No real point to this. Got text meant for golden child sister

[Narcfamilies]

Been very LC with my family for a few years now. Mother is narcissistic and I was horrendously abused as a child teen and young adult emotionally financially and physically. One sibling golden child other just a bystander / tool when needed . Mother and sister managed to maintain a perfect public image to this day so I don’t see wider family / family friends.

When I got out I was just very low contact. So I basically send texts on special occasions or other rare times (so maybe 3/4 times a year)

I had text my mother last week as it was her 75mg birthday. She never even bothers to send my dc birthday cards but I thought it’s her 75th it won’t hurt . I text ‘Happy Birthday hope you have a lovely day. Hope you’ve been well we are all good kids well and happy etc etc’

shes not the best with tech and i got a message back almost immediately with a screenshot saying ‘She’s sent this don’t worry I won’t reply just letting you know she sent it first I haven’t started it just like you said. She won’t be able to say or prove we had any kind of relationship / contact so don’t worry about that. I won’t mention the kids as I know yours are the priority. Will keep you updated xxxx’
its not that I’m hurt I’m just pissed off and can’t understand why they act like this !

And why the comment about proving any kind of relationship??! I don’t want to do that makes no sense

Just frustrated that they carry this on

She deleted it about 15 mins later (but I’d screenshot it) 😂

Something to do with inheritance I expect.

Ps sorry you’re having to deal with all this x

Probably plotting about her estate. Would continue to ignore them @Narcfamilies

I'd reply, with the screenshot just saying "cunt" "nice".

But that makes no sense to me as I was under the impression you can leave anyone out and there’s nothing they can do anyway so proving a relationship isn’t going to help ? I found it really weird

It will be around inheritance and you being cut off of her will. They have made plans so that you can’t contest it.

If she’s 75, I’d also be thinking along the lines of her writing her will, or amending it.

She is leaving you out of her will and is trying to ensure that you can’t contest it.

they both sound awful people! Well done for getting out!

How awful.

I'm so sorry, op. What horrible, dreadful people. Block them all and never look back.

So sorry op sending virtual hugs. I don’t know why people treat family especially their offspring so bad

I was under the impression you can’t contest anyway unless you’ve been financially supported by the person who passed away up till their death?
If they are stressing about it though that does give me some satisfaction. They are pathetic

Oh OP I would find that really upsetting.

They are talking about cutting you out of the will. And are worried that you will prove you were in contact so can contest it.

Bonkers as in England that isn’t grounds for contesting a will but it is all about power. While you golden sister gets all the favour she is also being manipulated and this is part of it, it is a power game of your mum’s to keep the golden sister under control and in the role of favourite child.

I would drop from LC to NC, they don’t deserve any of your time orheadspace. Some people are just vile and you can’t change that.

Laws are different in Scotland for this, are you in Scotland by any chance?

Time to go NC. Seriously don't dignify that with a response and never contact them again.

That's awful, I'm sorry op

I'd make a family chat including all your family members and post the screenshot.

Tell them both to fuck off and never have a thing to do with either of them again

Out of not off of 😳

Basically trying to prove you don’t have a relationship with her so that’s why she’s not leaving you anything. I would go completely NC but wouldn’t be able to stop myself from sending her the screenshot, letting her know what the plan is and then saying but thanks for the evidence I will need when the time comes 😉

and obviously going completely NC

Maybe forward your screenshot on to the family members who don't believe you....

That is so horrible OP, I am sorry.

Oh you poor thing. The only positive is that this confirms your good decision to reverse out of the relationship; no good will come from either of them. At least she’s aware of her cock up- at the very least she should be painfully embarrassed. May they both develop terrible piles.