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Nursery staff making my son sick?

217 replies

Thefirstime · 24/05/2023 08:12

This might sound so dark/strange, but I have gut intuition here that the current setting my son is at, is making him sick.. literally vomit..

A bit of background - we have decided to keep my son on into the prep school, he will
start reception from sept and they don’t want him to (some of the staff) there is a 3 is a crowd scenario with my son and another boy who’s mum is a teacher..

i think a few things have happened and they haven’t told me - the nursery staff are so clicky and awful.. but right now he has a few friends and seems relatively happy..

we have no other option as we don’t live close by to any other school/s unless we move home..

I have spoken with them and they keep saying everything is ok.. since accepting a place in Reception - he has been sick multiple times and had a frequent fever - I am having him checked at the hospital..

what on earth do I do?!

I don’t have trust right now.. do I pull him out? We stand to lose a place and don’t have anything else..

it’s a major safeguarding issue that I feel is at play.. but I have nothing to prove at all.. only teaching assistants avoiding me at pick up.. no idea what has happened..

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ApolloandDaphne · 24/05/2023 09:02

The nursery staff are very unlikely to be poisoning your child or making him unwell. The more logical explanation is that he has just had a run of poor health. It happens. If you don't trust the staff then remove him by all means but please don't start making baseless accusations with absolute no proof that anything sinister is going on.

Namechangeforthisreason · 24/05/2023 09:03

Alargeoneplease89 · 24/05/2023 09:00

Do you not think it could be a much simpler answer. My child was always ill at nursery in comparison to other kids and it was because we don't have a huge social circle and therefore was more prone to illness because she didn't really socialise with other children outside of nursery or maybe he's becoming gluten/milk intolerant etc .

I think its insane you think someone is poisoning your child and you continue to send them.

We actually had the almost reverse of this situation- nursery thought my child was ill and off too much and didn’t have the SEN we said he did . They reported me for FII and we had to be investigated after there was a disagreement one day (about snack fees of all things ) it does happen

romdowa · 24/05/2023 09:06

There's very little chance that they are poisoning your child in spite. I mean the risks are huge. If you truly believe this then you need to see a Dr ASAP. You don't sound very well mentally tbh

Neodymium · 24/05/2023 09:09

Recurring fever at that age could be a sign of infection. I would suspect a urinary tract infection - especially if he is uncircumcised. Boys that age can get recurrent utis. They don’t always have other symptoms either. I think that is far more likely than someone poisoning your son.

Cantstaystuckforever · 24/05/2023 09:11

If you truly believe they would be poisoning him then you need to take him out immediately and go to the doctor today. Not googling about how to get a toxicology report, but calling your gp asap.

If you are more focussed on the 'getting them' you mentioned, or if you are feeling this way about other things, you need to get yourself to a gp, as this is not a healthy way to be thinking - you clearly care a lot about your son and owe it to him as well as yourself to keep yourself mentally well.

Lidale · 24/05/2023 09:11

So let me get this straight

You think your child is being poisoned but instead of doing the normal responsible thing and taking them out of harms way....

You'd rather continue with them in the nursery to catch the staff out.

Yh not buying it at all op. Your either a troll or need serious help about your irrational thoughts and anxiety

ladydimitrescu · 24/05/2023 09:12

What?? Kids get unwell constantly in nursery/primary, those places are breeding grounds for germs.
You honestly think your son is being poisoned because it's a competitive school, he's bright, they avoid you, and he's having friendship issues?
Op, they likely avoid you because you come across a certain way - I don't mean offence by this, but if you believe your child is being poisoned by staff, you most likely don't come across well.
If you genuinely believe this why are you continuing to send him?
You need to pull him out, sent him elsewhere and get some help for yourself.
I don't believe he's being made sick, but you can't keep him there now because you will never trust it and it's going to damage you and your child in the long run if this continues.
Take yourself and your child to the GP today and tell them exactly what you've said here.

user1492757084 · 24/05/2023 09:13

Take your son to his GP and explain how YOU have feelings of him being poisoned at childcare as a result of him being sickly so often. Ask for a thorough check of his health and make sure his vaccinations are up todate. Discuss allergies too.
Ask the DR to also check you for unwarranted anxiety.
You seem a bit overly suspicious and paranoid.

