Where do all the single, nice 45+ men go?

[OnthetracktoLondon]

Hello,

OLD just is not working for me. I’m a 52 year old female, not bad for my age, in a professional job, like the outdoors, love to travel, love long weekends in London…

I just don’t like anyone on OLD. It’d not the right platform for me and it feels like an Argos catalogue.

I am feeling down about it all.

Left a long, sexless marriage, about 4 years ago now simply because there was no affection/attraction there and a ten year age gap (that didn’t help).

Where am I going wrong?

Just enjoy your social life with your friends. Online isn't the be all and end all, there's alternatives. I'm in a bar and just seen an old skool fella with charm approach a woman in a respectable way and successfully get her number to arrange a date. It was refreshing to see. There was a chance of a face to face rejection but the lad accepted that and gave it a go.

I saw another poster saying that the brilliant men are married and stay married. The ones who end up divorced but are of excellent quality get a new girlfriend easily.
Just a case of being in the right place at the right time and having extremely high standards, as a boyfriend would need to enhance your life hugely in order for you to lose out on the blissful single life.

Aye good point, don't lower standards

Do you do hobbies, gym, running clubs, library sir galleries pub restaurants.

It’s very hard meeting people in society without the online platform.

But you might find someone you like with similar hobbies in classes or dances etc etc

The age gap you mention, what is it's relevance? @OnthetracktoLondon

Plus most men are rubbish …. Needle in a haystack

I'm 40...no answers but wondering the same thing! Feel like I missed the boat a long time ago.

Op I've tried online dating. All I get is ones who just want sex because my wife doesn't understand me 😐😐 thanks but I'd rather stay single

They're already married! 99% of single men over 45 are going to be very strange in one way or another or have been divorced for being a wrong un.

I'm a bit older than you and I dislike OLD just as much.

I think I met one today. 🤗 I've been running with a club for almost 6 years and today someone I've chatted to for a while, asked me out.

There are very few nice single older men out there.

So we shall see! !

Exciting @Meadowfinch ! You found one in the wild! Wishing you a successful date :)

I wouldn't even risk it! What's left at that age are the ones that were binned for a reason!
Get out in the real world and see real people face to face, you may get lucky.

@Honest00lad
He was like an old man to me. We were at very different stages in life.

Sane experience. 48yrs... just come off dating apps as it really doesn't work for me.

Attraction for me isn't all about looks... personality plays a huge part too.. and l want a friendship with someone first... without the pressure of dates.

I have no idea where or how to meet someone as my social life is based around meeting friends for lunches etc. I do have interests - running and gym but I'm a "morning" exercise person, and running clubs meet in the evenings.

I can just hope that one day l will eat someone, but until then I'll fill my life with my friends and family

I can just hope that one day l will eat someone, but until then I'll fill my life with my friends and family

You really need to stop eating people, no wonder there's not enough to go round!😂

Seriously though, best of luck. It's a shame so many of us are in the same boat.

I only joined a few hours ago. I have already hidden myself! It's awful.

You want the honest truth? They are all mostly married or partnered up long term. There might be the odd good one that age in the wild now and then due to extenuating circumstances but he's a rare creature and much sought after and therefore rarely single for long. Its also a sad fact that you will be competing for these men with women in their 30's.

Its simply a fact that there are more good relationship worthy women out there than there are similar men. Most of the men in the dating pool at this stage of life are the abusers, the cocklodgers, the addicts, the peter pans, the cheaters and the avoidants.

The decent ones are usually taken. The rest are usually garbage

Hungry.

I hope not. This thread is depressing me!!!

Surely if what's left isn't worth having, really life wouldn't be any different to OLD?

You’re looking for a unicorn! There will be a few around but they’ll be snapped up quickly after a divorce or bereavement.

I’ve often joked you have to trade down for every decade. I’ve seen it with my own friends and my parents’ friends.

However, I do know a really lovely chap who’s found a girlfriend OLD so there are some good men out there!

Ahhhh...likes don't mean anything at all I'm afraid op. Men tend to swipe left on everyone, and only actually check out profiles if they get matches/messages.

I think the major problem is that by 50 yo there are much larger numbers of decent single women about than decent single men. A good rule of thumb if they're divorced is that it was probably them to be honest, by all means let them prove you otherwise. Men who've been single forever aren't going to be interested. So that leaves the widowed.

Honest advice. Don't bother. And that's not from a negative place either, just because I'm not sure there's any men out there left who beat being single.

Just carve out a wonderful stress free single life for yourself.

You not been out to Liverpool city centre and met the wonderful men?

Imagine if the same was said about single women?

I heard they all keep cats.