@ShamedBySiri ...another reply given to such a thread by the likes of me and others would be....."I bet his wife is delighted to be rid of him and I would love to hear HER story".
OP has been a loving supportive wife of a lazy selfish man whilst being the main earner.
She has been loyal for many many years.
However, fate has dealt her this hand and rather than fall apart after his appalling behaviour, she has held herself up with a calm dignity, and quietly realised that while it may cost her financially, the future looks bright.
Women like the OP after long marriages, can often slip into a supportive role and forget themselves and their huge contribution to the lives around them.
They forget how strong, independent and capable they really are.
They thrive on their own having been unexpectedly relieved of the role of supportive capable partner.
They realise they have other roles to play....like suiting themselves completely....perhaps for the first time in decades...absolutely delicious!
Often the more supportive and loyal a wife, the less appreciated they are by a certain type who has been carried and coasted during the long relationship.
These men often don't take long to realise that they have royally fxxked up.
They very often want to return to the fold.
I heard another story yesterday when out with friends.
The couple in their early 60's had separated, his infidelity, and were divorcing.
He has asked to come "home" and she has absolutely insisted the divorce goes through, complete separation of their finances as "home" has been sold.
She has said she has signed a rental for 6 months and will not be making any changes to her plans.
She had to leave the family home and will never give him any power over her again.
He is very remorseful but she is not bending.
The divorce will be finalised and she will see what she wants for her future.
This idea that you can blow up your partners life, force the sale of their home and somehow be quickly forgiven for your "blip"...is highly delusional.