daughter absolutely devastated after being on end of disgusting game

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My daughter is struggling and won't leave the house after being a victim of such an awful game of "who can sleep with the ugliest girl in room" she was completely used by a complete sicko and I am unsure how to get her help so she can't get past this

That is absolutely disgusting I would be devastated for my daughters. I am so sorry. I'm pretty sure if she was that "ugly" he wouldn't have slept with her!!!! What a load of crap probably just saying it to hurt her because he's sick and narcissistic

That is really awful. Your poor daughter. I've always thought that's a really disgusting game, only "played" by complete low-lifes.

Who were these people? Did she know them beforehand? Will she have to see them again?

Whose wedding was it?

You’re assuming they went home and it didn’t happen in the loos, in the woods or in the alleyway.

which would probably make it all the more hurtful for her

She didn't go home with one they went to her hotel bedroom which was within the same venue. Afterwards early hours in the morning they had a celebration toast to "the winner" and all our family were there to witness this toast. It was horrible.

Sorry, cross posted, that's completely horrific.

She needs new friends, perhaps a confidence boost with a new hairstyle or something and loads of reassurance. I can't believe that nobody stopped such a nasty game once it had started. Were any other girls placed 2nd,3rd? Can she reach out to them maybe as they'll be feeling similarly.

Christ how horrible. Poor girl

Did nobody say anything to them? I'd have ripped into them on her behalf. How dare they.

Can't anyone read the OPs posts?

She's not at school, she is 20 with a job. She met a group at a wedding and went off and slept with one of them. Later at the bar, he was "crowned" the winner.

Fucking men.

Won't have to see them again thankfully. They were part of a wedding we attended my half brothers wedding

How the hell did she hear about this so called crowning? If this did happen then whichever family member reported back is pretty fucking awful too.

God what utter lowlifes.

Tell her to keep her head held high. This says nothing about her and everything about those nasty, empty people.

Yes there was a 2nd and third place but she doesn't know them

Can she contact woman’s aid? to speak to a counsellor?
I am not sure if what he did was criminal sexual coercion or not. (It should be if it isn’t) but they will have an idea.

But even if she cannot or does not want to press charges, she will need therapy for the trauma of it. They also have support groups. She’s not alone, poor lass.

At least read the OP's updates! Her daughter is 20 - not a school aged child.

Can she take back her dignity somehow?

Were the couple being married aware their friends played this sick trick? Can the perpetrators be shamed by the couple announcing that making someone think they were liked to win a sick game is cruel and hideous, and shunning them?

Unfortunately I think this needs a group response to have any affect on either the nasty people who did it or your dd's confidence.

This is not informed consent, she would not have slept with him if she knew it was a cruel joke. She might have been willing at the time, thinking he actually liked her, but the aftereffects would be emotionally akin to rape because she did not know what she was involved in and it would have been NO. And added to that, it was humiliating as the whole thing was a public joke.

How were they not rounded on and torn to shreds by anyone there who had a scrap of decency?!

You're poor daughter. Fucking men are vile. YES YES YES...I know...not all men blah blah blah. But far too many!

Op, sending hugs to you and your daughter x

Absolutely vile, I heard of lads playing this horrible game a few times when I was at uni it’s horrific.

Definitely worth encouraging her to get some therapy and build her self esteem.

If it was your half brother's wedding there must have been several of your (daughter's) family there. Did you witness the toast? Did nobody from her family step forward to publicly rip the man a new one? I can't conceive of this happening to someone in my family and the entire family all rallying around the victim and making the men wish they'd never entered the hotel. Anyone who stood silently and watched is as guilty as the men playing the "game" IMO

Fucking hell. A young woman is used sexually by a man as some sort of joke and teenage girls are blamed. Unbelievable.

Op I am really sorry that your DD has experienced this.

I think she may benefit from talking to a therapist.
The younger generations are getting more and more sick and twisted. My kids are still at primary and I fear so much for their futures.
She can't be that bad as the vile pig was able to perform. So he clearly has a very screwed up Brain.
It will pass. Bless her 😔

I think if my husband had witnessed this about our DD he would have hit him. It's vile and those boys playing this awful game are the ugly ones. In fact the last males on the planet you'd want for your DD. I wonder what their mothers think of them?

Where I wrote she can't be that bad. Reads insensitive. It was a sarcastic dig at him not her.

If she didn’t actually witness this event is there any way of doing some damage limitation? Get whoever told her about it to say that they were mistaken and it was all a silly misunderstanding?

God. Victim blaming, much? She did nothing wrong.