Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

Go and don’t return. You deserve better

How much stuff have you got at his house? Could you pack up now and leave? Taxi. Drop boxes of stuff to yours on route. Sleep on the plane.

Go and never come back. You deserve more than this arsehole. Enjoy your holiday!

£90? What a bargain to get rid of this dickhead!

Block him on everything and never look back.

Maybe would of been wise to not rely on him for transport as you already know he ruins things. He probably just held out for the free fuel, then let rip. Somehow I suspect this may not be the first time he has taken advantage of you?
Get yourself to the airport by any reasonable means, you have a few hours to work it out if you were going to sleep - do that on the plane. Then have your best life without him.

Find your anger, make up your mind that you are NOT going to be dragged down by this sulky vicious arse any more, get out of there and try to enjoy the holiday you've been looking forward to - don't let him ruin it. He doesn't get to ruin one more day of your precious life. The £90 for the taxi is a small price to pay for never, ever having to feel like this again. You'll be so much happier without this idiot.

I agree with the above posters.

Now is the moment to commit to yourself that you deserve better. Enough is enough. He does not get the opportunity to do this to you ever again.

Channel your anger.

Pack everything you own at his. Book the Uber. Drop your things at yours or an alternative safe place on the way and go enjoy your holiday, knowing you are free from this nonsense on your return. It's worth it.

I won’t make the airport in time if I go home first. I’ve had to go through my belongings and literally decide what to keep and what to throw. Anything I’m keeping is in my checked in luggage (thank god I bought a checked in bag)

Why not put everything you can't take on holiday into your car, lock it up and collect when you're back?
The only thing that needs binning is the arsehole you're leaving. Out of interest, how long have you been with him? Xx

Hes a prick. Leave and dont return.

Sorry just realised its his car not yours. Bin him xx

I'm so sorry but don't ever return to this piece of shit. Can your belongings be replaced when you return?

He always always comes back all apologetic and wanting to try again. He’s just text to say he’s not coming back (he stormed off out his house) and that I’m welcome to leave things at his and he’ll return them to mine next week when I’m back.

I have had to take the most important stuff, my work laptop is coming with me for example, and I’ve left anything I’m not going to cry over if he doesn’t return it.

Dump him. Don’t ever return.

An ex kicked me out of his flat during an argument. I genuinely never returned. It’s a disrespectful thing to do to anyone, but add in that you’re boyfriend is a self centred jealous attention seeking man child, don’t waste your time with him.

Good on you for going ahead with your holiday. Go enjoy yourself and forget about him. Do you post on social media? If so, make sure to post a couple of photos of you having fun so he knows he didn’t get to ruin your holiday.

Does the airport have baggage storage? Could you take your stuff with you and leave anything you don't want on holiday at the airport.

You are well shot of this vile man. Have a lovely holiday

The only thing keeping you with that loser is you. Stop being your own worst enemy.

The only way to stop this from happening again is to refuse to take him back this time. He's emotionally manipulating you for his own satisfaction. There is no excuse and no justification for his behaviour. He's a thoroughly bad egg.

Please strongly consider blocking him while you're away, if not permanently when you have your things back. I promise you'll feel a million times better if you refuse to listen to any more of his bullshit.

You are worth so much more than this 🌺

What a pathetic loser.

He sounds like a first rate plonker.
Make sure to swerve him hard when you get back

This is part of the price you’re paying for your decisions, eg to stay with this loser and subsidise him. It’s good you don’t live with him as it will be easy not to see him again

Sounds like you’re insured on his car? If so, quietly pack up your stuff now, drive off in it to your place and leave the car near yours. He can collect it later, at his expense.

Consider the £90a bargain to get away from this control freak.

Don’t let him bring your stuff round to your house (if he really offers). Meet in a neutral space to collect it. I expect he’ll be using that as a way back ‘in’ though, so I wouldn’t expect to get it back once he realises you are done with him. Imagine living this way forever 🙁

I arrived at the airport 90 quid down but at least I’m here and got here OK. I’ve had to leave a bag of belongings at his, just clothing though and a pair of trainers so nothing too precious and if I don’t see it again that’s fine.

He’s now texting me apologising and asking why I got an Uber to the airport. He has said he will return my belongings to me when I return but I am angry right now and pissed off at his behaviour. He keeps saying he loves me too. I am fed up of this cycle.

He has major form for causing a drama when there’s some sort of occasion. Last time was a few weeks ago at my friend’s 40th. He ended up not going after kicking off about something so minor I can’t even remember what it was. It always starts when there’s something happening and I had a horrible feeling he’d do something like this today, I should have listened to my gut.

I don’t want to be with him anymore, it’s exhausting.

Well done for getting away and enjoy your holiday. Whenever you think you might crumble and go back to him , read this thread. He sounds like a complete nightmare and that is definitely not a healthy relationship.

Text him back saying he should bin your stuff as you'd rather that than see him again as you're sick to the back teeth of his head games and bullshit.

Then block and move on with your life, starting with a lovely holiday.

Well, he’s apologising because his ploy to get you to pull out of your holiday didn’t work. And he’s gaslighting you about the Uber because he can’t admit to either himself or you that the problem is him.

Enjoy your trip OP. Don’t mope over this relationship dementor, just relish your fresh start!