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Help. Just found out dh having affair. How do I confront him?

205 replies

Rocketman2 · 28/07/2024 10:58

I want to confront him but how. I don’t want him to weezle out of it.

I feel sick. I can’t wait and sleep on it as I’m going to not be able to contain it. I’m visibly shaking and keep thinking I’m going to be sick.

it’s got to be today. Omg my heart is broken

OP posts:
TeaMistress · 29/07/2024 16:37

He's scum. Your next steps have to be to protect yourself and your daughter. I would be ensuring your finances are safeguarded and seeing a solicitor as soon as possible. You owe him nothing. Are there valuable possessions / documents you can take out of the house for safekeeping elsewhere.

BirthdayRainbow · 29/07/2024 18:54

Be proud you've brought up a daughter up who is brave, principled and loyal.

Mine left after 27 years together, didn't fight, didn't give me space. Divorce came through last week. Kids aren't bothered about him.

roxyro · 30/07/2024 07:08

Rocketman2 · 29/07/2024 03:12

Well I confronted him. I know alot of advice was not to but it just happened. I stayed in control and watched him bury himself.
Hes still denying it despite me reading him the messages he sent her (which are explicit)
The worst part is my dd1 was the one to catch him, and she told me and now feels awful. I’m so proud of her for being so brave.
im utterly heart broken if im honest. I never ever thought he’d do this to me.
I watched him pack a bag despite him saying he doesn’t want to go as nowhere to go/doesn’t understand my logic as it’s not what I think etc.
And off he went.

I posted before that it’s the go to when caught out. Deny, deny, deny. They deny even if caught in the act. It’s what they do.

Stay strong. Sorry you’re going through this.

MsDogLady · 31/07/2024 02:44

@Rocketman2, I’ve been thinking of you and wondering how you are doing.

BlumminKids · 03/08/2024 13:52

Hope you are doing ok @Rocketman2 x 💐

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