WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

Why would you not first ask him why his house is up for sale?

Very weird of him.
I would ask him what's going on.

Jesus nothing like a bit of communication. Why don't you just ask him????

I feel like he will gaslight. Which is something he does. Although even for him this will be a stretch. I mean the only possible answer is ‘I want to move away’. And that means moving away from me 😔

No I wouldn’t ask him, I’d just block him and never speak to him again. Why would you? He’s lied by omission about the most huge life event - so he’s either downright weird, so you wouldn’t want a relationship with him, or he has absolutely no regard for you, doesn’t see you as at all important in his life. How insulting.

I don’t do shit like that - act like a normal person at least.

I think you need to ask him what’s going on, but I agree that’s very odd that he’s not mentioned it to you before now.

Did you live together before starting the relationship or did one of you move next door?

Honestly would people all just ask? It seems obvious he’s been hiding it from me. Will he just expect me to casually ask? Would he see me tonight and just not mention it? I’m so confused!

In which case it’s no loss is it?

I can't believe he had you helping him sort his house out knowing it was being put up for sale.

If he is a gaslighted then just dump him and move on, he sounds hideous.

Yep 100% I would ask

Well there you go then. Weird.

Weird him and gaslight him right back. Block. He knocks the door. What’s going on?

’Oh sorry. Just quite busy at the moment. Will give you a call in the week maybe. What do you mean I’m being odd? Are you hysterical? I’m closing the door, stop being weird to me. Right, I won’t call you now and it’s all YOUR fault!’

OP just ask. If he lies or gaslights then you have your answer. If you don't ask you will forever regret it.

No I wouldn’t ask! Yes he’s been very careful to hide it from you. Your instinct is correct. Block him.

Don’t let him make a bloody fool of you.

Thanks this is how I instinctively feel. There isn’t much of a conversation to be had is there? It’s so sly. I just remembered he was weird when I had a coffee the other night. Asking if it had dripped on the carpet. It hadn’t. It was shadow.

Yes I would be asking him WTF is going on and not posting on a forum.

I'd send him a picture of the for sale sign and a question mark....

If you could ghost / block someone you've been dating for 3 years rather than ask them what's going on then you're as bad as he is!!

We were neighbours for a while before we got together.

Agree. I’d look him straight in the eyes and ask wtf he’s up to and I’d watch his face very very closely.

It would be over regardless but I’d want to see the whites of his eyes as he tries to explain or lie or whatever

I'd ask him just to watch him squirm. Then cause a scene. I'm sure he'd be very happy if you were to just evaporate. It's obvious you were just handy but you deserve an explanation.

Hi Derek, why didn't you tell me you are selling your house? I've just seen the for sale sign! Have you found somewhere to buy?

Yes I would ask, because I’d be entertained by his squirming response!

I wouldn’t approach it as ‘why didn’t you tell me? I’m so sad’

but as ‘your house is for sale. Want to tell me what your plan is?’

then listen in silence to his story, THEN say ‘no thanks, I deserve someone who wants to share their life with me, including big changes like this. This relationship isn’t giving me what I want. Bye’ THEN walk out and don’t look back at his pathetic, cowardly self.

you are a powerful woman, don’t let him off the hook without reminding him of that!

Of course I’d ask! He probably doesn’t want you to otherwise he would have told you in advance. He probably wants to carry on like nothing is happening. Extremely weird!

When have you arranged to see him next?

Won’t he just say ‘I’m selling up, what do you think the sign means?’

I am too shocked and embarrassed at the moment though.

Is he hoping you won’t notice a bloody great for sale sign right next door? That’s remarkably odd behaviour. I would most definitely be asking him what’s going on and why this is the first you’ve heard of his plans. I’d also be prepared to tell him thank you and goodbye unless he has a really good explanation, which I doubt he will. Very very strange thing to do.

Tonight. But no set time arranged.