Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

[Flutterby10]

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

That I was a selfish bitch for breastfeeding and only did it so she couldn't feed her grandchild.

That there was nothing wrong with our DS and we only made his condition up for money (he has a partial chromosome deletion).

I could write a book 🤦

Many times. She got away with stalking and harassing me for years. I can only assume the police didn't believe that a middle aged, middle class woman would lower herself to doing that to somebody 'beneath' her as she was never even interviewed.

I'm so sorry!
Hope the crazy hag is out of your life now

I've not had any nastiness from my MIL whilst married, but I did have some unpleasant things said while her son and I were dating. I'd been invited over for dinner and she remarked that I was 'very gaunt-looking', which is true because I was very underweight at the time, through no fault of my own (not anorexic, was just living with a mental case at the time, literally no food and no money). Out of the blue, she turned around and said "Oh it's the alien!" while looking straight at me. Three times. Not sure if she suddenly didn't want me in her house because I'd violated the space in her house or that she all of a sudden thought that I looked ugly. No idea. It was a bit hurtful but was more bewildering. Even her husband was a bit confused. She's never apologised for it and her son has never confronted her about it. Just completely out of the blue name-calling. MILs can be very strange creatures.

Mil tried that with me years ago.Dh just called her partner her ex husbands name it soon stopped

So many over the years but the one that sticks in my mind was when she said that my hair was looking better than it had been recently but she put the state of it down to my mum dying.

My mum was a lovely woman, a brilliant mum and granny, and I was devastated when she died suddenly at far too young an age. I honestly could have hit my mil when said that and I am not a violent person in the slightest - the vile thought process of the woman never ceases to amaze me.

Too many from my own mother and my ex mother in law:

Ex mother in law as I arrived to get married - with my then best friend and on front of the children - she leaned over them in the car park and said ‘I’m Xxx who are you? Rocks is so ignorant she doesn’t introduce me to people!’…. On my wedding day my then best friend said ‘aren’t you lovely’

Looking down at my bride outfit / size 6 and well fitted lovely cream lace dress from monsoon - she said ‘I don’t understand why you are so common and won’t spend money on a decent dress’ - I looked bloody gorgeous

Looking at my ankles - I had a massive scar from an accident which was hardly visible - ‘Oh my god Rocks that ugly scar will really show up during the wedding photos - why didn’t you cover your legs completely ‘

when I was pregnant with our then son, his brothers wife miscarried and she said ‘You of been you that miscarried you are the Christian one and too old’- wtf! I was 40 so what / no one deserves a miscarriage

During the wedding ceremony after the vows she turned to her husband my father in law and said loudly ‘oh shit. There’s nothing we can do now is there except pray for a divorce’ the registrar shhhed them

i am Christian ex husband was no religion and hadn’t been to the synagogue since aged 15. We chose a non religious service and a registry office - she was horrified and repeatedly threatened not to come

The dog was registered in my name and with my surname - she refused to speak or pet the dog as it wasn’t part of the family. The children had a double barrelled name and I kept mine - she cut my name off everything including crossing it off uniform etc

i am very relieved I’m divorced an havenr Serb her for years ….

I’m a vegetarian and she purposefully cooked me meat sausages (I know it was on purpose!) then acted perplexed because ‘they were in the vegetarian box.’

We also all planted sun flowers at her request, complete with name labels. Checked mine out and it wasn’t the tallest but had done ok. Went out half hour later and my name label had been transferred to the dead one 🤣🤣🤣 me & dp at the time did laugh…

Glad I didn’t marry him she was a bitch.

@Gorden009 Where did she get indecent images of you from??? 😬

My mil told me that my DH had changed "not for the better" since he'd been married to me. She also sent him a birthday card, in it said that her mother had given her £100k to split between her DC's. Except she wasn't going to give this money to him because he "wasn't good enough", his siblings got their money though I believe.
DH didn't care about the money, so didn't chase it, just was very hurt by what the old bitch had said.
Yes she's nasty. That's was 10 years ago & we've not seen her since. Good riddance.

not my mother in law - who is lovely by the way - but my own mother
with my partner (now husband ) for 10 years. in middle of a disagreement looked at my left hand and said don't see a ring on your finger so he not family. was living with him in our second house by that stage
when built second house she came and got a tour of house said well aren't you luck that Mr Wexone has been able to provide all of this for you. no I didn't contribute to costs and mortgage did I???
when finally got married she has a puss on her in all the photos
even my mother in law says to my husband wexone gets a hard going by her own familit doesn't she? could write a book about ut

Took a day off work to try to convince her son NOT to have a vasectomy begging him to leave me and try for a girl with someone else I was pregnant with ds2 at the time so her idea was to effectively abandon me heavily pregnant with two other young children at home (dd wasn't his)

she has nothing to do with her grandsons now choosing her sons step daughter instead

the first time she babysat she nearly put ds1 in hospital (he was having issues holding his sugar levels we were told NO high suger food she gave him a milkshake with bags of malteasers and a Mars bar ffs) she didn't tell us what she had given him to make him sick and threw us out of her house we had to get a bus and walk five miles home (they were supposed to be driving us) he was six months old

She didn't babysit again until he was old enough to say no then she thought putting him in a tall double bed instead of a floor bed was fine he fell and ended up in minor injuries we told her he sleep walks but she raised her boys fine she knows what she is doing!!

