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I am going to ask this guy if he's actually sexually attracted to me. Does this sound ok?

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CandyLollipopw · 15/09/2023 07:47

I've been having sex with this guy for a year now. We've been friends with benefits but I don't know if he's actually sexually attracted to my body type. I see where he follows models on social media. This is why I'd like to ask him if he is sexually attracted to women with my body type. Or if he is only attracted to models and skinny women.

Even if we are only friends with benefits I still think it's important that both people are sexually attracted to each other because it's physical and we see each other naked. And I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting to know that I man who sees her naked is sexually attracted to her.

I am going to say this to him...

I'd like to talk to you about something but I don't want you to think I'm trying to start drama or that I'm trying to argue. I want clarity about something. (Are you sexually attracted to women who have my type of body? Or are you only attracted to models and skinny women).
^^
Then I'll tell him why I'm asking because I am sexually attracted to him and I enjoy having sex with him. And I want the feelings to be mutual.

OP posts:
FrogandToadAreFriends · 16/09/2023 22:40

OP it seems like your feelings are hurt by him following attractive women on social media, is that the case? It doesn't really seem like he's been dishonest with you, as others have said people can be attracted to many different "types" of people. If the relationship doesn't make you feel good you can either try to change it or end it. If you think he's a liar, or the things he does make you feel bad you should end it. Trying to corner him into saying he doesn't find you attractive isn't going to bring you peace.

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