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Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

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Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:50

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

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AngryBirdsNoMore · 28/10/2023 16:51

Want to share yours first?

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Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:53

Ok I think the worst was last year when I miscarried at 8 weeks and she said “oh well it was for the best”!

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Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:54

Sorry year before last.

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dillydal · 28/10/2023 16:55

There's many. One that sticks out though is when she told me that it's inappropriate for me to consider double barrelling my child's name to include my surname. Proceeded to send child birthday cards addressed to our child with only the father's surname..

Not a comment, but also used to turn the armchair to the wall if I was breastfeeding in their house.

EmptyYoghurtPot · 28/10/2023 16:57

Just spent the day with mine ‘accidentally’ calling me by the ex wife’s name. They divorced nearly 20 years ago but she still has the wedding photo up in her lounge. I just laugh. We had to go to see her today as she had run out of money (DH and BIL have power of attorney and give her an allowance). Lo and behold once we got there she discovered the money in the bottom of a handbag! Exactly as SIL and had discussed yesterday! She can do no wrong in her boys’ eyes.
You have to laugh. And drink wine.

Shedoesasshepleases · 28/10/2023 16:58

After we announced our first pregnancy she said 'you're important now'. She was also very sizeist, thought being tall made you a better person. I'm quite tall but my SIL isn't so it made for awkward moments. Any way MIL shrunk as she aged and we had a literal standup 'I'm taller than you' argument - I won!

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Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:58

Oh I guess a ridiculous one was nappy changing is what you call a “pink job” not a job for men.

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Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 17:01

Oh and another was that I seduced their young son as I’m 6 years older (we both in 30’s then)...if you knew me you’d laugh, I’m not like that at all.

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MinnieL · 28/10/2023 17:04

One that sticks out though is when she told me that it's inappropriate for me to consider double barrelling my child's name to include my surname.

I had the exact same. I was also told that because I’m West Indian, I don’t like Africans and that’s why I won’t give my DD only her dad’s surname. I only wanted my name included because I’m not married to her dad!

If it was also my surname then I wouldn’t give a flying fuck. She’s probably said worse but that comment really stuck with me. It was so offensive

Bettyneptune · 28/10/2023 17:11

I quote "My son wouldn't ever leave you no matter how fat you get".......

dillydal · 28/10/2023 17:12

MinnieL · 28/10/2023 17:04

One that sticks out though is when she told me that it's inappropriate for me to consider double barrelling my child's name to include my surname.

I had the exact same. I was also told that because I’m West Indian, I don’t like Africans and that’s why I won’t give my DD only her dad’s surname. I only wanted my name included because I’m not married to her dad!

If it was also my surname then I wouldn’t give a flying fuck. She’s probably said worse but that comment really stuck with me. It was so offensive

I'm always so staggered that the kid gets the dad's surname automatically with zero discussion.

Also staggered women still change their surname but that's a whole other topic

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 28/10/2023 17:13

Can I share this corker from my mum?
Me: isn't it nice when they snuggle like that? (D's and dd)
Her: yes... As long as it doesn't turn into incest.

TheaBrandt · 28/10/2023 17:15

To be fair I think mine is cultural as written down her comments sound pretty bad!

Classics are describing my job as a job for “pocket money”. I am a solicitor.

Another is emigrating as “there is nothing to keep us in England”. No just two lovely sons and a grandchild !

SiblingFights · 28/10/2023 17:16

DP's Mum keeps calling me his ex-wife's name, although I don't think it is intentional.

X-MIL about (autistic) DS having a meltdown "you just need to smack him more when he won't do as he is told" 😡

WITFITTO · 28/10/2023 17:16

‘I would be ashamed to go out if I looked like you’ was my MILs best one - that was said the last time I ever stood foot in her house.

MrsSamR · 28/10/2023 17:18

The day I brought my second daughter home from the hospital: "I think a boy next" 😳

Freddiefan · 28/10/2023 17:18

My MIL said that our children (her grandchildren) were illegitimate because her son and I had not been married in a Catholic Church.

Farmhouse1234 · 28/10/2023 17:19

We have a DC with a language disorder.
MIL (during a calm conversation) ‘have you thought about talking to him more?’

During an argument ‘no wonder your child can’t speak properly’.

Undunne · 28/10/2023 17:22

Previous DPs mother had a small-holding and gave one of her new pigs the same name as me 🐷😂

queenofthewild · 28/10/2023 17:25

She turned up to our wedding in her wedding dress (she had remarried a couple of months before). And told anyone who would listen "there was no point wasting money on something new to come here".

DelurkingAJ · 28/10/2023 17:27

DGM (to me, aged 12) of DDad ‘well, at least he was the most intelligent of your mother’s boyfriends’. DDad and his DBIL bonded over DGM a LOT.

Biffsboys · 28/10/2023 17:35

You don’t eat much for such a big girl ! (I was a size 12 at the time )

Thejackrussellsrule · 28/10/2023 17:37

MIL told me and my soon to be husband that our wedding wasn't our day, it was our parents day.

Ringadinga · 28/10/2023 17:38

To my soon to be DH 2 weeks before the wedding, 'You're making the worst mistake of your life', our wedding day crying because he was, 'paying more attention to me than her', 3 years in, waited until I left the room then slipped him the details of a great divorce lawyer she'd got her friend to give her as her son had just divorced. When my DH pointed out that my mum was happy for us she answered, 'well of course SHE is, look what she's getting in the family and what I'm getting'.
10 years later on holiday together the receptionist at the hotel actually came round the counter and hugged me because she felt sorry for me having 'a MIL like that, and I seemed lovely'. No idea what was said!

25 years on and she finally thinks I'm fabulous, took a good 15 years to change her mind though. Now we get on fine and she absolutely denies any of the above ever happened.

Justtobeclear · 28/10/2023 17:39

To me at mine and exh - engagement party please could you step out of this photo I’d like it to be family only (her,FIL, Exh and brother). There were plenty but this one actually hurt. Obviously, I took it the wrong way and she didn’t mean anything by it.

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