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Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

321 replies

Sumspring · 27/05/2024 13:37

How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

OP posts:
Idontjetwashthefucker · 29/05/2024 11:34

My partner loves doing it, will spend hours down there if I let him, I also love doing it to him and it features every time

Lovemusic82 · 29/05/2024 11:39

Likeshotchoc · 29/05/2024 11:29

I actually envy women who have orgasmed from receiving oral. I'm mid-40s and have only received it a few times in my life. The thing is I would love to receive it from someone who is skilled and enthusiastic about giving oral to a woman. I also wouldn't mind if it was a man or woman doing it.

Go find someone to do it 😉. It’s something I could live without, probably because I haven’t found many people that are good at it.

StarlightLady · 29/05/2024 19:26

@Likeshotchoc - I am similar age to you and discovered by bi side, quite by surprise, in my early 30s.

If you are capable of relaxing with another woman, l would suggest from experience the chances of her hitting the right buttons is far greater. There are some significant advantages in 2 identical bodies.

Georgie743 · 29/05/2024 22:45

kkloo · 29/05/2024 05:18

You and your wife probably don't like some things that other people are obsessed with either.

We're all different!

I'm sure you're absolutely right. I'm mainly surprised how many people here don't seem fussed / don't like it - to me it seems unusual, such as someone saying they don't like the taste of chocolate / spending time with friends / having a good night's sleep. I assumed it was a fairly standard part of the majority of sex for most sexual relationships.

Disturbia81 · 30/05/2024 12:43

viciousfelon · 27/05/2024 13:48

I have been married over 30 years

Have tried it a couple of times

Him to me - I do not like it, though he is good at it so not sure why

Me to him- I just cannot do it, I hate it, I have tried when drunk but I just practically vomit, I can feel my throat retching as I am trying not to smell or taste, once he came in my mouth and I could not get to the bathroom fast enough, I vomited it all out, urrgh, not sure why as he is very clean

They can be sparkling clean but spunk is always disgusting 😂

Disturbia81 · 30/05/2024 12:46

MillshakePickle · 27/05/2024 14:58

I love giving. Proper turn-on for me.

Haven't in ages, though, as since having kids, he rarely, if ever, goes down on me.

We've discussed it and it's not changed anything. He can't or won't say why it's changed for him. Occasionally, if I'm feeling extra generous and on my period, he'll get oral.

Otherwise, sadly, I'm over it. It's a shame because it was something I loved both ways. I think it's far more intimate than piv.
We still have great sex. Oral isn't the be all and end all for me.

We are both very clean people and are conscious of that, haven't had to worry about that in years.

Ugh I don't think I could get over that. Having kids stopped him? Does he only get turned on by neat vaginas? 🤢

annabofana · 30/05/2024 13:32

FunLurker · 27/05/2024 21:40

I give especially if he's in shower/shed. I receive but have to be in right mood. DH mid 60's me late 40's. Been together 15 years.

You give your husband blow jobs in the shed?

PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 13:53

FunLurker · 27/05/2024 21:40

I give especially if he's in shower/shed. I receive but have to be in right mood. DH mid 60's me late 40's. Been together 15 years.

Is it a particularly sexy shed!?

CobsNobs · 30/05/2024 15:18

Is it one of the 50 sheds of grey?

FunLurker · 30/05/2024 18:47

PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 13:53

Is it a particularly sexy shed!?

It does the job we need. Lol

FunLurker · 30/05/2024 18:48

FunLurker · 30/05/2024 18:47

It does the job we need. Lol

I have my own shed but have windows so not a secure

housemaus · 30/05/2024 18:59

I've never been in a relationship (or sexual encounter, for that matter) where it didn't feature quite heavily so I find that quite unusual OP but it doesn't really matter as long as you're both happy with it!

ComeOnThenFanny · 30/05/2024 22:15

CobsNobs · 30/05/2024 15:18

Is it one of the 50 sheds of grey?

😂😂😂

Ollie90 · 18/07/2024 15:03

Sumspring · 27/05/2024 13:37

How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

I love going down on my wife especially seeing her orgasm then having sex after. She’s mentioned a few times that she’s never had previous exes go down on her. On the flip side she doesn’t like giving a blow job but I’m not that bothered. I suppose it depends on what you’re both into. If it’s something you’d like him to do then mention it

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 18/07/2024 16:02

Ollie90 · 18/07/2024 15:03

I love going down on my wife especially seeing her orgasm then having sex after. She’s mentioned a few times that she’s never had previous exes go down on her. On the flip side she doesn’t like giving a blow job but I’m not that bothered. I suppose it depends on what you’re both into. If it’s something you’d like him to do then mention it

What were you searching to happen upon this old thread? 😬

MakeMeAirtight · 18/07/2024 16:05

Ollie90 · 18/07/2024 15:03

I love going down on my wife especially seeing her orgasm then having sex after. She’s mentioned a few times that she’s never had previous exes go down on her. On the flip side she doesn’t like giving a blow job but I’m not that bothered. I suppose it depends on what you’re both into. If it’s something you’d like him to do then mention it

Nobody cares.

Miyagi99 · 18/07/2024 17:43

SwordToFlamethrower · 27/05/2024 13:57

How does he make you orgasm without oral? Does he use his hands?

I can come from intercourse, especially if it’s been a while lol

LovinWifey · 28/02/2025 09:36

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StarlightLady · 28/02/2025 10:01

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Visually appealing? We are all different and every one is as beautiful as another in her (“her” because she is a “she”) in her own way.

Although all my inhibitions have long been thrown away, comments like those made help create unnecessary hang ups. Please (l’m asking nicely) consider what type of impact these sort of remarks have on women with lesser comments about their bodies.

yumyumyumy · 28/02/2025 11:07

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Yoni 🤮

Missingpotatocroquettes · 28/02/2025 12:02

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Eww 🤢🤢

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