How many women and men on here have been hit or physically attacked by their partner?

[Nylla]

How many women and men on here have been hit or physically attacked by their partner?

Recently I thought my husband was about to hit me (he was red and angry and raised his fist), but he didn't. I was wondering how common it is. I have seen it in films, but of course have never seen it in someone else's house (and my childhood home was peaceful).

You never know what goes on in other people's homes, so I guess it's quite hard to know for sure.

No, never and I have never thought he was about to either.

Not DH, but previous partner when I was 20 (he was 29).
He used to fly into rages, you could literally see his eyes go blank.
He kicked me in the face which gave me a black eye and pulled all my eyelashes out (somehow!), threw a sofa at me and fractured my arm, threw a bedside table at me, a frying pan... Anything nearby basically.

I never told a soul until a long time afterwards.

I’m a man , exW used to throw things when she was drunk, I got hit in the head wirh a dinner plate one time

My ex. Punched, strangled, smashed plates over my head. Some men are arseholes

No I’ve had a few relationships and never been hit or attacked in any way.

I'm a guy, had stuff thrown at me, never done anything myself.

Yes my first H of 20 years slapped and kicked me on occasion and then when I was leaving him for cheating on me, he assaulted me twice. He’s a director of a bank and a small man, but I couldn’t get him off me when I was pinned down.

Have never been touched by my now DH of 16 years. He’s a huge man, and trained to fight (police officer) and he has never even threatened to harm me (such as raised fist).

Yes, first husband threw computer monitor at my head and would push me around. Relationship after that, the coward knelt on my chest the better to slap me and punch me.
Second husband was verbally and emotionally abusive, threw things around but nothing physical.

Im now single through choice.

My ex, raped me when drunk. I assumed it was because he was drunk. But one night after a barbecue with no alcohol, he was goading me trying to cause an arguement but I was refusing to engage, he lifted the box file from my lap and smacked into my face before dragging me by my hair out of the room and to the top of the stairs threatening to throw me down. I can still picture the stairs in that hall that night, the image is burned in my brain. He then rang my dad and told him to collect me before he killed me. My dad lived 2 hours drive away. I took the phone and told dad I was leaving myself and not to worry.

Stupidly I only stayed away the night. We then used to joke that if I stayed with him, he would kill me, but I still didnt leave him.

It was only a wedding 2 years later when he as really rude about me to my school friends and marched off, I assume for me to follow, all my friends told me how bad his behaviour was and how I deserved better. So that night I dumped him. Tbh I was more scared of telling my dad than ex. I felt so much better after this, even though we had to live in the same house for another 10 months.

I’ve been assaulted several times by men, mostly strangers but also one acquaintance. One boyfriend got into hysterical rages and punched a hole in my bedroom wall.

Thankfully, though, I have never been attacked by a partner.

Absolutely not. Feeling scared that your partner is about to hit you is grounds enough for ending it.

My dad was extremely violent and my mum had to get him out of the house in the end as he was becoming murderous. I had to leave home at 16 to get away from him.

Several years later and my ex slapped me on my face when I was about 8 months pregnant. Also mocking, gaslighting and smashing furniture up, punching walls. He was insanely jealous too. I thought he was better than no man and I didn't deserve the best. He's a lawyer now. I feel like I've been surrounded by violent men my whole life. 😥

First husband slapped me three times over 2-3 years. Once was in the car outside his mother's house and his younger brother saw it and told his mum. She told me not to tolerate it. It was still another 2 years before I managed to get him to leave.

Yes my ex husband put his hands around my neck and strangled me I thought he might kill me. He also pushed me into a coffee table and I think I cracked/bruised a rib. He was usually a gentle man but I had done something to him that caused him to be enraged and I think he felt it gave him the green light to do it. Stayed with him for five years after. I am more angry about it now than I was then.

I don’t like the tone of triumph in some posters who have been lucky enough to not be hit in a relationship.

Also it’s very easy to say you’d leave immediately in the event of violence. These things don’t start with a hit, by the time that comes you’re usually completely absurd and disoriented.

My husband has thrown clothes on the floor in anger (new clothes that I had bought that I put on the couch while I got dinner sorted) and threw a jacket at the wall once in anger. The lawyer I recently consulted said that’s actually considered family violence.

He has anger issues and will lose it over something minor and rant or scream then storm off and give us the silent treatment for a day or so then act like nothing happened. I’ve been told to fuck off or get fucked in anger by him, not even during an argument, he just didn’t agree with what I had said.

I am trying to leave him but it’s very complicated with a special needs child, our house has been modified for the child so I can’t just take the kids and go. And honestly, it’s taken me a
long time to admit to myself that I am in an abusive marriage 🙁

I'm so glad to hear that, @Muffin101 x