Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

It’s the start of a coercive and control relationship I believe, please run and don’t look back. Things will never change no matter what is promised x

This thread's closed and a part 2 has opened.

wheres part 2?

Here

Can folk please read all of the OP’s posts and catch up on what’s happened, before hopping on the other thread and commenting.

Still people advising her to leave him when she already has! 🤦🏽‍♀️

Have you heard of ' Womens Aid' ..a organisation supporting women in domestic abuse
0208 554 9004
A friend of mine suffered similar and she was given a ' panic phone' from Police ,so she had direct line to Police in an emergency.
Her situation did not pan out very well.
No one really knows what happened but she was found extinct in her house.😦

Have you heard of Womens Aid. ???
0208 554 9004

Suck up the £90 Uber, and the lost fuel, leave him and never look back, he sounds like an arse and is into mental abuse, your better off without him.

It's not closed as people are still posting on it.

@Imisssleep2 if you read all of OP's posts you'll see she has already left him, and things have moved on rather a lot!

And they will continue to do so until the thread reaches 1000 replies, despite all the posts from OP giving updates and links to a new thread 🙄

Sorry life is too short to read 40 pages of potential comments from when world and his wife.

If life is so short you can't be bothered to read the OP's posts, surely its too short to bother putting your twopennorth in at all! Save yourself the time!

Do not assume he does not have a key just because you did not give him one. Either install a bolt or change the locks.

You don't have to read every post, just the ones from OP so you're not commenting on stuff that was solved days ago! 🙄Even just reading the latest couple from OP would help. Just go to OP's post and click on see all

👍 exactly!
You can see its 990 posts in (and it's a week old), so if you can't be bothered to read OP posts at least read the last few...... and for ease of reference here's the link to thread 2.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5071400-partner-tried-to-ruin-my-trip-part-2

Never go back there. Cut all ties and take the loss on belongings. You get one life dont let him ruin it. Block his number when you leave and never look back. I spent far too long wasted on absolute cnxs and it is my biggest regret.

Well said and enjoy your holibobs and indeed the rest of your life !

Well done OP! Sounds like you’ve done the best you can in the circumstances. Block him and don’t look back!! Enjoy your holiday! That’s the best fingers up to him you can do!!

Reflect, and maybe when your back look into getting some therapy to work on your self esteem…. You stated knowing that you needed to leave him, yet still stayed, which set you up for him screwing you over yet again. For the last time at least, hopefully! Stay strong!!

OP is already back from her holiday, the thread has continued here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5071400-partner-tried-to-ruin-my-trip-part-2

Btw OP the police have heard it all before including counter allegations from an abusive man. Please don't get drawn in back to the drama. Imagine his with a temper and a child in the house?
He sounds like he is kicking off when the attention is happening elsewhere.
Good luck.

As I always say - there’s partners so much nicer out there but how they gonna find you with an arsehole in the way. Get rid and live!

Feeling the need to fill this thread up now, if only to stop people coming onto a weeks old thread with over 900 posts, only reading the opening post from the OP and then suggesting she enjoys her holiday and gets rid of her DP....

<and breathe>

And if I read one more time ... "it'll be £90 well spent"....

...phew....