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Blocked after an intimate video call and now I'm panicking

568 replies

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 07:18

So I got talking to a foreign guy on a dating site 2 weeks ago, a mixture of video calls and phone calls. There was never anything sexual the whole 2 weeks and in fact we were talking about lots of different things, like music , the meaning of life etc. He never once tried to get me to take my top off or anything the whole time. We were chatting most days as well.
However in the last video call, a couple of nights ago, things turned sexual. The app we used is end to end encrypted however in hindsight I'm now panicking that he video recorded it or has screenshotted stuff, especially now that he has blocked me.
I never took my bra or pants off , but I did show him my breasts a bit with my bra on ( I tried not to show my face in that but I can't be sure) and I did show my hand touching underneath my underwear a bit but obviously my face isn't in it.

At most there might be a picture of me with my bra on but showing my breasts and I also didn't show them both at the one time, if he has screenshotted that part.
I should say he was very aroused during the call and actually came during it. He also showed himself down there fully erect and coming. (Sorry if tmi, just trying to get all context in)
If it's a case where he realizes he just didn't fancy me and has blocked me, then fine, I can deal with that.
But if he has screenshotted stuff or recorded anything then yes I would be a bit worried.
So my question is am I jumping to conclusions and panicking needlessly? Would you be worried about this?

I only realized I was blocked today which was 2 days after the call. I can't believe how stupid I've been, I actually liked the guy.
I think the fact that he never tried to make things sexual for the whole 2 weeks made me trust him and actually it was sort of me who initiated it in the last call as I really fancied him. He also works in IT which makes me worry more as he is IT savvy.
I am never ever doing an intimate video call with anyone ever again.

So should I just forget about this awful judgement call and vow to never do anything like this again or should I actually be worried?
I think the fact that he has blocked me has made me think he has done or is doing something sinister.
Sorry for the ramble,, I'm just actually panicking this morning

OP posts:
FiveShelties · 30/03/2024 08:03

Letsjustswoosh · 30/03/2024 08:00

A picture of him with his dad in hospital sounds like huge red flags waving OP, it sounds like you’re going to be scammed.

I think jumping to the worst possible outcome would be good OP.

Toddlerteaplease · 30/03/2024 08:03

If it's FaceTime I think it tells you if the other person has taken a screen shot. Not sure if watsapp does the same.

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Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:03

@Letsjustswoosh he had told me about 5 days ago that his dad was getting heart surgery so I sort of knew

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Lovelyview · 30/03/2024 08:05

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:03

@Letsjustswoosh he had told me about 5 days ago that his dad was getting heart surgery so I sort of knew

Just don't send him any money.

Ellerby83 · 30/03/2024 08:05

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:03

@Letsjustswoosh he had told me about 5 days ago that his dad was getting heart surgery so I sort of knew

That still doesn't mean it's true.

sassyduck · 30/03/2024 08:07

Please be careful. It does sound quite odd. Don't send any money!!

determinedtomakethiswork · 30/03/2024 08:08

I would back away from this man very very quickly. For one thing he's in Morocco and the chance of future with him is extremely slim especially as if he is a different religion to you.

I was going to say that if he had ill intentions he would've suggested talking to you again and again until you are completely naked.

Does he know your full name?

Josette77 · 30/03/2024 08:10

Nope.

This screams scammer.

Do not engage with him op.

He's setting you up for money.

How did you meet each other on a dating site?

Did he ask you to Whatsapp?

AgnesX · 30/03/2024 08:11

Moral of that story is don't do anything online that you wouldn't want anyone to know about or want to be in the public domain.

Where do you now expect this relationship to go??

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Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:11

Don't worry I won't be sending him any money.
@determinedtomakethiswork he doesn't know my full name. We met on International Cupid

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Jellyx · 30/03/2024 08:13

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 07:27

@lizzielizard he's actually Muslim and told me he was a virgin, he's 28. I find it hard to believe he's a virgin to be honest. But interesting that you mention the religion thing, I never thought of that

It's Ramadan - where Muslims are supposed to be more mindful of their interactions. He's potentially ashamed and also concerned he's been screen recorded. I suspect that's why he's blocked you. I doubt he'll try blackmail you given 'revenge poem' laws.

