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Why is ex husband angry all the time, yet he married OW?

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pinkslippers2023 · 29/12/2023 19:02

Ex husband left me for OW. Married her and had two more children. Needless to say, the end of a long marriage was painful in the extreme, but it was 7 years ago now and I'm totally out the other side and very happy with my life.
That said, the ex husband seems to be full of rage towards me for some weird reason, considering it was HE who had the affair and left the family. He makes snidey comments to our kids about me and if I bump into him in the local area, he literally grimaces and looks like he'd like to rip my head off!
What the hell could be going on?

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CharlotteRumpling · 30/12/2023 10:54

No sex is good enough to make up for soft play at 56 when you could be doing a relaxed child free weekend in Paris!

I know so many men like this. Dumped the nagging, boring old wife and then found the new wife is exactly the same. Because, you know, life is different from dating.

wronginalltherightways · 30/12/2023 10:57

Unless he's truly wealthy and can pay for help (sitters, cleaners, etc), he'll be working and parenting himself into the ground. I'm guessing it's the latter ... on top of having a significant chunk of his pension and assets rightfully gone to OP after their own long marriage. So he has to keep working full time to support his new family, and account for every minute to his new wife who was the 'OW' and knows exactly what she's married ... a cheater.

Imagine he's projecting his idiocy onto OP who is probably having a lovely life now that her cheating ex is well out of it.

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pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:06

I'm laughing so hard at these comments!
He missed our grown up child's graduation because he 'had to' go to Peppa Pig world instead.
This has become an in house joke now !

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Paul2023 · 30/12/2023 11:07

I wouldn’t be surprised if his second marriage goes pair shaped in a few years or his new wife gets rid off him.
But she won’t yet because the kids are young and she needs him to parent.

So he’ll be in his 60s , potentially paying child maintenance towards his two kids , or atleast paying off his second wife.

Ive missed what the OP said , is her ex husbands new wife younger or the same age as him ? Is she 56 too?

56 with two young kids isnt fun I’d imagine.

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pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

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TrashedSofa · 30/12/2023 11:10

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:06

I'm laughing so hard at these comments!
He missed our grown up child's graduation because he 'had to' go to Peppa Pig world instead.
This has become an in house joke now !

Really? Words fail me!

DeeLusional · 30/12/2023 11:12

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

And if the new marriage does fail, he will be back knocking on OP's door trying to get back in.

NonPlayerCharacter · 30/12/2023 11:13

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

Oh for fuck's sake!

CharlotteRumpling · 30/12/2023 11:16

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:06

I'm laughing so hard at these comments!
He missed our grown up child's graduation because he 'had to' go to Peppa Pig world instead.
This has become an in house joke now !

😂😂😂

justasking111 · 30/12/2023 11:19

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

Husbands widowed friend married a young Asian. At first all the men were lucky bugger. As time passed he dropped out of anything she didn't approve of. Luckily he was childless, wealthy, because she was very demanding, childlike really. His old male friends soon stopped envying him their wives had nothing in common being 50 +

Poor sod died last year so he's at peace now.

Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:21

NonPlayerCharacter · 30/12/2023 10:47

Ex is 56. Kids are 27,25,5 and 2

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Couldn't have put it better myself! 😁

Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:23

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:06

I'm laughing so hard at these comments!
He missed our grown up child's graduation because he 'had to' go to Peppa Pig world instead.
This has become an in house joke now !

Be fair . . . Peppa Pig has her charms . . .

<snigger>

NonPlayerCharacter · 30/12/2023 11:25

Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:23

Be fair . . . Peppa Pig has her charms . . .

<snigger>

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She'll be wife number 3. She's the right age.

JackieQueen · 30/12/2023 11:26

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

He's like a walking cliche isn't he!! 😂😂

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Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:27

NonPlayerCharacter · 30/12/2023 11:25

She'll be wife number 3. She's the right age.

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😂😂😂

Mywhoopdeedoo · 30/12/2023 11:28

He’s fucked and he knows it

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Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:32

Mywhoopdeedoo · 30/12/2023 11:28

He’s fucked and he knows it

And blamesOP for it - she should have FOUGHT for him . . . FOUGHT like. TIGRESS!!!

If she had really loved him, she would never have let him go!

NEVER!

She didn't care . . . and look what has happened.

It's your fault @pinkslippers2023 . I don't know how you sleep at night*

*Soundly, without being woken by shrill, piercing, tiny voices demanding stuff, I imagine

DeeLusional · 30/12/2023 11:32

TheaBrandt · 30/12/2023 10:48

Dear god he will be parenting until he drops. Assume the sex is incredible to make up for that.

Very much doubt there's much sex at all now. If any.

wronginalltherightways · 30/12/2023 11:39

pinkslippers2023 · 30/12/2023 11:09

New wife is 19 years younger and from Asia. Newish to the UK.

So he's a walking cliche. And she'll divorce him after the 10 year mark and take everything.

What an idiot.

Emotionalsupportviper · 30/12/2023 11:45

Which will be why she's hanging on to him like grim death @wronginalltherightways - to make sure he doesn't find a sympathetic shoulder to cry on before she's finished with him.

I almost admire her tenacity. He can't be pleasant to live with.

ChihuahuasREvil · 30/12/2023 12:01

He got what he wanted, which was to stick his dick in a younger woman, but unfortunately younger women 10 to want to have kids. Now while you’re enjoying life with more freedom and grown-up kids, he’s chasing toddlers around and not getting to stick his dick in the younger woman, who is now exhausted and feeling very unsexy indeed. Now what he’s left with is just a slightly younger version of his ex-wife, but without the freedom and no doubt financial advantages that comes with having grown-up kids.

JFDIYOLO · 30/12/2023 12:07

So he'll be approaching 70 just as they're navigating adolescence, with an unpleasant spatty father and a suspicious mother. He'll love that.

Poor kids, tho.

Winter3000 · 30/12/2023 12:11

I see he has a second set of very young kids. That's another reason why he's angry.
He hates being back to nappies. And the time and expense of a second family. That will be a big part of his problem. You're free of all that.

I hope all his orgasms with her were worth it. Doubt it though.