Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

Are you writing an article on blow jobs, perchance? 🤔

Exactly......I too thought ''This is written by someone who likely wants stories to wank over.

No way would I write about such things in public.

I can.

I think it’s about where your G spot is.

That poster said “get down and done” not “go down and done” - I think she meant a quickie.

But… given most MNers are parents, I would have thought a lot of us have had experience of squeezing in a shag before the kids woke up/during nap time etc!

Wow. That is…extreme.

I have heard that before!
I think it's just always been so easy and normal for me, it seems so strange to me that a lot of people really struggle with it.

There is a ‘sex’ topic for this sort of thing. To which I contribute, but just saying - time and a place!

I don't like it being done on me i hate the feeling of a wet tongue on me anywhere but I don't mind giving it as long as he doesn't come in my mouth. DH finds it quite insulting that I don't like him going down on me but I just don't like the feeling.

I love giving oral sex but my wife refuses to do it on me (her choice obviously) so it’s sort of dwindled away and I don’t really bother on the rare occasions we’re intimate. She also doesn’t like to kiss after I’ve done it, which puts a dampener on things for me as kissing is a really important part of it for me.

It's a deal breaker for me. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who wouldn't do it.
My ex husband did early on in our relationship, then refused. So l didn't go down on him.
I love it, both ways. It's a huge part of foreplay for me.

Yes, me too.

Some people can orgasm through penetration.

Yep. Agreed. I don’t want endless foreplay.

I’m not married but have been in relationships where we both do it, been in relationships where only one of us do it and been in a relationship where neither does it (when I was married 😬). I think it’s pretty important, 4 play is key and it’s a huge part of 4 play?

But… given most MNers are parents, I would have thought a lot of us have had experience of squeezing in a shag before the kids woke up/during nap time etc!

Yeah obviously most of us have sex.

I don't find the whole sneaking off to have sex with children able to walk in thing funny though. Because people actually do that.

I think it's just always been so easy and normal for me, it seems so strange to me that a lot of people really struggle with it.
This. I consider myself very lucky.

It's not something I enjoy giving or receiving so it's never been a part of my sex life.
From me to him, I get a huge ick around the idea that it's the part of the body he uses to go for a wee and I don't want that in my mouth.
From him to me, I find it ok as a brief foreplay but beyond a few minutes I'm bored just lying there.

Such an informative thread.
If you enjoy giving, what do you like about it?

What’s wrong with sharing that?

What’s wrong with sharing that?

Why would the idea of your children walking in mid sex be something anyone shares fgs?

I do it most times we have sex, because I really enjoy doing it and feel like I’m good at it.

But everyone’s different - for example I hardly ever go on top, because I’m currently overweight and feel heavy and shit about my body, so please don’t feel like you ‘should’ be doing anything you don’t enjoy.

It’s quite simple – she’s saying oral sex is off the table as it takes too long, because presumably her children wake in the night and might come into the bedroom. I imagine this is a problem with many couples with young children.

Does that clear it up?

We do do it but not most times we have sex. It's not my favourite thing as I orgasm better via other ways. I sometimes do it to him as part of foreplay but not to completion unless penetrative sex isn't on the cards, as then it's game over.

What? Your children could walk in on you at any time, be it 3pm or 2am.
That poster said nothing to suggest they are sneaking off in the afternoon to have a shag. They also said nothing about quickie blow jobs, you've read that into their post.

Its not my thing but is DH.

I have done it a few times and let him do it when he wants pretty much... I don't think its 'necessary' at all though. Its a fetish/kink just like all others, some like it, some hate it and some just don't care.