Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

It’s a standard part of sex for us. I’ve not had many partners but it’s always featured. Not done a survey though.

I have been married over 30 years

Have tried it a couple of times

Him to me - I do not like it, though he is good at it so not sure why

Me to him- I just cannot do it, I hate it, I have tried when drunk but I just practically vomit, I can feel my throat retching as I am trying not to smell or taste, once he came in my mouth and I could not get to the bathroom fast enough, I vomited it all out, urrgh, not sure why as he is very clean

I do when I'm in a relationship

Yes I would say that's pretty unusual, I'm single now but I have met a lot of men in the past that didn't do oral sex but expected it done to them... my ex did do it but no not every time I would say not very often at all but again another one who expected it every time 🤔

Been with my DP nearly 10 years and neither of us particularly like it.

My DH only did it on me once, before we were married. I used to do it for him, but then stopped as why should I do it for him when he doesn’t do it back.

I'm not in the habit of discussing my sex life on here, but I do have a couple of comments.

It doesn't matter what any other couple does in bed.

What does matter is that both partners are on the same page. If you are then that's fine, carry on enjoying yourselves.

If one of you would like to change things then you need to be open and talk about it.

For some people this might be a deal breaker in their relationship, for others not.

Only you and your husband can decide that.

I would rather have oral sex than sex if I had to pick so it’s important to me. I enjoy doing it too. I would say it’s unusual not to have ever done it. But I know some people it’s not an important part of their sex life. I wouldn’t put up with someone wanting it but not giving back, in that case I would probably choose not to do it

We used to do it a lot as part of our intimate time but now with kids we just get down and done within minutes before a kid walks in 😂😂😂

Definitely a very normal and regular part of sex for my partner and I, which we both enjoy both giving and receiving. The only thing I don’t like is him finishing in my mouth (so he never does). It’s been normal (both giving and receiving) in all previous relationships I’ve had too.
We both have showers in the evening so always clean before we do so!

I prefer to give than receive.

How does he make you orgasm without oral? Does he use his hands?

Married 27 years. I’m not that fussed , can take it or leave it. Probably happens 1/10 of times we are intimate. It doesn’t matter though OP so long as it works for you.

hands far better than mouth😁

Could've written this myself. I detest giving oral hence why I don't make him do it to me. Mine stems from trauma though. I'm also sensitive to smells down there too even though he doesn't smell.

Always, and usually I initiate it. But then I've always been sexually uninhibited, even as a teenager.

Wtf?

Bizarre! I wonder why that man took it upon himself to talk about sex to a group of teenagers?

All the time. Sometimes as the main act and 9/10 times as part of foreplay to PIV sex. I do enjoy doing it though.

He has gone down on me a couple of times at the start of our relationship but I didn't really like it so we don't do it anymore. He absolutely would though, if I asked.

Across a variety of my relationships, there has always been oral in both directions at some time or another.

Depending on the partner depends on the ratio of giving to receiving, but I’m very happy with that.

OP, Why have you never done it?

How incredibly weird. Surely you don’t attribute your satisfaction with your sex life to that.

Yes pretty much every time. I enjoy both giving and receiving, but prefer giving.