Ghosted in the worst possible way

[brokenbitbybit]

I've name changed as I've posted quite a lot over the years.

I'm looking for advice on how to deal with being ghosted basically. This has been done to me in the worst possible way.

Together 5 years with 3 children. He is from a different country im from uk. He told me he was going on holiday to visit family due to stress and having no family or friends in this country.

He left without telling me, blocked me on every social media I presume has a new phone number and deleted his email address. I feel absolutely ill

How do I come to terms with this
I'm heart broken

So sad for you and the children. I can’t offer advice, couldn’t just read and run. Hang in there, and take whatever help is offered.

Does he have double nationality with another country apart from Belgium? Could he be a flight risk to that country with the kids, especially if that 3rd country has not signed up to The Hague convention? Just a thought.

I'm not sure about double nationality. He's been a citizen of Belgium since very early teens, his birth country is not a member of The Hague convention though.

That's another day nearly done, thanks for the support here

If his birth country and also Belgium don’t require you to renounce your nationality when you acquire another, I’d be careful re the possibility of him taking the kids to his country of origin. Just a thought.

Yes, you should definitely find that out if you can. That’s very important.

He's from Belgium -

Is he actually Belgian, or born/raised there but of a different culture? I'm thinking he has a wife. Or if not, intends to marry.

I'm sorry you've been hurt. He is an absolute pig. You'll have to go through the fire and come out the other side as it were. No other way

For now, practicalities - Universal Credit and finding out what else you may be entitled to. & As others have said, pursue financial support from him.

@brokenbitbybit previous poster is correct, my EX stopped maintenance and took off to Australia, I perused it and got cheques each month.

@whatnet i managed to get payments this way when my EX took off to Australia. First we knew was when payments stopped, contacted CSA. He must have had mail forwarded and got in touch when they wrote to him to say he’d left the country.

@Menapausemum1974 this thread is from July 2023 btw