Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

90 quid is a bargain.
You need a permanent holiday from the abusive sod.

Congrats OP ( and I know that you dont feel like celebrating) but you are never going to let him do this to you again. He's horrible and tantruming as a child isn't cute never mind being an adult. You have seen how he tries to ruin every ocassion that isn't about him. You don't have to put up his behaviour for a second more and as such that 90 quid on an Uber was money well spent. He has no insight on his behaviour and as such will not change. Dont waste a second more, get your stuff back, block and snuggle up with a lovely teddy bear. Be kind and gentle to yourself but above all NO MORE, NEVER AGAIN. Be proud of yourself and dont look back.

If you do have to speak to him reframe the break up ( because anyone deserves a better relationship than this ) as doing him a favour. "You'll be happier without me", "clearly you can't deal with me going away for a week", " you'll find someone you get on with better" etc.

Not only is he truly dumped it shifts the power back to you. You're doing it for his own good rather than "selfish" reasons. As you've found, it's hard to argue with people that make it about everyone else but them.

Good luck. Have the best holiday ( block him obvs - data roaming and all that).

He’s done this to purposely try to ruin your holiday. Block his calls while you’re away, Don’t let him ruin your week, don’t take him back. You can see exactly what he’s doing .

Fuck that shit
Don't go back to him please

That’s an even better idea

Ask him to reimburse your Uber.

Then once that is complete, ask him to put your clothes in the bin - or post (if he’s feeling generous)

And tell him he will never see you again and he’s blocked!!!

He needs therapy to sort out his childish behaviour

fixing him isn’t your job OP. Move on and enjoy that lovely holiday

Text: "I got an Uber because you shouted you weren't taking me and stormed out of the house, why do you think? If you transfer back the money I spent filling your car, we'll call it quits".

There's a double meaning to calling it quits there. He might think you'll forgive him if he pays you back. But you're not going to do that are you? Get the money first though!

Seriously fuck that shit. Man baby 🤮

Dump and move on. Use your holiday to relax and reset. Block him whilst you are away. Do not go back to him when you return. Every time you put up with this behaviour cements to him how it is acceptable for you. Show him it isn’t. And tell him it isn’t-no reframing as suggested above with “you deserve someone better” shit-The OP is better than him. She doesn’t have to demean herself to get rid. This doesn’t work for me, your behaviour has been unacceptable on many occasions and we are done.

Everyone has their own standards and boundaries.

Enjoy your holiday. Don't engage with his pitiful texts while you're away. Be done with him. Loser!

Yes! This!

Don't ever speak to him again!
Never

Have a lovely holiday and you can have a new start when you get back

I'd just block him if I were you and have a wonderful holiday without even giving him a second of your headspace. That's what he wants after all, to ruin your trip!

Block, have a fantastic holiday, and finalise ditching his stupid abusive ass when you get back.

Tell him to bin your stuff as you don’t need it then block the fucker and enjoy the rest of your life without him.

I had one just like this 20 years ago. I'm a musician and before every important concert he would pull some stunt to try and ruin it for me. The day I left him was the beginning of the rest of my life. He died not long ago in isolation and poverty. I am enjoying my successful career. Please make sure you do the same.

This.

Cheap at twice the price. Now you will be free and single for your holiday too!

What have I just read? 😔

This man is completely nuts and emotionally abusive. I am glad you made it to the airport ok, but please, please never talk to him again.

A man like this will only escalate his behaviour until he has ground you down to the point he has full control over you.

Dump the fucker. Seriously. You’ll be so much happier.

You are strong.
Try and enjoy your trip. Block him

Block him so he can't contact you while you're on holiday. Then have a wonderful time and don't let him ruin it. He can say he loves you, it's easy to say, but he has shown you with his actions that he's a selfish bastard who wanted to ruin your holiday. That's not the action of someone who loves you. You are so much better off out of that relationship 💐

YOU ARE WORTH MORE

I put that in capitals on purpose. Find your inner self and block him. Have a fabulous reset holiday and walk away.

@Random100 i hope that you’ve arrived to your holiday destination and have got all settled in etc.

agree with everyone here, love your best life, tell him you’ll get someone to collect your stuff when you get back (even if you cba) and block him on everything NOW.

switch off mobile roaming if you need to so you don’t have any calls.

he WILL try to ruin your holiday so if at all poss, phone off and in the hotel safe for the week. The disconnect from him will be so liberating

Hello OP. Glad you made it to the airport ok. I hope you so block him and take this holiday as a new start. Be mindful that he will use that bag of stuff to try and engage with you in any way he can. Be strong and don’t take him back.

Omg... you poor love. Get away from this abusive head-case. He's only ever going to get worse. I've watched crime programmes like this. Stay away from him, you deserve better. Don't reply to him, block him out.

Have a fab holiday and forget he exists x