Tiswa · 24/05/2023 09:13

It is far more likely that he needs to see a doctor to work out if there is an underlying infection that is still there. Is is tonsil/throat based as a swab should help.
DS had it and it needed 2 weeks of really strong antibiotics.

and remove him the relationship has clearly broken down between you

CindersAgain · 24/05/2023 09:14

Why do you think they are poisoning him? I mean, what are they hoping to achieve?

CindersAgain · 24/05/2023 09:16

Also, the nursery staff being ‘clicky’, presume you mean cliquey, but they work together, what do you expect?

FernGully43 · 24/05/2023 09:17

You think the nursery are poisoning your son but you won't remove him? I'd quit my job before I sent my child somewhere that I felt that uncomfortable with. Why on earth would you keep sending him?

kirinm · 24/05/2023 09:19

If you genuinely fear this is happening, you wouldn't or at least shouldn't be allowing your child there.

Some kids are simply more prone to sickness. Unhelpfully during covid, my then 2 year old was constantly sick and it meant we were endlessly forced to do tests that she hated. It didn't occur to me once that her nursery could be doing anything to her.

And then now she's in reception she's only has one fever and managed to avoid the scarlet fever / strep B furore that happened before Christmas.

If your son is going to be going to school in September, surely he can tell you if anything is going on? The poisoning is frankly insane and you are talking about serious criminal charges.

CabernetSauvignon · 24/05/2023 09:20

Would you actually lose the reception place if you took your son out of nursery now?

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rainbowstardrops · 24/05/2023 09:24

Lidale · 24/05/2023 09:11

So let me get this straight

You think your child is being poisoned but instead of doing the normal responsible thing and taking them out of harms way....

You'd rather continue with them in the nursery to catch the staff out.

Yh not buying it at all op. Your either a troll or need serious help about your irrational thoughts and anxiety

Absolutely

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 24/05/2023 09:24

Well I never!

Rosabellll · 24/05/2023 09:24

Righttt... Hmm

Thegoodbadandugly · 24/05/2023 09:26

Why would the teaching assistants avoid you? Sounds like there's probably a back story here. As for your child being ill all the time children pick up absolutely everything at that age.

Anoushkaka · 24/05/2023 09:27

You are making very serious allegations with no proof whatsoever.

Your not in the "clique" so want to "get" the nursery staff.

MMMarmite · 24/05/2023 09:27

Gently, while not impossible, this sounds very unusual. Another possibility is that you are experiencing paranoia symptoms. Do you have any mental health issues in your background, or any major life changes recently? It may be that you need extra mental health support.

If it were me I would try to speak to some calm and supportive adults in real life, including a sensible health care professional, talk through my worries and get a few other opinions.

Thegoodbadandugly · 24/05/2023 09:28

Having read your further responses you sound a bit paranoid you may have to visit the GP and get some help.

GoodChat · 24/05/2023 09:30

Is it not much more likely he's allergic to something they're using in food if he's regularly vomiting?

Tumbleweed101 · 24/05/2023 09:35

It is unlikely anyone is deliberately poisoning your child. However, if he could have autism does he eat or lick objects that aren't food? Pica does tend to come hand in hand with autism and we have had children we have to watch very closely as they will eat odd things including seeds/plants in the garden or play products inside. Or just lick surfaces that may not be clean such as fencing. Just a thought and it may be worth talking to a manager at the school about any behaviours that might have been noticed. Otherwise perhaps a Dr visit to see if anything underlying is going on.

Mirabai · 24/05/2023 09:36

OP, kindly - you get in touch with mental health services. Please contact your GP asap and outline your concerns about your child.

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