He bit me

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My dh and I got into a fight yesterday and it probably got more heated than it should have. The reason was silly and nothing serious overall but I think we were both just tired and stressed out. At some stage during the argument he leaned forward and bit me in my upper arm right below the shoulder. It really hurt and he backed off, but today I have a noticeable bruise and I still find it painful.
We aren't fighting any more, and he did apologise, but he doesn't seem too bothered by the fact that he caused me to bruise.
I don't know what to make of it if I'm honest. I am pissed off of course, but I also think it's such a strange thing that he did. Do people actually do this? I have never deliberately bitten anyone in my whole life!

I am taking everything on board and I decided that I will talk to my sister tomorrow. I’m not ready to go to the police even if some people will judge me for it.
I can’t just pack up and leave, even if that sounds like a simple solution. Thank you all for your kind words and advice. I appreciate it but I am finding it a bit hard to make decisions just yet.

I am pregnant but he has really never been abusive or done anything remotely like this before.

Sadly this is often when it starts. You really need to think long and hard what to do.

Frogger8395 · Today 14:38

I am surprised this is the first incident of abuse. Is he verbally abusive?

Are you pregnant, or have recently had a baby?
I am pregnant but he has really never been abusive or done anything remotely like this before.

So he’s waited till he thinks you’re committed before starting to abuse you. Devious, manipulative and calculated. You are not safe with this man. How far along are you?

I agree with PP, he’s waited until you’re dependent or “stuck”

Get out asap before your poor baby is brought into this. There’s something not right with someone who can harm another person, let alone their DP

That's hideous, please leave him.

Photograph it and email it to yourself. If you want to report it later, then you can.

seems like uncontrolled rage

And think of him biting your poor defenseless baby. In biting you, he's also attacking your baby.

If he can't control his rage/chooses violence, what's going to stop him shaking your baby?

Tell your midwife

This is a violet loss of control during an argument and a nasty physical attack on a pregnant woman. If a stranger did this to you, you'd be reporting it to the police. This is in no way normal or remotely acceptable and is a frankly terrifying red flag. Please please seriously reconsider your future with this man at the very least, things like this are rarely a one off.

Violent, not violet 🙄

Physical abuse very often starts during pregnancy, seemingly out of nowhere. This is why it's such an important part of the midwife checks you'll have.
It comes up regularly because, sadly, so do these turn of events.
Talk to your midwife. She can help you.

Wtf? I'd have a huge problem with that. Vile behaviour.

This, OP. Seriously. It's not remotely normal or OK.

You need to leave this man, he is an absolute animal, this will only get worse.

Agree with this

Oh Jesus you need to flee ASAP. He's intentionally waited until you feel as entangled as possible before showing his true self. Get out, do a total disappearing act before the baby is born, and don't put him on the birth cert so you don't have to deal with him for any visitation etc.

OP a lot of abuse starts in pregnancy. Get out now. Definitely tell the police what he has done. I dread to think what the argument was about that he could bite his pregnant wife. What a disgusting vile man. Do you want him parenting DC with you? This is not out of character - this IS his character.

At the very least he needs help from a psychiatrist

Your world has tilted. No wonder you are feeling confused.
Unfortunately domestic violence often starts during pregnancy.
Biting someone is an extremely violent act.
You aren't safe with him anymore and that's devastating for what you thought your relationship was. It's very unlikely this will be an isolated incident. You may not be ready to leave now, but start thinking about how you could if you choose to.

A fight??????? My God...

OP did he lose his temper badly or was he calm when he did it ?

Leave now. It will get worse. He waited til you are vulnerable before showing you who he is.

Physical abuse usually happens when the abuser is confident he can escalate his verbal and emotional abuse into physical assaults. How long has he been emotionally abusive for?

How you respond to this assault is going to have extremely serious implications for your future. If you accept it, minimise it, or think a conversation is going to resolve it, I promise you, it will not.

Not many people can just pack up and go. But you can tell him to get the fuck out. And you should. Or this will be your life.