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Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

459 replies

Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:50

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

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ThomasinaLivesHere · 28/10/2023 19:12

Mine is generally nice but two things annoyed me although no malice intended I’m sure.

Once we were having a large dinner and I was pregnant. Someone asked if anyone wanted wine and she announced loudly that none for me as I was pregnant. She probably didn’t mean anything bad but I don’t need people to speak for me like that and obviously I wasn’t going to drink but to people that don’t know me well I thought it could be read like I might.

My son is delayed with speech and she often denies it and says he is speaking when he is just babbling. She also said it was because we just give him why he wants and so he doesn’t need to communicate. I think it was meant to reassure us that nothing is wrong with him but it annoyed me as she’s essentially saying it’s our fault but I don’t think it is and that we do all the activities and act the way the speech therapist recommended.

Meeting · 28/10/2023 19:13

Wow some of these are awful, I hope you're all NC. Mines not as bad in comparison.

"I'll be seeing the baby every day when it's born and you can't stop me."

MaMisled · 28/10/2023 19:13

Not me but my pregnant best friend told her MIL the baby was to be her third boy. MIL took her in a consolitary hug an said " oh no! You must be so disappointed"! She wasn't remotely disappointed.

Parkermumma07 · 28/10/2023 19:13

Left an abusive voicemail whilst drunk accusing me of having sex with her husband, my father in law!!!

told me that homosexual men shouldn’t be allowed to adopt male children as they would sexually abuse them! WTF

has called my by my husbands ex girlfriends name for years, been together since we were 16 years old married for 15, 42 now and still does this, once told me that they made a lovely couple! They were 14 at the time they dated!

to name a few

Imlosingthewill · 28/10/2023 19:14

When I approached her about advice on DH gambling and other various issues. She replied with ‘well it takes a good woman to make a good man’ 😆😆😆

MintyCedric · 28/10/2023 19:15

When I was in my early twenties and hadn’t been living with her son for very long, she let herself into our flat and happened to come across some notes I’d made about my 5 year plan…career, social, financial aims etc.

Next time I saw it it had ‘YOU WISH!’ written at the bottom.

When I had DD, two weeks late, drip induction, EMCS and a week in hospital due to complications she was far more concerned that her son had been traumatised by the whole thing and said as much.

Then there was the occasion 6 months after I returned from mat leave when she picked DD up for the day and ‘accidentally’ opened my bank statement. I was overdrawn by a few hundred quid and was summoned to a summit meeting where she offered to help me out financially on the DL ‘for the baby’s sake because [my son] will leave you if he finds out…‘

She organised loads of work on our home which was in husbands name as he let her do what she wanted and she didn’t consider it my home. She then tried to claim thousands back from me when I divorced him.

So yeah, she was a treat. Ex FIL however was an absolute sweetheart.

CatherinedeBourgh · 28/10/2023 19:17

MaMisled · 28/10/2023 19:13

Not me but my pregnant best friend told her MIL the baby was to be her third boy. MIL took her in a consolitary hug an said " oh no! You must be so disappointed"! She wasn't remotely disappointed.

Similar to this. Were never supposed to be able to have dc. Had ds1, a miracle, and then yet more miraculously (and unexpectedly) got pg again. Delighted. Told her it was another boy. She said 'Oh, Catherine, couldn't you have tried for a girl?' ... in front of dh and ds1, who asked 'why doesn't granny like boys?'

Atmytethersend · 28/10/2023 19:18

ChocolateCinderToffee · 28/10/2023 19:11

I hope you and your DH are NC with her now.

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B12B12 · 28/10/2023 19:19

My MIL rang my mum when DD1 was a baby complaining that I forced DH to do housework and he was ‘so unhappy’. My mum has a sharp tongue and she didn’t trouble her again. DH never complained about housework BTW.

Both PIL stayed with us and I cooked for us each evening. Cue MIL with her hand over her mouth pretending to be sick. I told her not to disrespect me in my own home. If she didn’t like something she could say so.

MIL being suspicious because DH and I are dark haired but DD2 was platinum blond - she strongly implied DD2 wasn’t his, even though my mum and FIL are both fair haired.

I could go on….

