Dating Thread 242 - Mid-Summer daters

[qqq82]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks 🙏

🖐 checking in.

Waving hello 👋

Also checking in.

Feels like mr HGV has cooled and backed off. Maybe I DTD too early but after years of being starved of affection, I needed it.

Last week he was messaging all day every day. This week is very different. Arranged to see him tomorrow night and he's put me off as it's his mums birthday.
Will see what happens but I'm not holding out much hope

I don't know whether to ask him if he's having 2nd thoughts. I'd rather know and move on.

In other news STBEXH has signed up to FB dating and is chatting to someone. If you're working in America at the moment and called Anna please dm me

@spotsandflowers I think asking if he's having second thoughts is putting him on the spot really because it might be all emotions, not thoughts, and he is not sure himself yet how he wants to proceed.
It's very early days to demand clarity, initially I think you just have to give it a bit of time for feelings to settle...plus it's actually more serious feelings which seem to spook a lot of men, and he could be withdrawing a little because of that but not realising it himself. Give him space to miss you and chase you a little... I'd tread lightly but nothing prevents you starting to chat with somebody else.

Thanks @RadiantRainbow
We've just been on the phone for an hour. It's all good. Looking forward to seeing me Friday. I'm ,looking forward to seeing him
I have to get over myself! He's having a busy week at work but defending wants to see me and soon

Checking in -thank you for the new thread.
I've been quiet for a while due to pressure of work and legal case around my financial settlement with exh.
Saw Me Wozfunnest in passing Steve we have been abounding v each other for months then had long chat at our mutual hobby group /all very civilised too avoid being a spectacle in front of mutual friends. When I left I asked him no really downstairs with me from club bar and said I had one question for him. He just have v recorded this and came down willingly. I simplly mildly said /why the l long silence b and lack of contact? He said he had been abroad with work in April and May. This was obviously no kind of real answer but I just smiled and said ok thanks goodnight. No point in scenes or haranguing.
Since then have met at club events - he always makes a beeline for me and cleaely dors still find me attractive but I just keep it light and friendly. We are NOT slipping back into a relationship after 3 months of ghosting!!!
I feel no responsibility for giving him feedback to help him do better in his next relationship. If he is puzzled by my seeming casual friendship and lack of drama then fine / after the anguish I sufffered feel no reason to give him closure or therapy. He may be moving abroad in the autumn / I think that would be the best for both of us.

Don't know where 'Steve' came from!! -should read that we have been avoiding each other until s club eveny meant that our paths had to cross.

@qqq82 thanks for the new thread!

VanillaSox

god he’s a funny sod isn’t he
some people are just so avoidant it’s unreal

I have no answers ! But it’s fascinating the lengths people will go to avoid a tricky conversation

Checking in. Wishing luck and love to everyone on the apps - though it sounds like there’s a lot of misogynists on there who’s only interaction with women is via porn. Utter losers.

I Hope @PinkIdentity is Ok 💐

Well my new batch of bumble matches a mixed bag.

Mr local seemed a really nice friendly chatty bloke until he asked me if I’m a hot hrny btch soon as we went to WhatsApp - blocked

Mr south of river - we were chatting away really a lot of banter and a lot in common. Woke up this morning and I’ve been deleted 🤷‍♀️ oh well.

Mr smiley - lovely smiley face and by far the most attractive but he’s monosyllabic. Responds very quickly lots of kisses and emojis but one word answers and it feels like pulling teeth.

Mr M25 as I’ll call him - been chatting couple of days and he’s asked if I’m free for lunch Saturday. Not quite sure I’m feeling a spark but definitely going to meet up and see how it goes.

Thanks for the new thread! 👋

Its speed dating day for me- I’m feeling oddly nervous about the whole thing

Checking in
Just thought I'd share this lovely profile with you and in case you need a laugh today.
(Copied as it's written)

"I'm will be you best hookup type guy. Wimpies carry on swipping. Yes and I am pervert for love sex and only sex and fany. And the ideal smoth backdoor man."

@NervesOfCotton what a catch! 😂

best one I found was:

“swipe right if: you aren’t a woke bitch. Guys just want a simple no nonsense girl who doesn’t fuck around and mindfuck guys for their own insecurities.

non negotiables: no hoes or divorcees”

Absolute gold 😂

Ah, ahahahahahahhahahahaahaaaaaaaaa 😂

What a catch - why is this absolute peach of a man single?

Though at least he’s honest

Just seen one looking for a woman who wants to be orally worshipped on a weekly basis with no commitment or meet ups outside bedroom.

Obviously obligatory photo with tongue out

It’s weird as FEELD app behaviours in terms of sexual desires seems to be passing over into more conventional apps

id love to see how these oral worshippers are in RL
and do they actually get any ?
I kind of reckon they work in a grey office in slough and havnt seen a fanny for a while

my winner was ‘thigh gaps mandatory’

Thisisworsethananticpated &
SamW98 I remember one way back when I first started OLD, his profile simply said 'My dick cums quick so I like to please a lady with my tongue' & I felt a mixture of 'Well. At least he's getting straight to the point!' & 'WTF!'

cytase I hope it goes well!

I've not had a single message/reply to a message on Cupid. My original one, I'm having small chats, but leading nowhere. Bumble still horrifically awful. Got one chat going but he kept obsessing over my username weirdly!

Him - 'So why are you called that?'
Me - 'It's a lyric from this song I love & I thought it was fitting for this situation'

Him - 'But why though? What does it mean? Do you actually know what it means? I don't think I understand. Have you googled it? What if your interpretation is wrong?

I gave up at that point. First woman ever to not have their name as their username apparently, that's me

Hi, I’ve been off and on dating apps for a few months. I find them quite tedious, men message then disappear then arrange a date and disappear.

I’ve tried bumble, hinge & tinder. Any other recommendations??

Have you tried match @Nelly10 ?

I’ve not used it myself but 2 of my friends met their husbands on it

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

but also - does he get ANY responses?

RadiantRainbow I imagine he will get snapped up pretty quickly