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How many times would you get married?

195 replies

BetteDavisEyes11 · 29/08/2023 10:41

I have been married twice, once very young and second time has lasted 10 years.

my mum has a very strong view that I should now not commit to anyone else or ever get married again.

Shes been married to my dad for 48 years.

I understand her perspective, but also she has never been in my position. I don’t believe marriage is a must for a serious relationship, however if I were to meet someone and wanted to marry again I wouldn’t want to be restricted or frowned upon for doing so.

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NewLifeHappyLife · 29/08/2023 15:01

A friend of mine gas just been married for the third time. She is the 6th wife of her new husband. He is marrying so he can get a career. She’s marrying for financial security. Frankly those are as good reasons as any and they are both good friends with each other so why not?

NewLifeHappyLife · 29/08/2023 15:01

Carer i meant

caringcarer · 29/08/2023 15:02

I was married for 20 years to first h then he cheated so I divorced. Then I remarried and have been married for 18 years. I'm very happy but if that changed or DH died I'd not get married again. I'd have too much to lose financially.

Aprilx · 29/08/2023 15:06

I have been married once and am still married to him. If we split up, I will be in my 50s and I can’t really see any reason why I would get married again. If I had got married and divorced when I was younger, I think I would have given a second marriage a go.

safetyfreak · 29/08/2023 15:08

I been married twice, still with my second husband.

If we split I would not bother to marry again!

throughgrittedteeth · 29/08/2023 15:08

BeReet · 29/08/2023 10:47

Once. I am married atm, but should anything alter that, then I would never want to share my space with a man on a permanent basis ever again.

Same. I love my DH but I'd never live with or marry another man if something happened. Not because I don't fancy men, just because they all get on my tits 😂

CyberCritical · 29/08/2023 15:10

I'm 17 years into my first marriage, see no current reason why it would end but if it did for any reason I don't think I would remarry.

I wouldnt be having any more children and wouldn't want to financially entangle myself with another person.

KingOfThieves · 29/08/2023 15:11

Once here. If I divorce i won’t remarry. The only scenario I think I’d feel differently about is if my and OH had not had children. If I was childless and divorced I would have considered marriage again. But I definitely don’t want more kids now and I would want to remain financially independent

TeeBee · 29/08/2023 15:19

I've been married once (ended in divorce). Definitely won't be doing that again. Absolutely no benefit whatsoever to being married at my age and in my circumstances. Didn't like the idea of it in the first place but it made more sense legally earlier in my life when I was sacrificing my career for children. Now it doesn't.

Hibernatalie · 29/08/2023 15:33

10-15 times. Might not have time for any more.

I don't think relationships need to be permanent in order to be important and worthwhile.

TeeBee · 29/08/2023 15:53

Hibernatalie · 29/08/2023 15:33

10-15 times. Might not have time for any more.

I don't think relationships need to be permanent in order to be important and worthwhile.

I agree. But relationships can be important and worthwhile without marriage.

BooseysMom · 29/08/2023 17:31

BeReet · 29/08/2023 10:47

Once. I am married atm, but should anything alter that, then I would never want to share my space with a man on a permanent basis ever again.

With you 100%

GorillaInBikini · 29/08/2023 17:36

I'm on my first and hopefully last marriage to a wonderful man but if I met someone and wanted to avoid inheritance tax then yes I'd consider it again. For me it's a legal contract.

whathappenedtosummer23 · 29/08/2023 17:41

Once. I've been married, I'm not any more. I've got plenty of money and I don't want to share it, pure and simple

tonystarksrighthand · 29/08/2023 18:18

Zero

Cupcakekiller · 29/08/2023 19:56

Once which was too much. Wish I'd never bothered. Don't even want to live with anyone else again let alone remarry.

TroglodytesTroglodytes · 29/08/2023 20:50

I’ve been married once (16 years) and I only got married because I thought it best as I wanted children with him. Personally, I would never get married again. When you are older you consider different things such as your children’s inheritance.

Tillie12 · 29/08/2023 20:53

As many times as you want! I think a lot of the views on here are quite old fashioned. If you love someone enough and feel it’s for a life time then go for it ❤️

mydogisthebest · 29/08/2023 21:15

Tillie12 · 29/08/2023 20:53

As many times as you want! I think a lot of the views on here are quite old fashioned. If you love someone enough and feel it’s for a life time then go for it ❤️

Surely if it's meant to be for life you would not keep marrying? Keep making the same vows makes a mockery of marriage if it is more than say twice. Why not change the vows from "till death do us part" to "till divorce do us part"?

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BetteDavisEyes11 · 29/08/2023 22:47

mydogisthebest · 29/08/2023 21:15

Surely if it's meant to be for life you would not keep marrying? Keep making the same vows makes a mockery of marriage if it is more than say twice. Why not change the vows from "till death do us part" to "till divorce do us part"?

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Thanks @Tillie12 I agree. @mydogisthebest I’ve married twice with what were the best intentions … but the vows work both ways … if the other person is abusive of adulterous then what are you supposed to do?

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waterlego · 29/08/2023 22:49

BeReet · 29/08/2023 10:47

Once. I am married atm, but should anything alter that, then I would never want to share my space with a man on a permanent basis ever again.

This.

MrsSkylerWhite · 29/08/2023 22:50

Married now. Wouldn’t marry again because no-one could replace him.

porridgeisbae · 29/08/2023 23:13

I haven't married yet (am middle aged and single) but think people should only marry once and not end a marriage unless there are major issues (but you can separate from someone if they're abusive etc.)

I'm Catholic so if I married I'd have to get it annuled before I could have another one, unless my husband died.

But I don't mind being single anyway I guess, though some sex would be nice sometimes.

Babysharkdoodoodood · 29/08/2023 23:49

Divorced/annulled/died and now together with DH for 20 years. 6 dc between us.

Took a while to get together but we made it.

DramaAlpaca · 30/08/2023 00:15

BooseysMom · 29/08/2023 17:31

With you 100%

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Same here. Married 33 years but if anything happened I wouldn't marry again.

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