Would You Leave If BF Called You A C**t

[Allycat78]

i want to start this thread to see what you ladies out there think. I’m divorced. My 2 sons are adults. Im 45, been seeing a guy for 18 months. Started off great as all relationships do. I haven’t moved in. Stay in my own place but see each other regularly. As time has gone on I’ve noticed him increasingly impatient with me and life in general. Maybe he just hid it at first. Never been violent or I’d be gone but he can get very angry verbally and mood swings. He never sees his fault in anything and when we have a tiff, he says it’s my fault because I piss him off and need to make more effort to not annoy him.
He’s been throwing in names and slurs when angry more recently and telling me to fuck off and name calling. Says things like ‘are you fucking stupid’ and ‘stop being a cunt.’
i know im far from perfect but I’ve never sworn at him or used this type of derogatory speech to him. He shouts. I don’t raise my voice.
Either im a terrible girlfriend for making him so mad or this is a relationship I need to end. Thoughts please.

End it.

You need to end it.

Yep, I'm far too old to be called names (not that there's any appropriate age).

This person is waving so many red flags I'm stunned that you can't see them.

He's showing you in multiple ways that he's not a nice person. Raise your bar and get rid.

He'd only do it the once if he was my partner

End it! He’s showing you who he is.

You even have to ask🙄

Give him the heave ho while you still have some respect.He sounds like a right shit.

You need to leave.

He is the problem not you.

Name calling should be a hard line - bin him off. That and always being right so it must be your fault, just No! Now you know why he's single, he doesn't respect women.

Can’t believe you’re asking

Get rid. Now.

Even the mood swings and irritability would make me say that BTW - who needs that.

You need to ask?

TBH that is worrying. Where is your self-esteem?

Yes, dump him. No excuses, no apologies. He is not entitled to treat you that way. Nobody is.

This would be a deal breaker for me. I've never been called a cunt in my life (nor have I ever called someone one) and I'm not starting now.

You should be having a lovely time not a miserable one.

End it

I’d have ended ages ago honestly.

What’s the back story op, how did you end up in this position where you don’t know the answer and need to ask? Why are you with a man who abuses you and still there?

the question isn’t what should I do, the answer to that is clear, end it and run. The question is why don’t you know this and why haven’t you?

This

RUN

Run

You have your kids and presumably are t having more
.
You're not financially dependent on him.

You're just seeing him.

He has no use other than some fing nice time together/being good company.

But it isn't a nice time a d he isn't really good company - because he's a derogatory, rude, foul mouthed, bad tempered, nasty bastard. Evening it's not every minute, it's still enough.

Her rid of him, and if you really want to be with someone, search again. He is definitely one fish that should be chucked back. I feel sorry for the next unfortunate woman to get him.

It's a pity it took a while to show but that's the way it goes often.

You don't need to be a verbal.abd emotional punch bag.

No-one does.

He's not worthy of a relationship.

He hasn’t been shitty all along. There’s been small changes as time has gone on but these nasty sides is more recent. He claims to love and want me but then gets in these moods I’ve mentioned which makes me believe deep down he doesn’t love me. If he did, he wouldn’t be so disrespectful

He's shown his true colours as a misogynist by using that word, also that he's using his temper as a way to control you.

The only way he'll stop is if you show him it's completely unacceptable - by having nothing further to do with him. Full stop.

No. Run far far away.
My husband has never called me a name or swore at me. Its abusive.

run