WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

🤣 well who knows what’s in his head. He’s got too much stuff though. He has a bigger house.

You should never date a gaslighting man, so just dump him, say you don't find him attractive. Don't mention his house

Is he someone that likes to think of himself as quirky?

I'm wondering whether he's putting his flat up for sale and is going to make the grand gesture of showing his commitment by moving in with you.

You would of course be expected to fall at his feet expressing your ever lasting gratitude...

Yes this is what I think. And really I don’t want him to be able to laugh in my face when I ask what’s going on.

So I think I’ll just be silent for now.

I’d want to make it as uncomfortable as possible for him.
Something like ‘I see you’re selling’ and then wait for an answer. He’ll fill the silence.
Once he has given you his ‘answer/explanation’, I’d be more
‘Thank you for letting me know how much of a twat you are.’ And then leave.

Yes this crossed my mind. I think you’re right. He’s carried on for as long as was possible until the sign went up. I can’t think of words to send that don’t make me look or feel like a fool. 😢

He gas lights you
You assume he'll be sarcastic
He laughs in your face.

Why are you even together? Use this as the motivation to end it before he does. Dump him before he dumps you.

And if he was intending to move in with you, either permanently or whilst getting finding a new place you'll have truly stuffed him and can take great joy in that

Does he think he's moving in with you?

Perhaps he's going to turn up tonight with flowers and an engagement ring and to prove how serious he is he's already put his house up for sale...
Or maybe he's just weird. Are you definitely in a relationship or FWB?

I think it's bizarre that you won't speak to him about it. And even more bizarre that you would immediately block. Is this just what people do now even when they don't have all the facts and information? Just block your partner and never question anything?

You are right. I have no words though. I just think at the moment, no words are best.

Maybe tomorrow I’ll send something.

What do you mean by he has a bigger house?

It's interesting that he wants you to know at this point.

He's hidden that he was thinking about moving
Hidden his own house hunting
Never mentioned putting his house on the market
Hidden the estate agents coming round to value it and measure up
Bought secret furniture.

And yet he's happy for them to stick a sign in the garden when he could have told them not to and still kept it a secret.

So I'd want to know why now.

If it's been a secret so far, why hasn't he told you after he's sold? He clearly now wants you to know what's going on.

I think you should make a huge fuss and cause a dispute which he would then be legally obliged to declare to any potential buyers- all neighbour problems have to be!

Yes this crossed my mind. I think you’re right. He’s carried on for as long as was possible until the sign went up. I can’t think of words to send that don’t make me look or feel like a fool. 😢

If you don't want to look the fool , then stop assuming and find out. Speak to the man.

I agree with blocking him and not speaking to him.
He knows she'll see the for sale sign, why is it for op to try and find an explanation. He seems to have very little care for ops feelings. I can't think of a single explanation for this where he isnt a dick so whats the point in wasting anymore time on this.

Post his rightmoove details on here (NC, of course) so that the house gets loads of clicks but few viewings.

I changed his name to Twat in my phone when I saw the sign. He sent me a message this afternoon that flashes up from ‘Twat’. That’s the only practical thing I’ve done since I saw the sign.

But you can't really just block him if he lives next door.

Saying 'i think you owe me an explanation' doesn't mean he can gas light you because in order for that to happen you'd have to want to continue the relationship.

You can decide to end it and ask what's going on.

Perhaps it's been repossessed? It seems ludicrous not to mention something you would obviously see.

Gaslight him back. Just don’t mention it at all. Pretend you don’t see it. Pretend the sign is invisible. See what he does and observe. Don’t react. Grey rock.

Agreed!

True. 😢

Reply: "New phone, who dis?"

I'd pretend I hadn't seen it, but then I'm arsey that way

Out of curiosity, what are both of your ages?

Do you think he's just considered it a "neighbours with benefits" situation; has there been declarations of love, etc.?

This is very bizarre. Is he eccentric in other ways?

Having you help declutter and assemble furniture without mentioning that he's selling out is just too strange for words. Maybe this is a lucky escape for you?