How many times would you get married?

[BetteDavisEyes11]

I have been married twice, once very young and second time has lasted 10 years.

my mum has a very strong view that I should now not commit to anyone else or ever get married again.

Shes been married to my dad for 48 years.

I understand her perspective, but also she has never been in my position. I don’t believe marriage is a must for a serious relationship, however if I were to meet someone and wanted to marry again I wouldn’t want to be restricted or frowned upon for doing so.

One and done for me... married at 24, divorced at 45 and 6 years later I've no desire even to be in a relationship again let alone a marriage... but I'm a unsociable old so so...

I have been married for over 20 years. If anything happened (which hopefully it won’t) I wouldn’t marry again. I wouldn’t even want to live with someone. My money would then be preserved for my two children.

Once. It's likely I'll outlive my husband as he has a life limiting illness and is poorly. It's not been a good marriage and we even split for a short time at one point.

I'd never live with a man again of I was widowed. I've found my tolerance levels have reduced as I've got older, so I doubt I'd find someone who wouldn't have something that would irritate me 🤣

Only the once - married for love in my mid 20s had three children, now divorced and quite content to never marry or live with anyone or even date ever again. Can't imagine making those vows more than once and meaning them unless I was in the awful position where my husband had died. ExH has remarried - to someone who has been married three times before!

Never. Hell would freeze over first! ( single loud and proud ✊ )

I’m divorced - was an 18 year marriage. I might marry DP at some point, but only with a prenup. I would definitely have a commitment ceremony and exchange rings, but not so sure on the legal stuff.

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But what if your DH chooses to break one or more of the promises? The 'til death do us part' bit is only one promise. Would you stick to your promise if he was unfaithful/abusive/uncaring or broke one of the other promises?

I chose not to honour my promise to stay with them until death when I discovered that my XHs decided they didn't want to honour theirs.

I felt this about my friend who really can't be on her own and is on marriage 3 at 50. She's already showing signs of discontent and it's been less than a year. I fully expect a no. 4 unfortunately.

@Fink

On what grounds was a 4 year marriage annulled one year after the divorce?!

None. I had a 25 year relationship but we never married. It was never something we ever really discussed.

Ive got a mate on his 4th marriage - 1st was 13 years, 2nd and 3rd both disasters with women 13 and 16 years his junior and 4th now seems to be much more settled (thinks it’s around 12 years now).

Most people were surprised he married again after the 2nd but each to their own

I don't think you're mum should have a say. Offer her opinion, but not frown on or disapprove of your decisions. It's hard for a parent to watch their child make mistakes, no matter what age, but ultimately, but out! A mums job is to advise and mop up tears, not judge.

i have never been married at the ripe old age of 52. I’d love to be married once and that’s it but that time has passed for me 😂

I think twice is fine. Some people marry young and they outgrow each other. Then many years later marry again so I think that’s fine (or if someone was widowed). More than twice seems too much to me. And would be wary to marry someone that was already twice or more married.

Twice so far. Currently separated going through divorce process.

I don't think I would ever marry again. Can't see it.

I think if you’re Catholic you can get a marriage annulled so you’re free to marry again.

I’ve heard it called ‘writing to the Pope’ but I imagine it’s a more involved process than that 😀

@Fink please come back and answer te your annulment!!

I've been married twice. First husband was abusive and I felt I had to leave after 10 years together to save myself. Second husband died very unexpectedly when I was 43.

Now I'm in an extremely happy relationship. We don't live together but might do one day. I doubt I'd get married again as I don't want to risk mine and my children's finances, but then again I need to think about how to also protect myself if we co-habit in the future. If I hadn't been married to DH2 when he died we'd have been homeless and financially finished, as well as emotionally devastated.

@Layinwait It was investigated on several grounds, unless you've studied Canon Law you're probably not interested in the details and I'm not willing to share the ins and outs of what was quite a painful process on a public forum. In summary, they looked at Canon 1098 (deliberate deceit over an essential quality of the person), Canon 1095 (grave lack of discretionary judgement) and another one where I can't remember the Canon (probably still under 1095, which has a lot of subsections) to do with no intention of fidelity or permanence. They also considered whether a preexisting mental illness made one party unable to consent to marriage, but decided against (i.e. the person was in theory capable of consent).

It is totally fine fir you to get married again!

It is a lot more involved than that, and concerns lawyers rather than the Pope himself (except on one very uncommon ground, and even then I doubt he has anything to do with it personally - a bit like the monarch signing something into law).