My husband punched me in the face

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He hit me in the face into the stone floor twice my lips swollen my cheek is blue and swollen. I ran upstairs with my phone to call the police but he snatched it I yelled out the window to help and call the police but no one heard/cares. Now I'm just frozen and scared I don't know what to do.... I do but I'm too scared he pays for everything if I call the police he'll lose his job and we'll lose the house and I'm so scared the kids will be taken away. He's getting angry now that I won't watch TV with him he keeps angrily saying "I said I was sorry" but he's not he's cross I'm not over it yet. I just want someone to talk to right now, womens aid were busy, my family won't care and my friends arent very close to me, they can't help. I have no one

There’s only one coward in this senario op. A beast that hits women the mother of his children! I bet he’d go down like a sack of spuds if he had a fist fight in the pub.

If he kills you there’s no coming back from that. I was in your situation 25 years ago and I made a new life for myself and DC. You and your children don’t have to live in fear.

Yes I will also pretend to be your neighbour or passer by and call police for you

how are you going to explain injuries to work / kids ??

OP is he in the police force himself?

Call the police for future you and for your children now and later OP. This won’t be the last time. Don’t let them grow up like this. And don’t let them grow up without their mummy.

I’m so, so sorry this happened to you. It is scary now, but it’s going to keep being scarier staying.

You did the right thing posting here, OP, and we can call 999 and get some help to you asap, just dm someone with your address. We want to help and keep you safe xx

You're very brave to have reached out, keep going xxx

DM me and I’ll call the police for you.

Can you dial 999 then use that 55 (is that the right number?) that means it’s unsafe for you to speak?

Does HE work for the police?

I dont know what I wanted from this thread really, I didn't have anyone else to talk to and you're all so kind and such strong people. Thank you all for replying

Christ. What an awful situation.

If you are police and you fear them knowing, what help is there fir everyone else.

You have to do this to prove others can quite apart from the fact that you report an abusive arsehole whonis not only abusing you but also yours and his children.

He has assaulted you.

https://www.policeconduct.gov.uk/sites/default/files/documents/Silent_solution_guide.pdf

Cough and tap 55

Please please be brave for your sake and your kids. Statistics show it'll only get worse. You will receive help if you ask for it.

OP, you’re strong too. You can do this, you can have a lovely life with your children where you never ever have to worry about someone hurting you like this again. It WILL all be okay, but if you stay it will always be like this.

Ffs you work for the police, you know what happens to women who don5 leave, it gets worse, how the heck do you th8nk your kids feel seeing dada bash mum up

who gives a monkeys what your colleagues think, and my guess is all of them would be supportive.

just call the police and report him

If you need a push imagine your children growing up to be abused because they think that daddy hitting mummy is normal and acceptable. You are their role model. He will escalate his behaviour, he will do worse to you and he will do it in front of and in earshot of your kids.

You are strong as well - just temporarily intimidated by an abuser. Please take away his power over you.

Firstly. She said he paid for everything, not that she didn’t work.

But more importantly, can we not tell people who are currently being abused off?

Come on sweetheart, we’re all with you. Make the call, it will be ok.

OP, you won't lose your house;
You won't lose your kids by reporting this and asking for help.

By doing nothing, you run the risk of losing your kids. This can be viewed as a failure to protect them and exposing them to abuse.

There is plenty of support for single parents, you won't be without money or a roof over your head. Although it can be hard to start with. I'm not going to say it is all smooth sailing, but you can do it.

I say this as someone who experienced abuse and had to leave.

If you work for the police no body will know, the information will be restricted so that people within the job and colleagues cannot see it. It will be dealt with sensitively, and you will be given plenty of support.

Keep safe OP.

You're so brave for coming on here and messaging women's aid and taking photos.

There is also a domestic abuse helpline here, the chat function is open till 10pm (I could see from a Google that womens aid chat function closed at 6pm so this looks like a good alternative?)
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/chat-to-us-online/#:~:text=If%20you%20are%20seeking%20refuge,live%20chat%20service%20is%20confidential.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

If you work for the police OP you know this next line is very true. Today its you- tommorrow it'll be your kids. Make that call and deal with the short term fall out for the long term protection of you and your kids. He won't stop at you- you know this, do it for them please.

How are you doing, OP? Are you safe right now?