Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

[Worriedashell84]

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

@Lanterns12828

The have nice clothes, good haircuts and well applied makeup. They are not naturally attractive.

What a strange thing to write about strangers. You have no idea what idea they look like without make up.

If you ever get the opportunity to observe extremely wealthy people, you would be surprised to see that it's actually rarer than you imagine for the men to be partnered with young models. More often, they are with women who you (with your very high bar!) would consider 'average' but are of a similar social level. The women in the picture look quite typical of that. I think you're thinking of the stereotype of a rich sleazy older man with a model on his yacht, rather than the reality for the wealthy, who don't automatically become shallow lecherous old men, simply because they can afford to be. I agree tinder should have been a red flag though!

1. Agree with you, those are not your “average woman” by any means (unless you live in manhattan’s upper west side).

2. millionaires date models, very accomplished women and your average girl/woman from super wealthy family. The thing about millionaires is they get to date whoever they want (unlike mickey from the grease spoon).

3. I was on tinder for years and did go on 3 dates with millionaires (I live in the center of a big city), they did not “advertise” on tinder as such by any means, their profiles were quite “normal” in a dull way ( I found out they were rich after a couple of dates), unfortunately they were quite boring or snobbish . That guy in the tinder profile sitting in a Ferrari wearing a Rolex? He’s usually skint as f-uck And trying to portray himself as someone he’s not, beware of him.

The have nice clothes, good haircuts and well applied makeup. They are not naturally attractive.

Even if that were the case (and I don’t agree), so what? The end result is extremely attractive according to most people’s standards. That’s what ‘extremely attractive’ means. Most people - certainly most men - aren’t going ‘she’s not really pretty, it’s the haircut’. 🤣

We must have used different versions of tinder. Because the men I saw on tinder was awful.

Dating apps show people to people on similar levels of attractiveness and desirability, that’s how the algorithms work. So, that just means you’re not the sort of woman highly desired men swipe right on. Sorry, I guess? Get nicer clothes and a better haircut?

I mean that the men I saw/met on tinder was either odd, ugly, married (?) , or dangerous. Some of them were attractive but I quicky saw why they had to resort to online dating to find a girlfriend. Highly desirable men obviously didn't go for these women either because they were still looking for a man on tinder in their thirties. Those women also weren't on his supposed social level either. Yes, the fact he (the son of a diamond billionaire) was on tinder should have sent alarm bells ringing.

And I’m telling you that the algorithm only shows highly desirable men to highly desirable women. They didn’t show them to you because you aren’t (according to the algorithm, I don’t know you personally) a highly desirable woman. They can tell by how often you’re swiped on and by whom.

Lots of desirable people of all genders are single and dating in their 30’s and 40’s. There isn’t some rule that says they have to pair up before they hit 30, and that’s it. You’re saying some very odd things that indicate a fairly limited scope of experience.

If Leonardo DiCaprio and Zac Efron can be on Tinder (they have been, this is confirmed), then anyone can. In 2024, it’s not a shameful thing or a last chance saloon, its not something people ‘resort to’, it’s simply another way to meet people.

It’s interesting that, if you think apps are something people resort to when they have no options, you were on them yourself. If that’s how you see yourself, then that’s a real shame.

My friend who is very attractive, has a good figure, and is 20 years old tried tinder very briefly and also met a lot of awful men. She is highly desirable and often meets men in real life who are interested in her. The men she chatted with on tinder refused to take her on decent dates. One even said that if he decided he wanted to shag her, only then would he take her to a restaurant. Explain that to me.

You think she’s very attractive. That doesn’t mean the men on the apps do.

There’s the age factor. Guys her age are unlikely to be looking for more than a shag. Older men might find her attractive, but she’s only going to get the absolute lechs swiping right. The average decent looking, successful circa 30 year old man looking for a relationship is aiming for women a few years younger, not a 20 year old. In that respect, she’ll probably have more luck in a few years. 25 or so.

Then there’s all the nuance with regards to how people present and come across in their profiles and in online conversations. If those are the responses she’s getting across the board, she need to review her profile.

People regularly meet their spouses and LTR partners on dating apps, including Tinder. You must know that, surely?

Many men in real life think she is attractive and so did the men on apps, hence many compliments on her looks/profile. However, many of them were just very low bar in terms of personality.

What happened OP?

Those women are of course attractive.

Also I met many conventionally gorgeous people on line and then in person.

One was a dead ringer for Brad Pitt. Unfortunately he was an awful kisser. And to be honest Brad Pitt while gorgeous is not my type.

Also my brother dates on line. He's a millionaire on tinder and other dating apps. He once appeared on my best friends app funny enough. Objectively he's also an attractive man.

Millionaires are not billionaires. My brothers ex was waaaaayyyy too good for him and didn't look like a model. She was adorable though and had the patience of a damn saint. Definitely the better catch.

Did you read the entire comment?

Millionaires are not billionaires

This. DH is technically a millionaire, but he’s just a chap that works in the City. I suspect most millionaires in the U.K. are similar - quite ordinary men who work in tech or finance. It’s not quite the exciting mental picture some people seem to have. We live in a nice, but thoroughly unspectacular house, that just happens to be worth a silly amount because it’s in Islington.

A billionaire, on the other hand, is something else entirely. I’ve never met one, but I assume they’re pretty exciting.

Yes I did. And don’t tell me to get better clothes and a decent haircut you cheeky cow.

I would also assume a billionaire would not use tinder. Why don’t you find an example of a real billionaire to prove me wrong? I’m sure you have seen countless posts about women complaining about the men on dating sites. So do you think all of those women have bad hair/clothes/ are unattractive?

I wish I'd ever looked that 'average'!

I never said billionaires used Tinder. Certainly not in the comment you’ve quoted.

I’m not sure if there’s a reading comprehension issue, here? As I don’t feel I’ve been unclear.

Oh, dear. I give up. Good luck with…gestures vaguely