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Worst mother in law comments...go on join me in my misery lol!

459 replies

Flutterby10 · 28/10/2023 16:50

Go on tell me the worst things said to you by a mother in law?

Not saying they all bad btw I’ve had a couple of nice ones previously when younger.

Ive had pretty a pretty bad week with mine but I’ve decided I’m over it all now!

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Christmas202 · 28/10/2023 17:39

One was you would make a crap mum.have an abortion, another was my son would be better off dead (he was in icu) then another was that I should not be allowed to leave hospital with him 🙄 that apparently I couldn’t possibly be a good mum at 18. She stole my sons therapy money and accused me of spending it and being a shopaholic. I cut her out of my life after that.

Hibambinos · 28/10/2023 17:41

“ we thought he would marry a solicitor or a doctor, but then he met you..”
I laughed out loud as I’m a professional with two degrees , her son is not and flunked on his degree.
thankfully he is now my ex and his toxic mother has no contact with our child.

user1498193554 · 28/10/2023 17:42

Isn’t it nice that ‘big girls’ can go to the gym (I do CrossFit )
Dont you think it would be nice if you made more of an effort with your appearance …
I have many more . I am loving this thread

sipsqueak · 28/10/2023 17:44

For years my MIL kept "accidentally" calling me by the name of DH's ex wife...

Anabella321 · 28/10/2023 17:46

My late MIL said some awful things to me over the years but one of the worst was completely ignoring my much longed for pregnancy. She didn't say congratulations, or mention that I was expecting or ask how I was or anything.

My DH went ballistic.

BurntOutGirl · 28/10/2023 17:47

Thejackrussellsrule · 28/10/2023 17:37

MIL told me and my soon to be husband that our wedding wasn't our day, it was our parents day.

My mum said the same to me about mine.

I set her straight pretty swiftly

GreekGod · 28/10/2023 17:48

"If you don't lose your pregnancy weight, he will definitely leave you as he has never found fat women attractive"

Sugargliderwombat · 28/10/2023 17:48

My mil pretended she thought our babies middle name was my ex partners (who she knew, no chance of forgetting the name). Not as bad as lots here, just low key undercurrent nastiness.

Devgov · 28/10/2023 17:50

I can’t believe some of these awful things MIL’s have said, they don’t deserve any of you. I count myself very lucky to have a great relationship with both my DIL and SIL, never had a problem at all with either of them in 20 yrs but maybe that’s because I keep my mouth zipped unless asked for my opinion/advice. Would love to know what they think of me though 🤣

icanlovemebetter · 28/10/2023 17:51

As a tradition I was touching her feet and she shooed me away one time. She'd never do that to her dog.

Also at family dinners. I was always "allowed" to be served last. She'd not let me take food on my plate unless everyone else has started eating.

SM4713 · 28/10/2023 17:54

'I want nothing to do you, or your wedding' Whilst kicking now DH (her son) out of their house at Christmas. She then proceeded to tell the other guests that ALL fights in the family are caused by us!

A month later, she didn't come to our wedding. She did send a card with a cheque, but asked DH NOT to cash it, as she couldn't afford it. The following week, she took SIL and her whole family to disney world!

A cousin had a pregnancy announcement and happened to see MIL in the local town and asked her not to tell us, as was calling us when she got home. MIL called us straight away to tell us! I questioned why she would do that, when cousins had specifically asked her not too. MIL said she didn't keep secrets and she could tell anyone, anything she liked.

To this day, MIL has no idea we TTC 13yrs, lost 3 and had rounds of IVF. I tell her nothing!

Sugargliderwombat · 28/10/2023 17:55

icanlovemebetter · 28/10/2023 17:51

As a tradition I was touching her feet and she shooed me away one time. She'd never do that to her dog.

Also at family dinners. I was always "allowed" to be served last. She'd not let me take food on my plate unless everyone else has started eating.

This is just psychological abuse. I hope you don't have to see her too much x

Proudmum17 · 28/10/2023 17:56

After the birth of our twins my husband booked a vasectomy. She said ' don't you think 'proud mum' should get sterilised instead you might want a more children ( with another woman) yet'.

