Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

Sorry you are going through this, but glad to hear you have packed up all your stuff and made it to the airport on time.

You deserve so much better than him.

Enjoy your holiday!

This! Run Lovely and have a fabulous trip. Never look back and have a fabulous life🌹

Did I miss the part where you explain why you’re with such a person? Why is he worth this? Is it really so terrible to be alone? Leave for your holiday and cut him
off.

He is disgusting

Enjoy the holiday and be safe. Ask a friend to collect your bag on returning.

Block and delete

Have a good holiday op. Thank goodness you’re not more tied to this man.

I had a ex who would do this, start arguments to try and prevent me from spending time with friends and family. Then he would text and ring constantly so I couldn't enjoy my time with other people and relax.
I hope you block him and enjoy your holiday.

Have a fabulous holiday and you can use it to also now celebrate being shot of this horrible sounding man.

As others said, do not let him drop off those left items. It will be his way to weasle back in again. Tell him to donate those things, and I think you should block him on every available platform so he is not able to contact you while you are away. And then you could also free up head space that he is taking up.

If you stay with this person, he will only get worse over time. He can’t help himself and is willing to be massively unreasonable to pursue his own way.

He sounds like an absolute arsehole to be frank. And you sound like the opposite who deserves better.

stick to your guns !

Your roaming service didn’t work on your phone abroad did it 😉
Wishing you a peaceful and restful trip.

Text him that you will pick up your stuff when you are back then Block him on everything. Otherwise you will get your head toyed with whilst you are away,

Ask a friend to collect your things and stop giving him head space. He is obviously going to try and ruin anything nice so don’t let him win for this holiday or anything else.

I think the saying is find some one to build you up not tear you down

What horrible behaviour.

if you reply to his messages/stay with him you’re an idiot! Just for context, a healthy relationship is NOTHING like this. A better man would’ve been making you a little packed lunch for the plane and loading your bags into the car.

Fuck him! Have some self respect, pleeeeeeease bin him
and enjoy your holiday.

He hates not being the centre of your universe. How dare you expect to enjoy a holiday without him OP.
Quite a night’s work to have realised he’s definitely not a keeper. Well done for sorting yourself out to get to the airport. He was cruel to cause such a panic in you in the middle of the night. And now he’s crushed that you overcame the panic and might enjoy yourself without him so he’s trying to make sure he’s still got you where he wants you on your return.
I’d let him deliver my stuff back before telling him he ruined the relationship all on his own with his infantile games and drama.
Enjoy your holiday !

Agree with everyone else. He's apologising now so he can ring/text constantly whilst you're away.

Id tell him I'll deal with your stuff when you return and not to contact me as we're done. Then block.

Get a mate to go and collect stuff for you.

have a great holiday and a brighter life. Guys like this never change. My friend had one. She's so much lighter now she's out of it. She can actually enjoy the build up to stuff.

Wonderful, now Block him and then tell us something you enjoyed on holiday with your friend. He doesn't get to ruin your enjoyment of your precious life from afar.

He's a saboteur. And he has only apologised so he can intrude on your time away. Can't contact you if he's not speaking to you, can he?

He's furious and jealous that you are having a nice time without him. Not allowed.

Do NOT go back to this twisted and harmful man.

@Random100

Hope you and your friend have a fabulous holiday without this twat constantly trying to ruin it by contacting you. As others have said, block/mute him for the time you're away.

If you can get your stuff back from him afterwards then great, but if you can do without what you've had to leave behind and never be in contact with him again all the better for a happier future for you. 🌹

Definitely block him otherwise he will ruin your holiday too.

Don't go back to this horrible man.

Block him and enjoy your holiday. Don't let him back in your head.

Enjoy your hol you deserve it,
obviously make sure on social media he gets to see photos of you enjoying yourself whilst you are away,

@Guavafish1
Good point you've said,

@Random100
get friend or a relative to collect rest of your personal belongings for you instead..

You know this so called relationship is doomed,
He will never change as its fundamentally who he is as a person 💯 essentially,
Behaviour is another type of communication,

He is showing you that he doesn't really care that much about you,
it's just a facade,

Talk 👄 is cheap

Anyone can say i love you,

It's the way they treat you is what really matters
Shows you whether it's genuine or its something else,

Finish with him as soon as possible,
he really is not worth it and he knows it,

As thats why he has to play these mind fuckery pschological games with you,
So you're self esteem is allways under threat and dragged into emotional gutter,

as if your self esteem recovered or improved you would realise what a poor choice of partner youve chosen and could potentially do a lot better whithout him,
he obviously doesn't want you to see or know that,
hence the need he has on a regular basis or sporadically to ensure you stay in your line under his skewed perception manipulative agender,

also reflect on what attracted you in the first place to get together with this head fuck of a guy,

even consirder good therapy..

Block his number, tell your friend you're on holiday with all about it and she'll support you as well. Don't go back to him

I wouldn't even respond while on holiday, and would block him now so he can't bombard you with messages trying to ruin your holiday.

On return I'd send him a message saying you don't want to see him ever again. Given you don't live together, you can just walk away...

I wouldn’t wait until I got back. I’d call him out on his manipulative selfish behaviour. Dump him by text now, tell him to bin the stuff, and you don’t want to see or hear from him ever again, and then block him for good. There are many great men out there. He’s not one of them.

While he’s in appeasement mode I’d be asking him to reimburse the petrol money you paid when thinking he was giving you a lift to the airport.

I’d then be seeing if a friend or family member could collect your stuff while you’re away. I wouldn’t ask, just get them to show up at his door at a time you know he’s likely to be home.

Then I’d block and enjoy the rest of my life not being beholden to a tantrumming manbaby!

Well done on dumping him, so much easier when you don't live together.

He sounds like an ex of mine. He won’t ever change. This is a form of control. Please don’t ever go back. Ask a friend to pick up your stuff if you can.