Rosa1211 · 28/10/2023 19:20

She was staying in our caravan in our garden while their brand new bungalow was being built, hooked up to our electricity and helping herself to my food supply indoors.She went to great pains to say that when our next electricity bill came in she'd split it with us.
It duly arrived,and I naively told her how much I needed from them,to be met with an outraged " who do you think I am, Baroness Rothschild? ". She then proceeded to itemise all the recent washing she'd done for her son and her 5year old grandson while I was in hospital having a major operation for cancer. Needless to say, I never spoke to her again.

NamioChange · 28/10/2023 19:21

Name changed for this.

Not my MIL, but DS's paternal grandmother (I was with her son at the time). I got a text on Christmas Day when pregnant telling me she hoped the thing in my stomach died.

She's a very unpleasant lady.

Onlinetherapist · 28/10/2023 19:23

Definitely not the worst comment she’s ever made to me (and there have been many!) I had a home birth and she visited (uninvited) very, very soon after, within the hour I would guess. Midwives had helped me change my bed and get back in, leaving the bloodied sheets on the floor ready to be washed. When MIL arrived I was still in bed feeding babe. Quick visit, then her parting shot to me was ‘you need to get those sheets washed’. It wouldn’t have been so bad if she had had a nice word to say to me, but that was all she said. Every special occasion was ruined by her. Well every day I had to spend with her was ruined..

Bellie710 · 28/10/2023 19:23

When me and DH got married MIL said you might have him now but one day he will come back to me! 20+ years and he has still not gone back

Mummasummer · 28/10/2023 19:24

My MIL invites DH’s ex to every single family event because she thinks the grandchildren would want their mother to be at any occasion. I’ve felt so awkward about this . I share 3 children with DH .
She still has a family canvas photo in the dining room from before my time with the ex , her and fil on! I always find myself internally screaming when I’m there for dinner. DH and his ex have been split for 7 years.

queenofthewild · 28/10/2023 19:25

@Runningonjammiedodgers it wasn't a big white meringue. But it was the fuss she made telling everyone it was her wedding dress that was bizarre.

Also, she didn't bother with a photographer for her wedding, but managed to hijack our photographer for an hour at our wedding to get professional photos of them both in their wedding clothes.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 28/10/2023 19:26

MiL looking at dd2 in the car seat at 4 months. Well I don't know who she looks like but it's none of mine (implying she wasn't dh's). Note she was & still is the image of me.

crumblylancs · 28/10/2023 19:27

Undunne · 28/10/2023 17:22

Previous DPs mother had a small-holding and gave one of her new pigs the same name as me 🐷😂

😂😂 this wins

fififrillyfolle · 28/10/2023 19:28

Not even a MiL but my actual mum...

3 days after I had given birth, still in hospital,
(and had lost 2 stone vs my pre pregnancy weight, due to sickness and depression)

"Have you thought about how you're going to lose the baby weight?"

Georgyporky · 28/10/2023 19:28

Visiting PILs with a black eye.

"You must have really upset him badly".

Chocolata82 · 28/10/2023 19:29

I'll never be as close to your children as sil children as a son is a son til he meets a wife and a daughter is a daughter for life.
It really cut me up at the time as I was making so much effort with them and really wanted the kids to be close to them.

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mowly77 · 28/10/2023 19:32

I’ve got stage IV, incurable certain-to-end-in-death cancer. And a 5 year old. She didn’t visit for 4 years.

When she did, earlier this year, she claimed not to know my cancer was incurable & said my DH hadn't told her. Well, he definitely had. “Oh! That’s awful!” quoth she. Well it was awful for her as it put her previous comments about “not being able to walk” and “I’m going to die soon anyway” (she is an extremely fit and healthy 73-year-old with absolutely nothing wrong with her) in rather a dim light.

She was an alcoholic narcissist throughout DH’s childhood ( still is the latter, clearly ) & oh boy does my DH have some stories about her.

AlwaysUtterChaos · 28/10/2023 19:34

My personal favourite... "you should just leave the kids with me for 48 hours, I'll have their behaviour sorted out" .... mmmm thanks!

Bella37 · 28/10/2023 19:34

Why have I got postnatal depression when I should be happy as she was when she gave birth. 17 years later, why has my teenage daughter (her dgd) put on a “fuck ton” of weight (her words) due to life saving medication and to her face!

QWE96 · 28/10/2023 19:35

5 years ago I'm a week postpartum, ex-MIL comments:

"People are thinking you look unwell. You don't wear makeup anymore and you're not posting any pictures on Facebook".

I have little SM presence at the best of times, I hadn't ventured out much yet anyway, and how dare I focus on my newborn child rather than my makeup!