Or the classic 'this is ( my son's )wife I suppose '

Or the cutting ' proud mum did well for herself marrying you'

She's dead now.

elliejjtiny · 28/10/2023 17:57

"Yes, this is Mrs Tiny" when answering my phone. Which is why I am now known as Ellie at the Dr surgery and the dc school. When I got a phone call
about DH she answered my phone and I had to physically take the phone off her and say that I am his next of kin so back off.

" You're lucky he hasn't got proper autism" when dc1 was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome

telling me I have done a bad job raising my dc but with her help I can improve.

"Leave it to the men folk dear" if I'm lugging a table about or taking part in a conversation that my tiny female brain couldn't possibly understand

These days she mainly makes passive aggressive comments like "Did you know your dishwasher/washing machine has finished" or "don't you have jobs to do instead of playing on your tablet?" Actually I was checking the dc homework online, not that it was any of her buisness.

supersparrow · 28/10/2023 18:01

SIL had a clothes shop and gave family members a discount. I said something to MIL about having bought something using the discount and she said, ‘Oh, I thought the discount was only for family - she gives it to you too?’ I had been married to her son for several years at this point.

SugarCraving · 28/10/2023 18:02

My 2 DS were aged around 3 and 5, They were having an argument and within a few minutes they were best friends.
Mil looked and told me she had never known 2 children argue like my 2. Plus children arguing was a modern problem. Years ago children didn't have disagreements.

Lulubo1 · 28/10/2023 18:07

When I lost one of my twins she said nonchalantly "You can't get too upset, it happens all the time to so many women. It's just one of those things"

"My son is so nit-picky since he married you and he's changed for the worse!" (After we spoke out against precious SIL's bf when we told them he drove FIL's car drunk with SIL in the car, and we tried to stop them.

Scaraben · 28/10/2023 18:07

Worst thing was really what she said to my 5yr old.

She is barely interested in any of us, makes that very clear. Neither is her daughter, my SIL. On the plus side my family are great. My brother and his wife have a lovely relationship with my daughter. I'm close with brother's wife and she is an excellent aunt.

On one of the very rare visits, my daughter started talking about her lovely auntie and what they'd been up to. MIL went on an unprompted lengthy tirade about how my SIL was "absolutely not a real aunt" and it was "wrong and weird" to refer to her as such. Daughter ended up in tears. I'm certain there was an element of racism here as my SIL is a different ethnicity. Ugh.

Marmunia10667 · 28/10/2023 18:08

"I suppose your mum and dad are going on holiday with you?"

My dad was disabled following medication and was wheelchair-bound, requiring 24/7 care. V hurtful.

MIL died suddenly.

Sulusu · 28/10/2023 18:11

Once she stopped speaking to us for six months because we were a day late in remembering her birthday. In the twenty years I have been with DH, she has not remembered my birthday once.

pumpkinpiee · 28/10/2023 18:12

After telling her I was pregnant (first grandchild) she told me she wouldn’t love our baby more than she loves her son

muckandmerriment · 28/10/2023 18:13

My MIL has never really approved of the fact that me and DP aren't married. She introduced me and my sister in law (DPs brother's wife) recently as follows: "This is my daughter-in-law Jane and this is Fiona". Fiona being me. I think that says it all really, the glaring omission or perhaps deliberate inclusion of the description daughter-in-law vs me having no official place in the family. That, plus there are no photos of me on the sideboard. She's usually quite nice to me and I have to admit I was more hurt than I expected but after 25 years with DP I thought that was pretty rude.

PercivalWolfrick2000 · 28/10/2023 18:14

Not my MIL but my Nan - My dad fell down the the stairs once, not hurt or anything slid down on his bottom. Was my stepmums fault because she chose a shitty carpet apparently and she knew it would happen (as if it was my SM’s plan for my dad to fall) 😂😂

DramaAlpaca · 28/10/2023 18:17

'The only thing wrong with you is that you're not Catholic'. She used to pray every night that I'd convert (not a hope). Mild by some standards I know, but still irritating. Not that I ever let her know that.

FofB · 28/10/2023 18:18

Some years ago, we were having a meal at her house. She said that the whole extended family should go on a horse trekking holiday to Wales. I looked up from my plate as although I have never been on a horse in my life, I wouldn't mind having a go.

She looked me in the face and said 'Don't worry, we can get a Shire Horse to carry you.....'

We didn't go.

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