Where do all the single, nice 45+ men go?

[OnthetracktoLondon]

Hello,

OLD just is not working for me. I’m a 52 year old female, not bad for my age, in a professional job, like the outdoors, love to travel, love long weekends in London…

I just don’t like anyone on OLD. It’d not the right platform for me and it feels like an Argos catalogue.

I am feeling down about it all.

Left a long, sexless marriage, about 4 years ago now simply because there was no affection/attraction there and a ten year age gap (that didn’t help).

Where am I going wrong?

Well it sounds like you’re meeting some nice interesting people. It’s not like all you get are dick pics. I don’t think anyone at any age loves OLD. It’s not like 25 yos have constant luck on there either. Tinder is literally matching with people based on age, gender and geographical location and clicking on them based on a photo. If you went up to random people in Tesco, I bet you wouldn’t fancy/get on with most of them either.

Maybe I should sit in a nice pub in Richmond (London) on my travels... 🤔 ❤️

Do you have any hobbies where you could meet someone?

😅😅😅😅

I am a real foodie... all my socialising is centred around eating!

Or widowed.

Or divorced their wife for being a wrong un.

Out with the 30 year old women, I’m afraid

I found the apps utterly depressing - very few genuine men looking for a decent relationship.

Have also done speed dating.

I tried FB dating & am finding it way better, much to my surprise.

Always swerve any widow/er. You're competing with a ghost and you will never ever win. Plus all their family are still on the scene if kids are involved.

At that age there are less men, decent or otherwise. The sex ratio is more males to females for those younger than 34 years, after that there are more females to males, the percentage increases as we age.

So someone who has lost their husband/wife young can’t be happy again until the day they die? God, some of these posts are depressing 😂

It's not even the best Richmond in England

As a 50 year old woman considering divorce this is a depressing read

@LocalHobo I totally agree with you - if I binned my H it would be because of things that really pee me off ( very regular secretive porn habits ) tendency to driving rage, can be very bad tempered at times- these are things though that may not bother others-or would overlook as he's decent looking, sexy job, well dressed etc-especially for a 60 year old - they may be a moody bugger too , may like porn themselves etc! So I wouldn't say guys are always single when older if divorced through being a dud - their wives and partners may just no longer feel the same- I expect there are plenty of women who blokes get fed up of too -

@StormingNorman
I enjoy walking and hiking but go alone. Photography too. Swimming isn’t ideal to meet someone. Kayaking, but I haven’t been out doing that this year.

If they are over 45 and not married then there is something wrong with them. They are either divorced because they couldn't make a marriage work, or don't actually want a relationship just sex, or they are used to living by themselves. My late DH had several friends who weren't married, either divorced or happily single. I can safely say they were all slightly odd/eccentric.

The grass isn't always greener

No such thing as perfection

Why? Where do you think your ExH would end up?! That's right, he'd have a rebrand, you'd be to blame for everything and he'd be on the lookout for another woman via OLD.

Ridiculous and just based on prejudices. Would you say the same to a divorced woman that she couldn’t make a marriage work?

Ha ha. That’s true. I frequent the other Richmond more often as I live close by. It’s tough competition between the two! I like them both for different reasons.

My ex’s friends were all single too. All very odd! Never ever saw any of them with a woman!

I'm basing it on the experience of knowing a good many men who really are totally unsuitable to be in a relationship. I've known them for 40 plus years and it's obvious why they are single.

Yes, but sometimes you can be so unhappy and lonely in a marriage…

Right so what about people who have the opposite experience - ie they know nice single or divorced people who are not unsuited to being in a relationship?

That's your experience. Mine is different. We are allowed to disagree.