Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

I think there's a huge difference between giving a BJ and giving a BJ and someone finishing in your mouth. Did he not ask/discuss first? Tbh I don't mind the first I have never had someone finish in my mouth though. I would decline.

Sounds like that dad did your dh and his mates a good turn. I'm sure, on occasions, Ingens and her Dh give a little 'thanks Mr Patterson ' (or whatever his name was) afterwards.

Yuck! I can't stand it being done to me and refuse to do it to my DH either. I know he'd probably like it but it's not happening. 🤮
To be fair, I don't like sex and quite pleased that we're older and DH doesn't bother trying anymore.

This is exactly what happened with me as well. I was very sexual in the beginning of my relationship, very generous with foreplay and basically did whatever my partner wanted. But after years of getting nothing back and sex being so one sided it became a real chore and now I kind of hate it.

It's a shame as I remember wondering if the sex was a deal breaker at the beginning but thought I could make do with subpar sex when the rest of the relationship was good.

Op, if you and your DH have never done it, never wanted to do it and are happy with your sex life then just don't do it. Your sex life doesn't have to be the same as everyone else's as long as you and your partner are happy.

How old are you both? I can understand not very often but none at all? It's selfish.

Also I've come across lots of women who don't like giving oral so it would make sense that some men don't like giving either?

I would wonder if my OH was gay if he didn’t like giving oral to be honest. Or if he just stayed as a far away from it as possible before some quick PIV, like many here. 🤷🏼‍♀️

What about women that don't like giving oral would you think they were lesbian?

No because the act of PIV is very much not lesbian, IYSIM.

Whereas PUV/anal is relatively similar (sort of!)

Piv is similar to being gay? Not heard that before 😂

Wtf!! Who was this guy. Swiss Tony?

My aunts husband turned out to be gay, she thought one of the ‘signs’ was that he never wanted to give her oral or pay any attention to her female anatomy. He just wanted quick PIV usually from behind. So it would make me suspicious

I prefer to.give than receive. My ex loved doing it to.me. I liked looking down to see him.doing it but it doesn't float my boat. Was talking to.one of my female mates, who has had quite a few partners, who says she's not fussed either. Each to their own.

Legz akimbo 🤣

You'd happily have a dirty penis in your vagina then?

I'd say if neither of you do it or want to do it then it's totally normal for you.
It can be the case where it's expected, often by men. While they feel little need to meaningfully reciprocate.
I personally love giving and receiving oral, but wouldn't want someone to do it if they weren't into it, as they'd probably be shite. Lol.

What a sad post.

As a piece of logic that is 0/10 FAIL.

That’s really surprising. Perhaps it’s a generational thing? I’m a millennial and most guys have been so eager to do it, and increasingly rimming has been added to the agenda (anyone else noticed this?!). They just love having their head down there.

You don't let them cum in your mouth. When it happens, pull forskin up and nip it at the top. Catches it all and you can hand the parcel back over to him to sort out.

It does take a bit of practice to get a technique that works for the individual like. It's also fine not to want to do it.

I'm divorced and not currently in a relationship. But I used to hate giving... didn't like it at all. I liked receiving though. We both used to use hands/fingers as well, though.

OP, have you taken on board the advice you got off the other thread about your husbands being satisfied with inter course just being a couple of pumps before his orgasms?

Have you had a conversation with him yet?

Love giving, hate receiving.

That's surprised me as well! Never had a man try rimming me 😬 maybe it's cultural as I said. I'm 35 so not sure it's that. But loads of women don't like oral giving or receiving so not sure why it's surprising that some men don't live giving 🤔 I'd be more surprised if a man didn't like receiving but it seems (from this thread and others I've seen) that quite a few women don't like receiving.

Yes and yes. I didn't love receiving until my thirties because I was too inhibited, but I do now. (Not saying everyone who doesn't enjoy receiving is inhibited!) I enjoy giving in an 'it's a turn-on to see him turned on' sort of way, but if he decided he never wanted another BJ again, I could live with it. If he decided he never wanted to give me oral again, he'd be out on his ear. 😂