WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

The issue is she shouldn't be finding out when she sees the signs outside. Yes I agree she should ask and confront him and see what he says but it's very strange.

I guess he is living and breaking up?

I think the only logical thing to do is to post cryptic messages on your socials with sad face emojis and ask people to DM you for more deets.

Or, y'know, ask him.

Is he definitely the owner? Could he be renting it and the landlord has put it up for sale?

Since he gas lights you. It sounds like you would be better without him. Make sure he's not selling thinking he will move in with you. Whilst he looks for somewhere. ( which he's not really looking)

Sounds like she wants to end the relationship and is a spineless twat, so rather than say so and try to be friendly neighbours, he’s selling and is doing a runner.

I'd be worried he's selling up to move himself in with you! Without discussing it first! 😳

I know. He bought new furniture which I thought was odd. I helped him assemble it. Now I know it was for the photos and I know why he didn’t get rid of the old stuff just stored it in a garage.

Is that that sort of way he’d normally talk to you? Casually semi-detached? As if he can’t imagine why such a thing would matter to you? Sounds like he’s no loss whatsoever. I wouldn’t be able to stop myself ringing him at work and asking him, in a not very nice way, what the fuck was going on. But it sounds like you’re not actually as close as you thought, if you can’t even do that.

Whatever the answer, bin him and make sure you do something to build up your self worth before you date again. Life’s too short to be a bystander in your own relationships.

I'd book a viewing. Make an offer. Drag it out as far as I could, and then pull out. All anonymously of course.

What a wanker.

I would take a picture of the sign and send it to him saying ‘message received loud and clear’. Then block and don’t answer the door to him. Spineless arsehole.

Yeah, do this.

He's a doofus, obviously you would see the sign.

Ask him FFS! He may well be broke and unable to pay the mortgage so is having to consider downsizing so is embarrassed, or he may well just be a deceptive liar. You will not know until you ask.

You are 3 years in - not 3 weeks. Many people are married by that point with kids. If you can't ask simple questions of each other at this stage, you should knock things on he head

Call up the estate agent and ask about the place. Why is it being sold? What are the neighbours like?How much can you knock off the price? Is it for a quick sale? See what they say. Continue as normal with your now ex bf. Wave hello but be unavailable for the coming days and nights. Ask him is he selling his house or is it owned by someone else ? Ask him about his plans. Have an imaginary super holiday you’re going on soon. Don’t get back into contact.

Will he act all casual and say something like, Oh I was going to tell you….

@ShockedAF If he had told you, you might not have had sex with him anymore!! so that is what to do now! no sex, not speaking!! he can get to fuck!

Do you know where he might be moving to? Is he from the area?

Yes this is it. I will feel mugged off asking. Still frozen to the spot. Had to leave a work meeting with my boss before. I couldn’t focus.

you know he gaslights and you stayed with him?

Yes it’s his place.

Great idea! 🤣

Photographs already online, so he's had this in the planning for a while - long enough to think about it, contact estate agents, have a photographer over, sign paperwork for the listing, and yet he hasn't mentioned it at all?

Sod that. He hasn't bothered to tell you about it, I wouldn't bother to ask about it. I would just stop communicating. I wouldn't block because I'd be curious what he says and how he follows this up.

But I think it's clear that if he didn't include you in a major life choice then there's no relationship.

Do you normally have a good relationship? Seems odd if you do and then he does this. Could he be behind on mortgage payments and have no choice?

I can't imagine why you won't ask him.

He's clearly a twat. He's played you. But you live next door. How are you going to handle that for the next x months while you wait for him to move?

Ask him. Tell him you deserve to be treated better and then tell him you're ending the relationship. Hold your head up high and show some dignity. You've invested 3 years into this relationship, don't let it end without an adult conversation. Blocking him and hiding is just playing games. You're better than that.

Yeah I mean I would ask, in the very unlikely scenario that the estate agents have put the sign outside the wrong house?

But if he really is moving without telling you then you block and move on. After 3 years together you'd expect communication about serious stuff like that

Block. Theres someone else.