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Nursery staff making my son sick?

217 replies

Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:12

This might sound so dark/strange, but I have gut intuition here that the current setting my son is at, is making him sick.. literally vomit..

A bit of background - we have decided to keep my son on into the prep school, he will
start reception from sept and they don’t want him to (some of the staff) there is a 3 is a crowd scenario with my son and another boy who’s mum is a teacher..

i think a few things have happened and they haven’t told me - the nursery staff are so clicky and awful.. but right now he has a few friends and seems relatively happy..

we have no other option as we don’t live close by to any other school/s unless we move home..

I have spoken with them and they keep saying everything is ok.. since accepting a place in Reception - he has been sick multiple times and had a frequent fever - I am having him checked at the hospital..

what on earth do I do?!

I don’t have trust right now.. do I pull him out? We stand to lose a place and don’t have anything else..

it’s a major safeguarding issue that I feel is at play.. but I have nothing to prove at all.. only teaching assistants avoiding me at pick up.. no idea what has happened..

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Humanswarm · 24/05/2023 08:18

If you have any safe guarding fears whatsoever, you remove him.
You will find an alternative. It's really that simple.

Dacadactyl · 24/05/2023 08:19

Remove him. At once.

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:21

I wanna get them.. I want them to be reprimanded..

how can I prove? How can I get investigation? NSPCC? Safeguarding agency?

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Motnight · 24/05/2023 08:23

Op what do you think is happening to make your son sick?

FloweryName · 24/05/2023 08:24

What? Do you think nursery staff are deliberately poisoning your child?

Dacadactyl · 24/05/2023 08:25

The reason I say remove him is because your gut is telling you somethings not right. I would not leave a small child in any situation, where I as the adult felt something was wrong in my gut.

However, without more info...nothing in your post screams abuse. Kids get ill and have fevers. You say yourself he seems happy there.

I think you would need more to go on before reporting anything, because as it stands there is nothing to report.

If you are concerned, call the NSPCC for advice.

KateyCuckoo · 24/05/2023 08:26

I'm unsure how they can be giving him a fever? Could you explain how you think they are making him sick?

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:26

Yes I do!!

I have no idea how this is happening but I’m on a WhatsApp with other parents and no other child has had fever or has sick in the past 3 months as much as my son.. he’s had so much time off..

this never happened before.. clicky vibes started about 5 months ago..

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Wnikat · 24/05/2023 08:26

If you think they are poisoning your son, which you must if you think they have somehow given him fevers, then you should report them to the police

maybe ask the Gp if your son is actually just ill first before accusing nursery staff of GBH

MichelleScarn · 24/05/2023 08:27

Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:21

I wanna get them.. I want them to be reprimanded..

how can I prove? How can I get investigation? NSPCC? Safeguarding agency?

So it's actually about 'getting them'? For what? Like pp has said do you actually think the staff are poisoning your child?

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:27

Something to do with his water or food..? I know this sounds far fetched but I do honestly feel something is going on…

I just don’t know how to approach this…

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:28

Yes I honestly think something is going on.. I don’t know how or what but I know..

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Dacadactyl · 24/05/2023 08:28

Do you struggle with anxiety in general OP?

LunaBlueSkies · 24/05/2023 08:29

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JandalsAlways · 24/05/2023 08:30

Simple. Get a toxicology report. Then pull him out ffs, you can't keep your child somewhere if you think he's being harmed! Get him out immediately.

GrazingSheep · 24/05/2023 08:31

If you believe they are poisoning him then you have no choice but to move him.

Sirzy · 24/05/2023 08:35

The trust has gone so I don’t get why you are planning on leaving him there.

but please do think twice before throwing around accusations which are based on nothing more than you being paranoid. I would speak to your GP about your concerns about your sons health and maybe the impact they are having on you

Gazelda · 24/05/2023 08:36

Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:21

I wanna get them.. I want them to be reprimanded..

how can I prove? How can I get investigation? NSPCC? Safeguarding agency?

Surely your first priority is to get your child safe? Take him out and then 'get them'.

I really don't understand why you think the nursery staff don't want your child to go to reception though. Do you think they're trying to get you to remove him and send him to a different prep?

There must be another school you can send him to?

RiaOverTheRainbow · 24/05/2023 08:37

Some children's immune systems produce a fever in response to any minor illness, it seems far more likely that your son is simply prone to fevers than that the nursery staff are somehow inducing them.

But if you think it plausible that the staff would actively harm your son you can't send him back there, even once.

Namechangeforthisreason · 24/05/2023 08:39

Ok so my advice would be
-make a chronology of events
-Get him seen by a gp asap
-remove from nursery asap
-make a referral to SS

I’ve actually been falsely accused of FII (munchausens) in the past and this is what I’m basing my advice on

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:40

How do I get a paediatric toxicology test? I’m looking on Google..

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Whinge · 24/05/2023 08:40

I'm also shocked you won't remove him. That's the first thing you would do if you suspected someone was deliberately harming your child.

Also what's more likely

1 - Many members of staff collaborating and covering up for each other to deliberately make your child sick, because friendship issues mean they don't want him to attend the school any more.

2 - Your child has just had an unusually unlucky bad run of being ill.

DanceMonster · 24/05/2023 08:43

You genuinely, honestly think the staff at the nursery are risking criminal charges and prison to keep your child out of school because of friendship issues?

LunaBlueSkies · 24/05/2023 08:45

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Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:40

How do I get a paediatric toxicology test? I’m looking on Google..

you don’t

you approach the relevant authorities and they investigate