A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

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I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

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Why are you sending a text? Why has she not got the message after your DH told her no at the time? Or did he not, in which case you’ve got bigger problems than what text to send?

Why do you need to message her? If anyone needs to say anything it needs to be your husband. What did he do at the time?

It's not on you to message her!

Why can't your husband give her short shrift?

You could say “I don’t trust my boyfriend around you, and if you offer a BJ again he may say yes, so I’d appreciate it if you avoid all social gatherings he is likely to be at for the foreseeable future?”

No. Don't do that. Presumably your DH declined her advances so she knows it was inappropriate. Does he feel it was sexual harassment?

Why would you need to message her, what did your DH say when this happened? Surely he already told her to bugger off and she’ll wake up feeling very embarrassed today.

He did

Then what's the point of you being his keeper?

Your husband rebuffed her (I assume), you don't need to do anything. Even if he'd accepted her, it would be his vows to you that would be broken, not hers.

Why are u sending this woman as message. It is for your husband to sort out. Were you there, how do you know what happened?

Don’t send anything. You’ll only look insecure.

He did what?

I am assuming she is part of your friendship group? If so then I can see why you want to message her. If she is someone you don't actually know then leave it alone.

Why do you need to message her if he said no? Also… very few people would make these kind of advances if they didn’t think there was a reasonable chance of success. You don’t often go from saying hello in the lift to “let me suck you off” unless something in the middle has given you reason to think that would be a wanted offer?

You can’t ask her to avoid social events though and I wouldn’t message her

Don’t message her tell, her in person.

Who is this person to you?

Not your job. Your DH presumably told her no (and possibly more).

If you don't want to ever be in contact again, you leave the WhatsApp group.

I think the OP is perfectly entitled to her own response to the situation, clearly she and this woman know each other!

It's not about acting on behalf of her DH.

I’ve assumed she’s in your circle.

If you don't want to ever be in contact again, you leave the WhatsApp group.

why should OP leave the group?!

Well yeah, she's entitled to, but it's a terrible idea and worse than pointless.

You don't own your husband so you can't really go round warning people off him

Is she an acquaintance, a good friend, your sister, a work colleague?

I'd be asking her what made her think she could do that. And make sure she keeps well away in the future. I'd say that in no uncertain terms.

You are behaving as though he is your property.

He is an adult and has dealt with it appropriately, there is no need for you to send a text "stay away from my man" or whatever. It's not Eastenders!