'Mint, we're going out (her and ex), I'm sure you have some cleaning to do!'

🙄

My mother in law was lovely but I was amused once to see a card in a shop "Merry Christmas to my darling son and his wife"

I think you win.

Absolutely gobsmacked.

Previous DPs mother had a small-holding and gave one of her new pigs the same name as me 🐷😂

OMG sorry that is so awful it made me laugh sort of thing my MIL would so.

Mine wrote me a letter when my son's then partner, now wife, became pregnant 'out of wedlock' and called my future grandchild an awkward and unfortunate event. Miserable bitch. She also said the same to them at a family wedding. Just one sample in a long line of awfulness. Can't stand the woman.

One of two-
When she asked me to completely lie to the police for her to get her ex DH into trouble
OR when I announced my pregnancy with our DC a couple of years ago and instead of congratulating us, she decided to say how she’d recently been thinking about the stillbirth she had at 20 something weeks some years earlier. No one was aware of said stillbirth and FIL had to remind her that it was in fact a miscarriage at around 8 weeks and that it wasn’t an appropriate time to discuss such things. Just felt like an odd thing to say to us after announcing our pregnancy, particularly as our previous one was a loss that nearly took my life. If you knew her, this isn’t abnormal behaviour unfortunately!

Portia ?
it could be meant to be flattering if she is fond of piglets?

Not a comment as such, but she didn't invite me to a big birthday party, instead choosing to put DH's ex on the same invite (they've been split up for 13 years and we'd been together 4 years), along with his daughter!! Then told DH he had to pick them both up and take them to the party, leaving me behind!

She then sent a Christmas card to "my son and his girlfriend even though we are married".

She hates me!! 🤣 I'm OK with that because she is a bloody nightmare.

Only time she ever spoke to me was to tell me that DH looked I'll and that I wasn't to tell him she had rung!! I obviously told him, she's not spoken to me since!

Many over the years but the worst was probably when DH was away with work in the lead up to Christmas, so I was in charge of choosing her Christmas card. After spending a lovely weekend with her, she calls DH and told him that she had just looked through all the Christmas cards he's ever got her and that this is the only one that doesn't have 'Mum' written on (he wrote 'To Mum' in it, but it didn't have 'Mum' and a poem on the front). This was, apparently, worse than being told she might have cancer. She didn't, she was going for a routine mammogram. For context, we'd found out a few weeks earlier that my DF's cancer was terminal.

Mine was awful and a big reason why I left her son (though by no means not the only reason!). She made a point of being rude and made me feel uncomfortable all the time whilst telling everyone I was the problem when i avoided her. A pretty nasty one was when she was getting her vows renewed to exfil. She made a point that morning of saying she was only doing flowers for the family then handed out ones to my three children, exdh, exbil and the ones for exfil and the 'best man'. I was left the only one in the room without anything looking awkward. After the renewal they all had photos outside the church and she got everyone together for a 'family photo's' for ages leaving me stood to the side with the random neighbours and work colleagues feeling like a spare part.
I got the hint.
I'd been with her son since we were 19, had three kids and had been married for many years. I had no other family of my own and she made it clear her family was not anything to me. Sad really.
One of my children won't have a thing to do with her now and the younger two hate her and avoid her where possible due to her spiteful comments, we laugh at the rude things she still says to them to make light of it but deep down I hate her for her spiteful tongue and faux innocent attitude.

From my MIL: your career isn't important, it's just something that keeps you busy while [DH] works because you don't have childrento keep you busy.

After I had been unable to attend a last minute family event because I had to work. And neither DH or I wanted children but obviously I'm that denied her grandchildren to be selfish and pursue my career.

My mother: you are lucky, not many men would put up their wife working full time and studying.

Completely ignoring the fact that he had also done part time study whilst working full time but that's ok, he's a man. When she started to thank him at my graduation for being so patient before he could shut her down my dad did in no uncertain terms. She sulked for the rest of the day whilst me, DH and dad had a fab time.

Was it a proper wedding dress or more of a nice dress for a registry office?

My lovely dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and was going down hill fast, MIL asked me how he was doing and I got upset. She told me not to be silly. My FIL cried at his funeral such different people.

3 days after giving birth and a very traumatic period "wow your bigger now than when you were pregnant!"