Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

I enjoy giving, there’s nothing quite so sexy as holding your man in complete thrall. My DH is a very unselfish lover and will stay down there until I climax, but sometimes I find it just a little too intense and have to stop him.

nothing beats an orgasm during penetrative sex though

He enjoys giving but I’m meh about it. It doesn’t really do anything for me to be honest. He likes it though so probably about half the time we have sex he will go down on me.

I am incredibly squeamish about giving - if there is any kind of smell or taste it just knocks me sick and I’ve been known to gag/retch. He is incredibly clean though so I think I must just be very sensitive to it. Maybe kind of once a month I’ll do it for him, and when I do the following sex is always 10/10 😂

Wow, if any thread confirmed that Mumsnet is not my tribe, it's this one.

I love recieving oral. Came 4 times last night from it. Love giving oral, as most men love it and I love watching them receive pleasure that I'm giving them.

I love PIV more, but oral is so important to me.

I never orgasm from penetration alone so yeah oral is a major important part of our relationship. I like receiving so I am happy to give. Sometimes it's just fun to do it as a standalone thing.

I always preferred it to intercourse..
Part of foreplay.. both giving and receiving.
I was very highly sexed.. high libido.
Always searching for my next sexual high.

I don't particularly like giving it, but do like receiving it. My DH does it to me more often than not. I reciprocate when I'm in a generous mood.

him to me - always. It is an essential part of my enjoyment of sex.

me to him - not so important but usually spend a few minutes doing it as a sort of courtesy.

He calls it 'prepping the area' and I would say thats quite accurate. I don't think I would enjoy or orgasm from the following PIV sex without the warm up.

Most times we have sex, which is probably around three times a week.

Both have been a feature of my sex life since I was 17 with previous partners and husband.

Why would you share that?

Been together 20 years. We do it maybe 60% of the time we have sex (which itself is not very often) as we don't usually have time for it these days.

I have to be in the mood for it. My DH isn't the best I've ever had at oral but I enjoy the intimacy of it (both giving and receiving) so that's a turn on even if his technique doesn't quite live up to the Spanish Fuck Boy of my twenties....

I think it entirely depends on the relationship and what both of your preferences are. I like to give and receive - but level of enjoyment does depend on the partner. I do think it’s a reciprocal thing though… not sure I get why one person would expect it but not give it back unless the other person really doesn’t enjoy it.

If it’s not yours and your partners thing then don’t do it … whatever suits the two of you is what matters.

I feel like oral is held high as the be all and end all of female pleasure. It's nice to see the modern focus on women's enjoyment of sex BUT there's not a freedom to admit you prefer other things.

It took me a while to come to terms with the fact it's just not a main event for me. I have to be in the mood, then it's nice foreplay. I don't come from it. I much prefer good old fashioned PIV, that's good for orgasms! But it feels sort of anti-feminist to say that.

A big part of our sexual relationship. Would be boring for me without

Imdeed. Why would anyone share anything with a random online asking personal details of sex acts?

OP. There's a sex topic.

(Considering this is your second post niavely asking multiple questions relating to sex acts in the past two days)

Actually I don’t see what the issue is.

How else are they supposed to learn? Not porn, according to this website, and many women seem unable to speak up about enjoyment.

The fact they were going in with a mindset of how to please is a good thing IMO

It's weird as fuck, creepy and inappropriate.

If my teenager told me their friends dad (or mum) had pulled them aside to give an in depth lesson on how to sexually pleasure a man or woman I'd be concerned that the adult had been totally inappropriate in other ways.

How embarrassing for the poor lad who has had to listen to his father take it upon himself to describe how they should have sec with their teenage girlfriends and in great detail too. I'd genuinely be concerned if any of teenager friends parents did this.

We don't. I have a terrible gag reflex and can't handle fluids in my mouth. And I actually don't know if DH wants to head on down or not. I'm sure I refused his offer in the past and I don't think he wants to ask again even if he does fancy doing it.

Been a couple well over two decades too so it's just the way things are now.

I am always shocked at people (even anonymously) divulging intimate details about their loveliness.OP could be anyone.Gross.

Didn't see this reply, but said almost the same thing!

Also standard for us. My husband actually really enjoys doing it. I’m happy to reciprocate

"Their loveliness"

Eeww don't be so disgustingly twee. Everyone fucks. Talking about it is healthy and reduces shame.

OP if both partners in the relationship are happy then it really doesn't matter what others are doing. But IME it's v unusual not to (both ways)

@LostittoBostik I thought the poster you quoted meant to say "love lives" but it autocorrected

Oh maybe! I really hope so.

I also thought it was a DYAC!

Strange comment, given the majority of respondents do include oral in their sex lives?