**Partner (M40) masturbates all hours and wakes me (f35) up**

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Partner (M40) masturbates all hours and wakes me (f35) up
So we moved in together a few months ago and I slept really badly because I was being woken up in the night and early in the morning by partner playing with himself. I asked if he wanted more sex, which he says he doesn't. I do want more (2-3 times a week isn't enough) but I get exhausted easily (health condition) and can struggle with pain so want to have sex before 10pm which is when I'm too tired as we have to get up early for work the next day. He doesn't like morning sex (when I have more energy) because then he's too tired for work. On the nights that we don't have sex he waits until I'm asleep (probably snoring) and masturbates which wakes me. When I stir (stop snoring or move) he stops and waits and looks over his shoulder to check I'm asleep. This cycle can carry on for a good hour or so, stopping and starting. It got so disruptive to my sleep that I moved out to another room. I miss my partner. I miss sex. I feel like we're drifting apart. I now knock when I go to hug him in the mornings as I don't want to walk in on him having his private time. He acts really sheepish if I don't knock. Is this something that I just have to live with?

Im not understanding how you can say he's sweet and caring. He's looking at other women while ur sat and asleep next to him. He has no respect for you.

I believe a healthy mutual sex life, and a happy relationship in general probably has a lot more benefits.
And realistically considering the issues after only a few months living together they're not going to have that.

Female masturbation is healthy and has health benefits too you know.

But imagine the OP was telling him she was too tired when he wanted to have sex but she woke him up every morning furiously fucking herself with a dildo while she looked at pictures of other men. I don't think he'd be too happy.

Obviously not everyone is the same, but that's more of a typical male sex drive, at least with decent testosterone levels.

Men do physically need to ejaculate was the point. Otherwise it just builds up.

I know male masturbation is generally viewed as being disgusting, but they all do it (maybe less so in relationships if they're having regular sex which services that need).

It's why porn is so popular and yes that is a problem.

He did in the beginning. After talking to him about it he doesn't do that anymore. Now he just lays there and tugs without the pictures.

Exactly this. I think I have quite a high sex drive, morning and night would be great, more if we didn't have responsibilities like work and children 🤣 but it's just not always possible for me to have sex late in the evenings and sometimes a morning pain wank is all I need so I'll go to the bathroom in the mornings when he says he can't. I tire easily in the evenings and he doesn't want it in the mornings on work days. Fyi he doesn't climax in the mornings, it's seems to be more of a comfort thing. On weekends we can have sex twice a day which is awesome. I did ask him how he would feel if I said not tonight darling and then started looking at guys on the internet how he would feel. That stopped him looking at porn next to me. I just don't understand why he needs to be taught basic etiquette like don't wake your partner up by knocking one out!

How kind of him!

Op you seem to be making a lot of excuses for him. This is not normal behaviour from a man in a loving relationship. But I suspect you are not going to take much of this on board.

a morning pain wank ??? Never heard of this.

I would get a load of pictures of Chris Hemsworth or someone else you fancy and when he is tired, start doing it yourself. With a few Meg Ryan moments thrown in for fun.