WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

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Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

Why is everyone just acting like it's normal to block and cut your partner off without one conversation? 😂

I would absolutely do this

Thank you yes this is where I am at. He’s had people over taking photographs. In my mind I am thinking, when was this. Was it today? Was it one day when I was out? The slyness. I can’t cope with it. I’m still ice cold.

I’ll be ok. I’m going to have a cup of tea.

I haven’t blocked yet.

He is so cruel and I wouldn't bother texting him. He knew you would see the for sale sign and wasn't thinking how you would feel. You deserve better.

Speechless with anger on your behalf.

Maybe he rents and just pretended to be a homeowner, who knows, he does ask him

I went out with my neighbour for 18 months. I adored him and had known him for about 8 years when we started a relationship.

I got home one day, looked over at his house and his ex wife had moved back in! We had talked about getting married (me and neighbour, not me and his ex wife).

So nothing surprises me any more.

I'm sorry this has happened to you.

If you’re seeing him tonight, just turn up/answer the door and see what he says/does.

Yes he is good at evading questions. And then saying something nice or funny to change the subject.

I can’t face this though. I just don’t want to hear it. You are right. I need to let this one go.

How can he gaslight you when you live next door? Praps he's a bloke who doesn't do difficult conversations so thought the For Sale sign might do the trick. Seriously, this is about your feelings - would you feel better having The Talk with him (knowing he might clam up or say something a bit hurtful that you'll never forget), or better just cutting him dead and hoping your new neighbour is less Neanderthal? Good luck.

He is quirky. But his house is bigger than mine, so I don’t think he’s be looking to move in here. He has so much stuff. Well he did. Until the last two weeks. I’ve been an idiot

Thank you yes this is it. He will know that this really hurts.

I can’t face him if he will see any of that on my face. Too embarrassed.

You haven’t been an idiot, OP. HE’S the idiot — and far worse.

I'm wondering if he didn't know the board would be put up. I think it's usually optional. Either way it's very strange behaviour not to say anything especially when you were helping him build furniture. Arsehole

I would give the impression that I couldnt care less & I hadn't noticed his abscence.

How about, don’t say anything to him, act normal. Request a viewing on the house 😬

I do think if it is his house, he wasn't renting, the idea of getting someone to make an offer and then withdraw after messing him around is a good one.

Much as I would like buying and selling a house in England and Wales to have the same law as in Scotland.

This would be me. I wouldn't bother with him one second more.

So sorry OP.
He did this in the very early days- about a month or so. Moved his ex in. She lasted 10 days. Said it was a mistake and she had nowhere else to go.

That was bad enough. But after 18 months. No idea how you coped with that. 💐

Unbelievable. There are loads of things on here where I am astonished but this is probably the most peculiar thing I have read. The mind boggles. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

Sorry OP but this isn't a relationship.

And you're not an idiot. Don’t let a twat like him make you feel like you are.

Yes, he’s likely intending to end the relationship.

On balance I think he should have tackled the conversation head-on. But honestly I can also see why he didn’t if he doesn’t like to have hard conversations or conflict, and it’s same reason I would never date a neighbor… when you split someone is going to have to move or it’s probably going to be unbelievably uncomfortable. If he had told you he didn’t want to be with you anymore before starting the moving process, you’d be living next to the boyfriend of 3 years who just dumped you, knowing every time you came home or left your home you might be face to face with him. Maybe you even get angry and use your proximity to show that. If he had told you he was moving but not that he was planning to break up, then you do even more to help him move while questions about what the move (which may not be extremely local) means for your relationship hanging over you unanswered.

He was cowardly not to just steel up and have the hard conversation with you, at least before the for sale sign went up. But this was probably going to be an awful situation regardless.

Be better than him - tell him you saw the sign, he was an ass not to say anything before it went up, and any things you have of his are on his doorstep. Then move on.

Thank you. The tears have arrived now. Going to be a shit few weeks until his arse has moved out.

^^ ‘‘This, it’s his house, his choice