Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

Me and my husband do it 9/10 as it's something we both enjoy, giving and receiving. Can understand if some people don't like it though, each to their own!

Bloke always must be clean for me to do that. I would not suck a cock that hasn’t been washed.

Also agree with this, I haven’t really had casual sex outside of a relationship but when I used to and in the very early days of dating I don’t give it. It’s quite intimate and I prefer to keep it for established relationships.

Yes to both giving and receiving in all relationships I've had - haven't had a lot of casual sex but not when I did. (But I can understand if people don't want to do it.)

I will never forget the first time it was done to me, because in my naivety I didn't know it was a thing! That was quite a revelation.

I remember reading a guy's tweet about the talk his dad gave him on his wedding night that went 'three for her, one for you' and they both stared into their pints out of sheer embarrassment 😂but it's quite a good ratio (I'm a bit older now and 1:1 is fine though)

I can’t get ‘there’ any other way, so it’s a non-negotiable for me. Most guys I’ve been with absolutely love going down on a woman so I’ve never had to ask/negotiate it.

I love giving. Proper turn-on for me.

Haven't in ages, though, as since having kids, he rarely, if ever, goes down on me.

We've discussed it and it's not changed anything. He can't or won't say why it's changed for him. Occasionally, if I'm feeling extra generous and on my period, he'll get oral.

Otherwise, sadly, I'm over it. It's a shame because it was something I loved both ways. I think it's far more intimate than piv.
We still have great sex. Oral isn't the be all and end all for me.

We are both very clean people and are conscious of that, haven't had to worry about that in years.

It's nice but i can't come from it (only from PIV). Enjoy giving it though.

Not in a relationship but I do have a few partners.
I love giving and receiving. I won't consider a relationship with anyone who doesn't give me oral.

DH is far more skilled with his hands than his tongue.

Does your male partner goes down on you? Do you perform oral sex on them?

Yes, sometimes, but not every time.

Yes and Yes. I've always found it a very natural and instinctive thing to do in all my sexual relationships.

These days I will almost always give him at least some as I find it an easy way to make sure things are sufficiently lubricated before penetration. I also enjoy doing it. I'm actually not that bothered about receiving. I feel slightly self conscious for some reason and find it easier to climax in other ways. DH likes to go down on me though.

Yes and yes. Have you never tried it at all or just not with each other? Aren't you curious?

I do it more to DP than he does to me. Rarely as an individual sex act but sometimes as part of intercourse.
I wish he would do it more to me. I don't think he really likes it (giving - he definitely likes receiving!).

Yes we both do. I used to feel a bit self conscious at first, but not anymore. It is a nice slow build up to penetration.

massive ick.

Actually I don’t see what the issue is.

How else are they supposed to learn? Not porn, according to this website, and many women seem unable to speak up about enjoyment.

The fact they were going in with a mindset of how to please is a good thing IMO

Me too, I’m surprised to hear of all these men who hate giving. Basically all of the men I’ve been with have really really enjoyed it and been v enthusiastic to give

I've met more men that didn't do it (at all) than I have that do

That's very creepy

Yes, but is has lessened now we have a child. For me now he mostly uses a toy on me (my request - he'd prefer to give oral) before PIV as it is quicker in case our child wakes! When we do get down to oral, we both do it to each other.

That really surprises me (despite the jokes of men needing a map!). I feel like that's not really the case, but just in your experience. Mine has always enjoyed it. He wants to even when I don't want it.

Me too. I love a man going down on me. I orgasm much easier through oral than PIV.

I don’t love giving oral due to having a strong gag reflex but I will when I’m in a relationship.

I couldn’t be with a man who wasn’t good at oral sex.

Really weird not to imho. I'm in my 60s and it has been an integral part of every relationship I've had even the short ones.

I only date men from a certain culture so I've often thought that might be the reason but the majority I've come across haven't done it and have been very much against it.

I'd estimate that about 40% of our sessions involve some oral sex, and we're probably about even in terms of who performs it on who.

I've never had a relationship where oral sex was off the table.