I won't say ''oh forget about this..'' as I genuinely think you should reflect on your own behaviour and consequences. Unworn recommend getting sexual (in any form) with someone after 2weeks (that's so little time!)

harriethoyle · 30/03/2024 08:13

Please stop being so naive. There's a string of red bunting waving near your face and you appear totally oblivious. Don't sext or video call strangers. Don't be so credulous. Don't send any money. Block and spend some time thinking about how to get a fulfilling RL relationship rather than video calling strangers in different countries.

MinnieCauldwell · 30/03/2024 08:13

Sick relative is the usual scam, followed by him saying he is coming over but suddenly arrested at the airport as wrong visa and needs money to be released....
Sorry Op, I would stop it now.

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Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:17

I genuinely believe his father is sick, he's just showed me a picture of him with his dad all hooked up. I told him I hadn't heard from him and he wrote back that he's been to visit his dad and sent me a photo

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JJathome · 30/03/2024 08:17

Goodness op. What on earth are ypu doing and why? This is so desperate and Ill advised. You know full well why he is targeting a British woman and he will also think poorly of you being Muslim, the fact he engaged too won’t be an issue for him. Just stop this now. It’s going no where good.

WandaWonder · 30/03/2024 08:18

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:17

I genuinely believe his father is sick, he's just showed me a picture of him with his dad all hooked up. I told him I hadn't heard from him and he wrote back that he's been to visit his dad and sent me a photo

Naive is not the word, deliberately obtuse might be closer

But you know all this

ilikeeggs · 30/03/2024 08:19

He lives in Morocco and is Muslim, not sure why you’re pursuing him.

Nevermindtheteacaps · 30/03/2024 08:19

VanCleefArpels · 30/03/2024 07:55

Tread carefully OP. The picture with his “Dad” in hospital can be the start of romance fraud, seeking help with costs etc. what’s to be gained from pursuing this relationship with someone in Morocco??

Yea exactly this. He's lied to you (he's not a muslim, as everything he did with you is prohibited) and made you feel vulnerable. Perfect timing for the asking for money to start.

Block
And walk away.

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Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:20

I don't think I'm that naive, maybe a bit. If he was to start asking for money for his dad, I would know I'm being scammed and would obviously just block him. Until that happens I'm going to take him at face value

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Knackeredhamster · 30/03/2024 08:20

Oh come on. The hospital photo could be as old as the hills and no doubt you're not the first one he has sent it too.

Yeah why did you think you were blocked rather than it u delivered.

I'm not tech at all so what's the difference?

Axx · 30/03/2024 08:20

If he's a Muslims he's not being a very good one

SameSameButDeliverance · 30/03/2024 08:21

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:17

I genuinely believe his father is sick, he's just showed me a picture of him with his dad all hooked up. I told him I hadn't heard from him and he wrote back that he's been to visit his dad and sent me a photo

With kindness OP, do you not recall the recent furore about the photo of the Princess of Wales? It’s entirely possible and probable that the picture is photoshopped.

Nevermindtheteacaps · 30/03/2024 08:21

Worriedashell84 · 30/03/2024 08:17

I genuinely believe his father is sick, he's just showed me a picture of him with his dad all hooked up. I told him I hadn't heard from him and he wrote back that he's been to visit his dad and sent me a photo

Oh FGS it is extremely easy to fake pictures,

This. Is. A.scam.

He has ALREADY lied to you be pretending to be religious + then he blocked you for 2 days to unsettle you.

Kitkat94 · 30/03/2024 08:21

This sounds textbook scammer. Then the photo of the Dad in hospital.... you are already hooked in! Don't send any money, cut contact now before you get in too deep. There was a story not long ago about a very similiar situation with the hospital situation, and the woman sent a load of money because she thoughts the photos were 'hard evidence', none of it was true and she never heard from him again after the money was received. Please be careful x

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