Can someone give a handhold? Partner tried to ruin my trip

[Random100]

Partner has a habit of ruining things. Any special occasion he kicks off to try and spoil it. He’s very childish in nature, tantrums a lot etc etc. I know I need to leave him.

I have been staying at his for a few days so has a few belongings at his. I’m off on holiday this morning with a friend and he’s been kicking off in the lead up to it. He has said multiple times he would take me to the airport, I paid for a tank full of fuel this evening as it’s double the distance that my house is from the airport.

He’s been making snide comments that I must hate him this evening. I went to bed early to try and get some sleep and he joined me not long after. All of a sudden he launched out of bed, screamed at me that I was making him physically uncomfortable in bed and stormed off, shouting his head off. I was in tears at this point.

He has just declared I must go to the airport by myself now and that he’s not taking me. He wants my belongings out the house too.

Sat in tears looking at an Uber costing me 90 quid.

He's abusive. Now's the perfect time to cut contact. Just block him on everything. You don't need that stuff back, so £90 and a bag of stuff is a small price to pay to get rid of this prick. You don't ever have to speak to him again. You're free, if you want to be.

You never have to see him again.

agree with a PP, that 90 quid is an absolute bargain to say goodbye to this waste of space.

i would archive his chat so you don’t see messages when away. Don’t contact again. Replace lost stuff with a nice new version if you can afford it.

He has shown you that he is not worth your time, effort or attention.

Have a brilliant holiday, come back, and then never see him again @Random100.

Hope you have an excellent time.

This is actually the perfect opportunity to leave.
Honestly OP why would you actually ever need to see him again?
He wants to make your life small, I've been with someone like this, in fact I married him. Don't be like me, I only left after 20 years of this crap.
Enjoy your trip and never look back!

You know, I breathed a sigh of relief to read that you don't live together.
The practicalities of splitting is so easy and emotionally, you'll be way better off without this immature angry fool dragging you down to his miserable level.

Block him and have a fab holiday with someone who does actually like you and care about you.

Love this idea! Get the money back off him then spend it having a lovely time on holiday :)

Block him as soon as he’s sent it, have an amazing time away and either see if someone else can get your stuff from him while you’re away or just write it off.

Get rid of this pathetic person out of your life, having this holiday is the perfect time to split from him, have a fab break and an even better life without him when you get home.

Please don't give him any more of yourlife, not even a second.

This.

And as you walk away dont look back.

His behaviour is abusive whether he intends 8t that way or not. It's a terrible way to live. You deserve better.

I’m sorry but he doesn’t sound very nice at all, go enjoy your holiday, ask for the petrol money back, collect your belongings when you return and go back home.

What a controlling, gaslighting, cruel, ridiculous arsehole. Please, when he comes back apologising and if you consider hearing him out, just read this thread and your posts back to yourself and remember what an absolute twat he is. His behaviour is beyond ridiculous and childish. You said it yourself - tantrums. He was trying to make you miss your holiday.£90 is a bargain really for realising what a selfish utter dick he is and never having to see him again.

Edited to add - have a fabulous holiday! Block him. Have fun with your friend and focus on having a brilliant time away and being free of his drama.

This is a form of emotional abuse. Life’s too short to be treated like this, he obviously gets a kick out of upsetting you. That’s not how a partner behaves. Block block block!

I left my house with no belongings other than two dogs and a suitcase full of clothes. Literally had nothing. Stuff is stuff, you'll get it again. You wont get back the hours and months and years you waste. So don't look back. You'll be fine. Live your best life. One day you'll be giving this advice yourself on Mumsnet. Be brave xx

Enjoy your holiday @Random100 take this time to decompress and enjoy being away from the stress this person causes you, you don’t deserve this type of treatment. You know that.

It’s time to break free, imagine a life without him. He’s trying to break your will, break you down. But you are bigger, better, stronger.

Don't return. Enjoy your time on holiday without him. Keep reading this thread so by the time you get back, you will have your head around the fact you are not returning to him. Ever.

Have a fabulous time and a dickhead free future! 💐

This holiday has whole new meaning to you now as the start of your life free without this controlling abusive childish arsehole in it.

Excited for you!

and goes without saying. Do not take him back. Read this thread as a a reminder if you ever get tempted.

Have a great trip

Enjoy your holiday, you sound like you deserve it 💐

He sounds jealous so was probably trying to stop you going on holiday. I would forget the clothes at his and block him on everything. His behaviour is toxic and not ok.

It starts like this, then you decide that it's not worth the hassle of accepting invitations because you know how he'll react. You'll panic over how to tell him when you're going somewhere. You will only go out with him and he will behave poorly, in front of your friends and family. You'll resent him. Trust me. I did this. I was emotionally manipulated by someone similar for over 20 years. Three children tied me to him and he dragged me under. Even now, he thinks I am the one in the wrong and have ruined his life by no longer accepting his bullshit. He can shout that from the rooftop, I don't care any more. Get out while you can my love, enjoy your holiday 💐

I absolutely despise behaviour like this. It is so, so awful. You’re well shot of that despicable man. Have the best holiday.

Ignore him.

Spot on. I’m so sorry @Bingbong2024

Just a thought, does he have a key to your home? Can someone you know go and get it from him?

Exactly what PointyMcguire said, get your fuel money back then block.

This is not normal , leave him.! He sounds like a 12 year old .. how old is he ?
He is clearly massively insecure ! Horrible man

You literally never have to see this cunt again and if you fall for it once more you’re an idiot. Find your anger. Why do you keep letting this prick ruin your life?