Ex has Texted 🙄

[LilacButterflies]

Hello!

I was in a relationship for 6 years and 2 years ago he just disappeared. We didn't live together because I have a child and I didn't want him living with us. I didn't really have any plans tbh, was just enjoying it all.

He met DD after 3 years and was actually brilliant with her, his mum and family were also lovely towards us too.

So on a Tuesday AM 2 years ago he left mine for work at 5am and it's the last time I saw him.

I realised at around lunchtime that I had been blocked. I got a txt that night from his best friend saying:
"* has dumped you. Do not attempt to contact him across ANY channels or his family or friends!!!!!!!"

I didn't try to BTW, I was too embarrassed. I just deleted his number and avoided his area as best as I could.

Anyway roll on to work this arvo and I get this message:

Him: "Hey me how are you? How's DD?"

Me: "sorry who's this? I don't have your number in my contacts"

Him: Ben.

I haven't replied and just deleted his message but shit after 2 years and the way i was dumped it was so unexpected.

My friends think I should have replied.

Why does your friend think you should give this arsehole the time of day? Does she feel you would get some closure/answers? I don't think there's anything he can say that would undo the harm he caused and it doesn't sound like you want anything from him so can't imagine why you'd reply.

Oh wow- what a coward. You’re well rid. Disgusting!

Hell no

Ignore !

Block like he blocked you!!!

Block block block

Block. He probably wants money and/or a place to stay.

Block!!!

Yeah my closest friend said for closure and I said wtf for? It's not going to change anything is it.

What a piece of shit. Block!

If he had started with some kind of apology maybe..... Nah, he's a rude, cowardly, waste of space. Move on.

“Good.”
Block.

And you shouldn't have felt embarrassed at all.

Ben who?

Your friends are giving you bad advice. No contact with people like him is the way to go. He is trying to arrange to get sex out of you. He doesn't care how you and your child are. The nerve of the bastard to do this after demanding no contact from you, and through a friend at that. What a cowardly little weasel. Block block block.

Ignore your daft friend. She only wants you to reply because she enjoys being a shit stirrer. Block him immediately.

Yep, your friends are giving you bad advice. Block loser Ben pronto.

Block him and treat him the way he treated you. He can have a little dose of his own medicine.

"Nope"

Followed by the big red block button

I have blocked the asshole 🥂

Good, what a coward.

XChrome
Yeah I must admit being dumped by his friend was a low experience.

OMG. You're my sort of woman, strong. You set firm boundaries, didn't have him move in, didn't let him meet your child in the early days, didn't run after him when he cowardly and cruelly left you and got on with your life. And and then when he out of the blue contacts you say who's this.
You're amazing, ( me I'm strong but I would just want to know why he's back in contact)
I'm very proud of you

Mintyt
Thank you for saying that!
Strangely though I'm not even curious about what he wants.

Well done! Silence is absolutely golden in this case. As if you’d be desperate enough to respond to a booty call from someone who treated you so very very badly.

I don’t think I could have resisted a “Fuck off dickface” before blocking but you clearly have greater restraint than I do.

I got a txt that night from his best friend saying:
" has dumped you. Do not attempt to contact him across ANY channels or his family or friends!!!!!!!"*

That's absolutely disgusting.
Only acceptable if you were abusive which I'm assuming you weren't.
Definitely one of the worst things I've read on here!