Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

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Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

This.

This is bullying and controlling behaviour worthy of a four year old. Get rid of him.

Enjoy your holidays. As someone above said, this is a reset button.
Fuck him, the controlling bastard. Block him whilst you’re away and get your stuff when you’re back and make it clear you’ve had enough of his shit

Enjoy the beginning of your new life, free from domestic abuse. A holiday is the perfect way to start it.

Enjoy your life free of that bastard. Consider your clothes a bargain price to go for getting rid of him.

Also be prepared to expect lots of messages from him. After all, if he couldn't you going on holiday, he'll try to make your holiday all about him.
Don't answer his messages. Ideally, block him.

Does he have a key to yours?

If so you might need to "play nice" until you can get it back.

Could your friend go with you to collect your stuff on return?

Send him a message saying you want to end the relationship and he can take your clothes to the nearest goodwill. The last thing you want is to enjoy your holiday and come back to this shit show.

No doubt he has spoilt the first part of your holiday and will be gearing up to make it a crap ending too. Nope.

Enjoy your holiday and switch your phone off 💐

Sound like this holiday has come at the perfect time!

If you really want your stuff back I would ask someone else to pick it up for you whilst you’re away, or (even better if you can) just accept that you’re not getting it back and close the door on this toxic relationship and never look back.

Have a fabulous holiday!!!

Have a wonderful trip!

Enjoy your holiday, drink a toast to leaving him and celebrate a great new future with him out of your life.

While you're away ask your family/trusted friend to change the locks to your front door.

Re your clothes bag, he can either donate it to charity or give it to a friend/family at a cafe etc. Just block and move on, there is no need to see him again.

Enrol on the freedom programme to help spot coercive behavioural traits in future relationshops. Stay single for a while while you concentrate on strengthening boundaries & healing yourself.

https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

Put your phone into airplane mode for the length if the holiday. You can use WiFi but calls and texts can't come through.Block on WhatsApp.

Yep completely agree with this!!

OP, this relationship needs to end. Get away from this man.

I kicked an ex out of my house at midnight. He'd been ranting on about my previous boyfriend. We'd been together ten years by that point and he was ridiculous. He'd ruined a meal out by having a tantrum in the restaurant. I don't care if it was disrespectful. It was summer, but pissing down and he stood outside waiting for a taxi in the downpour.

Been there, done exactly that. Trust me, it doesn't get better ‐if anything it gets worse. Don't try to make sense of it or reflect on it or attempt any kind of closure: you are dealing with someone who actively and deliberately places himself outside the realms of expected and reasonable behaviour at will, so will have no compunction about trying to ensnare you again.
Integrity is key ‐he has none‐ so you hang on to yours. Once out, don't look back. Best of luck.

Block and delete

Do the freedom programme

OP he's saying he will drop your stuff off so he can open conversation and get back in with you.

Hes a gaslighting cunt. He's being so evil as he doesn't want you going out then he's doing the classic lying and making you look mad.

Block run and run some more.

Hope you enjoy your holiday 😊

Well done. Enjoy your holiday, and your life without him when you get back.

Hope you enjoy your holiday OP.

Depending on if he has a key to your house, can you ask a friend or family member to change your locks while you’re away? Block the ex on every means possible, and hopefully you’re rid. What a pathetic man, you’re so much better off without!

You need to block him. If you don’t, he’s going to ruin your holiday. Let the stuff go, block him and don’t look back. He sounds like a child, jealous and petty so tries to ruin things for people. He won’t ever change and he doesn’t love you or he wouldn’t treat you like this. The block button is your friend

Enjoy your holiday, don’t be in contact with him. Block him or switch your phone off. Use this a springboard into your new drama free life.

There is no coming back from this. Try and get the lift to save £90 and dump him after your holiday.

This!

My ex husband used to be like this. Would ruin anything I was looking forward to or any special occasion. It's typical narcissist behaviour and already he's trying to hoover you back, asking why you got an Uber and promising to return your belongings. He won't, he'll use them as a reason to torture you so it's good you're not bothered about them.

It's also good that you recognise this behaviour and the pattern. Bin him off, block him and don't look back. Your life will be infinitely better without him in it. Enjoy your holiday!

I also had one of these arseholes.
He thought the whole world revolved around him.
I really think on reflection that he just didn't want me to be happy.
Ruined every special occasion, I lost count of the number of times he left me in town on a night out, he kicked off and threatened people at family gatherings, even to his own family, he even kicked off at his own birthday party that we arranged for him, he had to be forcefully removed.
The final straw was Christmas after my DM passed away, we had a small family gathering at my DD and SIL house, I actually asked him to please keep it together, everyone was reeling from dm's passing but no, he kicked off, calling us cunts etc, all because we weren't doing what he wanted.
They know what they're doing as he always waited until his DS had left before he kicked off, he wouldn't want his ds involved in any angst.
He's an ex btw, that Christmas finished it for me.