How many times would you get married?

[BetteDavisEyes11]

I have been married twice, once very young and second time has lasted 10 years.

my mum has a very strong view that I should now not commit to anyone else or ever get married again.

Shes been married to my dad for 48 years.

I understand her perspective, but also she has never been in my position. I don’t believe marriage is a must for a serious relationship, however if I were to meet someone and wanted to marry again I wouldn’t want to be restricted or frowned upon for doing so.

As many times as I feel I love someone enough to want to spend my life with them. Just because it didn't last, doesn't necessarily make it a mistake. I've been married once (divorced) and I would 100% marry my current partner.

Good question! I've only been married once and honestly can see no point in it these days apart from claiming married persons' allowance (is this still a thing?)

I'm on number 2 and that's enough.

I’m one and done.

While I’d feel differently in the case of someone who was widowed, I think someone who has several failed marriages behind them would be mad to think marriage no. 3 or 4 will be any different.

Once. I am married atm, but should anything alter that, then I would never want to share my space with a man on a permanent basis ever again.

Twice, yes.

three times - not a chance

Once - I've made the commitment to my DH. If we separated (which we won't I don't think!) I'd not bother again, same for if he passed.

Once was more than enough! Bloody hated being legally tied to someone.

I'm married (first marriage) and if DH died or we divorced I don't think I would marry again. I have very little interest in living with a man again (I love DH dearly but living with him annoys me) and we have children so I wouldn't want to tie myself legally and financially to someone else. The children and their inheritance would be my priority.

I suppose I might change my mind if I met someone absolutely amazing and really wanted to marry him but I am not convinced that would happen!!

I'm on second time. First marriage was 19 years. Second relationship still going strong at 19 yrs, 3 yrs married. I'm happy with DH but I really wouldn't see the point in doing it again. If we split or DH died I think I would stay single. I certainly don't want to live with someone again.

Once

I have been married for 36 years, I got married when I was 19

If he died or left, I would not want to get married again

I don't think I can put a definitive number on it. I was married and divorced before, It wasn't a failed marriage, circumstances just changed and it came to an end. It would have been a failure had I stayed in it .

I'm married now for the 2nd time and very happy. I hope to be in this relationship for the rest of my life.

It’s in an interesting one … my first marriage was sort of driven by my mum, she got married at 17 so when I met someone at 16 she pretty much encouraged us to marry which we did at 20.

Second time he was abusive and ended up cheating.

So guess I don’t feel either we’re ideal!

What is the point of marriage for you?
You said: - ’I don’t believe marriage is a must for a serious relationship.’

Bit of an odd statement?

You can, of course get married as many times as you want. One young and one failed middle life marriages - seem like a regular thing. Especially because people would think the ‘young’ marriage was just a romantic mishap.
And i don't think if you married a 3rd time anyone would think it strange.

But i do think if you would then proceed to divorce and marry again and again - it’ll look a bit silly. Not sure people would take 4+ marriages serioisly

Once is enough for me. Not prepared to risk that again

I've been married twice - wouldn't do it again though. I'm my DH's third wife .

Personally-never!

Depends how traumatic you find getting divorced. If it’s just part and parcel of life, a bit sad when it’s happening, but easily enough forgotten with no lasting scars… get married as many times as you want.

I remember a colleague from back in the day who was on marriage #4. The first three hadn't worked out for the usual types of reasons and #4 was very happy.
People are a lot less standardized than packs of butter at the supermarket, sometimes you can just be a bit unlucky, then lucky.

Not saying you shouldn't think carefully about a serious legal contract with huge financial implications! But to let simple number of marriages affect that decision is batshit. Taking account of the causes of previous marriage breakdowns, ABSOLUTELY.

None.

Once. I wouldn't want to ever bring another person in my dc lives and especially other children into our home.

I've been married once and not sure if ever want to again. My mum married 5 times which was horrendous. So somewhere in between!

I think anything more than twice is too much, personally, but I do have a friend on Marriage No.4.

I've been married once, still married, plan to stay that way!

If, god forbid, anything happened to him or us I don't think I'd want to marry again. I've seen what the dating scene is like out there, seen what my single friends are going through with various men, and I just don't think anyone could truly measure up to what I have now. I think I'd want to build a happy, quiet little life alone.

Been married once, that was enough! I'm too old to have more children and so there's no reason to ever marry again.