DS super opportunity, super early start. Would you go the night before?

[Teenson]

Son, 16, got a chance for a week away doing some very cool but demanding stuff, sort of a maths academy .
We’ll have to leave the house at 6 on Monday for a lot of train journeys to get there at 8.45.
i thought if we got there the night before and stayed in a premier inn, son would be awake and refreshed the next day. DH can’t come as planned as he now has to be in work. He is not keen for DS and I to to go to a hotel without him, thinks it’s ok for us to go in the morning. He says DS leaving the house at 6 isn’t that much earlier than leaving at his usual 7.45 for school. I’m anxious about trains, being late and DS getting there tired and flustered. I’d like to leave the afternoon before and have a relaxed evening and early night, I don’t know if I’m being silly, wwyd ?

Thank you. He came in and apologized. Now things are pretty much back to normal- except they’re not. It’s like another chip away at the old relationship.

Another row!
i want to keep a list so I can start to understand patterns. And value whether I’m being over sensitive.
on Sunday we have another stupid row. He tells me I’ve been crashing around all morning, too fuck off, and, under his breath so I’d hear,‘miserable bitch’
im so furious and confused and shocked. I eventually get an apology, it’s like being a mum talking to a 5 yr old.
I don’t know what to do.

he sounds awful,. OP. IN case you need to hear someone say that x

I just can’t compute how someone who is supposed to love you can tell you to fuck off and call a bitch

he really is awful OP - I’m so sorry but ducks in a row time!

Thanks.
i think I can’t see what’s normal’ just what I’m used to.
and I don’t want to see it. Cos then what will I do?!

I think you do see it actually.

Some part of you, deep inside, knows that this isn't right. Knows that he is abusing you and controlling you and keeping you down as much as he can. Because he knows if he lets you come up to breathe, you will be out of his life asap.

But he can't keep you down if you don't let him. You can recognise his behaviour for what it is. You can stand up for yourself and your family and make the change you need to have a happier life.

You can do it. You can leave him.

Thank you turkey
am definitely clearer of thought than in an age. And no matey boy, you’re not getting a shag cos you decided you want one. I’ve got enough to do. little bit more effort required!

It's OK to take some time. There used to be some really amazing emotional abuse/unsure about relationship support threads on here, I don't know if there are any now. But they really helped me when I was with my ex.

Thanks bertie I think that’s when mn comes into its own, so many amazing people willing to help others.
Im sorry you have been through a crap time, and I’m glad you’re through it now, massive respect.
will mooch about thread wise. 💐