WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

You are wicked. In the most beautiful, cleverest way!

This is awful. Look- the one thing you can keep here is your dignity, your pride, and feeling ok with how you handled it.

Why would you want to see him tonight? Do you think in his mind it has already just been casual/ sex conveniently next door. I know that's hurtful.

I think you're best to not go round this evening. Say you're really unwell and need to be alone. Then you can just process it all properly. You need time to decide whether to just tell him you know and deal with the gaslighting shit. Or just try your best not to bother anymore again with him.

I wouldn’t ask , and I wouldn’t block. I’d just move on. I might try and do quite social things over the next month, not one night stands and wild parties ( I would do those if I could but I couldn’t), just friends round for drinks, family for dinner type stuff. What he has done is weird and hurtful. You predict that if you ask, he will belittle you further, which does not suggest a nice guy.
he catches you on the drive and says why haven’t you asked, just do a head tilt and say well, repossession is very painful, isn’t it, and that is the only possible explanation for your extraordinary behaviour, can’t stop must run byeeee. And next time someone behaves like a dick, get out sooner.

Jesus this is a cold cold move by him. What an awful shock. I'm so sorry OP.

Do you think he was worried in case you opened up the q of moving in together so this is his way of avoiding it? Men are strange. I got dumped once just before Christmas because he didn't want to buy me a present 🤷

The fact you’ve been together 3 years and can’t ask him about his house being for sale, shows this is absolutely not a relationship with a future anyway.

Can you put your own house for sale (Or just buy a sign?). Trying to find humor in a painful situation.

May be, in a surprise move, he'll move in with you. A bit like those surprise public proposals.

Continue as normal until he's back from work, go over and tell him, without preamble, you hope he finds a good buyer and moves soon. See what he says.

Oh and next time, don't stay with a gaslighted. Please

You're not an idiot, and he doesn't sound like much of a catch. But I really can't understand why you wouldn't just ask him. "Why the fuck didn't you tell me you were selling up, don't you think it's odd not to have told me? It's not like I've not seen you lately!" You don't have to show you're upset by it, just confused as to why he's not mentioned it.

It's weird he's not told you but what makes you think he's moving AWAY rather than to somewhere a bit bigger nearby?

He is planning to be your cock lodger

He's treated you with no respect at all.

I think it would annoy him more if you don't mention it at all. He'll be fully expecting you to get mad and say something. He's playing games with you. People saying OP should ask him to see him squirm etc... he literally doesn't give a shit. If he wanted to tell her, he could have said something weeks ago when he first decided he was going to sell, but he didn't. Instead, he's been taking the piss and getting OP to help him build furniture for his estate agent pics. Cunt.

I hope he won't expect you to move into his new place and give up your independence, or for you to beg him to let you into his new place. He sounds manipulative. Well rid. I'm so sorry.

There's no way he can move in with you as you haven't talked about it so it would be very cheeky. Is he in financial difficulties and he needs the money.

Lol at thought of blocking someone who lives next door

OP, just ask him. I can't comprehend being in a 3 year relationship with someone who fails to mention they're moving. Living next door makes it more batshit

Well when you were texting he might not have known the sign had gone up. But I reckon he’s been putting off telling you. I would honestly be mature and direct: say that you had thought that you and he were in a good place, certainly good friends, but then you saw the for sale sign it’s made you question your friendship. Can you explain? You deserve an answer. Leave enough silence for him to give you one. Honestly all this blocking etc will only leave you wondering. You were close enough to be in an intimate relationship, so you are close enough to have this conversation.

Maybe he's moving over the road or up the street(place marking because it sounds bonkers if it's true)

The agents may have put the board up without his consent. I said no to a ‘for sale board’ but came home to find one up, they came back within 20 minutes and took it down.
I would send a picture of the for sale sign like someone else said, with just a question mark. Bizarre not to tell you his plans, you deserve so much more.

No I liked what we had. I have never mentioned moving in together. But he obviously doesn’t feel the same in some way.

The way they can be so cold. Carrying on as normal the last few days all the time knowing he was doing this.

Can you submit an invoice to him for the work you did preparing his house for sale? It seems like he doesn't consider you to be a girlfriend. The girlfriend you would tell about putting your house for sale.

I know this is impossible but...

I wish we knew which house he lives in so we could all make a booking to view it! Snow the estate agent under with 1000+ phone calls !!

I wouldn’t immediately block him as I would ask him about it and see what he says first.

When I moved recently I didn tell a soul until it was a done deal. No matter how close to me.

Are you really not going to ask WTF is going on?

I'd have to get answers, to help with closure.

Or maybe he bought a castle for you both?

It doesn't sound like a very nice relationship if he'd say that to you.

I would say wtf are you selling up? Why didn't you say anything? `What's happening?

Maybe it's a surprise and he's moving in with you?

He’s home now. So he knows there’s a sign up.

I would order a load of manure to be delivered to his front garden.