A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

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I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

Hit me with your best ones please

Oh God, this is so embarrassing. Please don’t do anything.

@Atissues I think has the best response.

Dont believe for a second all these posters wouldn't say anything to a "friend" who propositied their dh if they were in this situation and would just stay quite and look like a walk over. If my friend done this, shed be getting messaged and told where to shove her friendship.

Message her in the group chat, if there is one.

If not, tell her that she thought she had more dignity than telling a married man she wants to give him a BJ. You suggest that she takes some time away from the group to work on making herself a better person and you’ll also be telling everyone else about her behaviour so they have help her in the road to self improvement.

This woman has also done something to the OP. So all of you saying he’s not your property etc are failing to realise the woman actually shat on OP here. How dare she.

so I wouldn’t be going after her about ‘my man blah blah blah’ but I’d certainly be texting her about the way she’d treated me.

X, I am texting you to say that the way you treated me last night, offering my DH a blowjob, was absolutely shameful and says to me everything about you as a person and how you treat people like me too. His lack of interest in you is for him to deal with you about but from my perspective I need to call you out on what you did to me. Dont speak to me and don’t come near me again.

You'll look far worse than she will. It's like a dog marking it's territory.

Step away from your phone, seriously.

Don’t, you will come across and controlling, and he will come across as a baby and mummy having to fight his battles

he sorted it.

Rather than say anything just stop inviting her to things, when you see her in public just politely ignore her

Yeah - I like @Atissues message if you’re going to send one. Clear and direct. Most of the others are a bit cringe with the passive aggressive/faux polite compositions.

In my experience of this though she will probably deny it/claim not to remember/claim he came on to her/possibly really not remember. So you can call her out but be prepared for denial or gaslighting, and probably better just to avoid her.

But get your husband to send it…

Initially I was in the camp of ' oh don't make a show of yourself' but reading that this is something she's done before I would be tempted to call her out if it is really bothering the group as its not fair for her to be upsetting people and making gatherings uncomfortable , if the others in the group don't really care Id leave it alone.
If I were to call it out I'd focus an the behaviour and not my DH though.

I'd message her directly and tell her how pathetic she is. You won't look worse than she did, because you won't be lowering yourself to offer a married man a blow job and getting rebuffed,

Message on the group chat and call her out

Sounds like she may see that as a challenge if she prefers married men. Say nothing and be grateful he told you. He can fight his own battles I’m sure.

Was alcohol involved?

There’s no smoke without fire. You don’t randomly propose fellatio to men without any hint of flirtation from them.
Absolutely don’t say anything at all! It’s on your DH to sort out.

Understand why you want to do this but think it might be better in person. Just a simple - 'As we are married any BJ requirements will be handled by me, there is no need for you to offer. Hands off and try to find some self respect and a shred of decency'.

I would message her in the group chat 'Janet, ya big tramp, stop offering BJs to random men'.

At first I was thinking why would you say anything, but the fact she is supposedly a friend changes it. She has betrayed your friendship which is what makes it about you.

I think I would message her privately and tell her that you considered her a friend but actually she has shown herself as desperate tart and you would appreciate giving each other a wide berth from now on.

Then I would make a separate group chat for the other wives she had tried to nick husbands from and any of your close female friends from the group and slag her off relentlessly. - no not mature, but very satisfying!

Don't do that. It won't make you feel good. You won't get what you want out of it
If your DH told her no then that's that. You and he should never speak to her again. The end.
Don't start drama it will just make you feel uncomfortable in the long run. Will become some kind of big deal. There are shit people everywhere. Just ignore abd carry your head high.

I'd just take a step back from her personally, if she's done it to other men in the group I suspect it's more to do with the game, her ego, whatever else than anything else and messaging her will probably make it all the more appealing.

Part of me thinks this

The other part of me thinks say nothing

Either way I would give it a few hours today to chat with your DH and calm down. Once you have talked to DH and settled a bit you will think of the perfect thing to say or not say

Anthony situation where is feels someone wants to 'mother' someone?

Why text her? It is not about you and your property, you don't need to involve yourself in this

Exactly this