Boyfriend said I need to start behaving before he proposes

[LouLo2121]

My boyfriend has made this comment a few times ‘that I need to start behaving’ before he proposes (we’ve been together 3 years, lived together for 1.5).

for some context, I'm very respectful towards him, I cook clean, doing all the washing and go 50/50 with most things money wise, he also lives in my house.

i do get emotional and sometimes say mean things in the heat of the moment. Me ‘behaving’ means getting less emotional and not calling him out on anything.

do I really need to be with someone that wants me to ‘behave’ in order for him to propose?

Leave him

Please leave. Now.

Nope.

Leave and live a happier life than this twatface is offering.

What mean things are you saying? I wouldn't want to marry someone saying mean things to me.

Wow, leave now. Run.

No. Get rid. He is trying to control you,the last thing you want from him is a proposal.

You do the cooking and the cleaning and pay half the bills. He lives in your house like Lord Muck.

Get rid - it'll only get worse, honest. Go read some of the sad threads in Relationships and learn about control freaks. Your "man" is just waiting to blossom into a full blown cunt.

I think by "behaving" what you should be doing is packing his bags for him and leaving them outside your front door. That should do the trick.

Ugh! Do not saddle yourself with this man.

get rid.

Fuck that! Bin.

He is controlling you. You do not change yourself to deserve to be loved.

Run for the hills. Who the hell does he think he is, telling you to behave?!

Run away so fast your head spins.

Then get counselling for your very low self esteem

Have previous men in your life been abusive or is he the first?

All the red flags, tell him to do one.

What is he doing to make you emotional and what are you saying to him that's mean?

kick him out.... thats what you do now...
its your house ... he goes..

you are an adult... you fo not 'behave'

Marriage is not a prize for stuffing your feelings down and accepting things that make you unhappy. Either he loves you and wants to spend his life with you and share things as a team, or he doesn’t.

That said, what sort of mean things are you saying?

In the bin, in the bin, in the bin he goes!

This, OP is the start of coercive control.

Are you referring to 'mean' things like calling him out on his selfish behaviour when he doesn't like being criticised or actual name calling?

This is indeed the start of coercive control.

How can you be helped here into ridding yourself of your abuser?.

It is coercive control. Do not marry him. Look at you trying to jump through his hoops already. You will lose yourself.

I’ve just kind of questioned if I wanted to be with him previously, and just said to him I don’t think this is working out. I’ve not said anything personally hurtful to him

What?

Just to add in case you missed all the other posts saying it. Leave him!

Do you own the house??