore he shouldn’t be working in that job anyway.

Sending you strength xxx

This was my first thought too upon reading the info supplied by OP